A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[BeachChica]

Sooperhans - welcome!!!
So sorry for your losses but you've come to the right place! One piece of advice I can give your for TTC is to wait a bit between MC's. I know it's hard but there could be some issues in there that caused the MC in the first place and you may need a couple cycles to get that all cleared out and build back up your lining. I have had 4 MC's and one of them in particular was right after a MC (by accident)... that one ended very quickly. I don't think my body was ready for it. So don't stress and I would give your body at least 2 cycles in between.

As for the secrecy, I know what you mean but I think people get shocked when you have the multiple MC's and they don't know how to react to it. They know you're upset about it and don't want to upset you more by passing on the news. I think they just feel that you will tell people when you are ready.

Well good luck, I think we will get our BFP's eventually, until then, at least we have the support of girls that understand!

 

[bluesgirl]

Hi there i am new to this forum. i have had 4 mc in thd last year. all within the furst 5 weeks. i gzve niw been referedto lindons st marys so waiting on the letter now. i am 38 so aware the clock is ticking. Apparently i am one in 100 that has over 3 mc. i have put hold on trying as it is takin over my life and making me a bit bitter i dont want to be like that. i wish you luck and wish you good news soon. what stage did you have your mc?

 

[bluesgirl]

I have just had my period todat the first as my last mc was last month. i had what looked like an egg similar to what i passed last month? have you had that. i wonder whether it was another one cant believe how hard it is i had all the test and all is well the docs just say it is bad luck! They can say thst agsin

 

[bluesgirl]

Hey i am new too and nearly the same as you. i have had 4 mc in the last year and also have had some really insensitive comments. iam interested in what you said about the progesterone. i was given some last month although my hcg had only risen a tiny bit in 48hrs so think they were too late with it and i consequently had the mc. i still have some left though. when did your doc advise you to take yours? also can somebody help with all the abbreiviations. af ?

 

[BeachChica]

Hi bluesgirl - welcome and sorry for your losses. Are you able to see my signature? (not sure if you are checking this on your phone). I have had 4 losses in a 13 month period: MMC 12/9/10 (11 + 6), MC 3/14/11 (5 + 3), MMC 5/12/11 (8 + 2) MC 1/3/12 (10 + 2).

Here's a link to some of the pregnancy abbreviations and lingo: https://www.babyandbump.com/forum-help-testing-area/730-babyandbump-lingo-abbreviations.html

AF stands for Aunt Flo which is used to refer to your period or menstruation.

 

[Sooperhans]

Patiently, I'm sorry you are 2 years into ttc and I hope you get your positive result v v soon! And it must be v bittersweet with your sister's pregnancy, I don't know how I would feel in the same situation, you are very brave x

It's hard for those to understand including family and I try to discuss it when I can but I think my parents find it painful to think I'm going through this and resort to la la la everything is fine. Thank you everyone for your thoughts on this and the main thing I need to remember is they don't mean to upset me, it's just awkward isn't it?

I've just had that heavy, achey type feeling that makes me think AF is on her way but 2 weeks into feeling like this, I don't know when this'll be. Hopefully soon...

Floridagirl, sorry for your losses and thank you for your info on progesterone. That's awful that you were given the wrong, lower*dosage and it caused you problems, I'm so pleased it was all rectified for you in the end and in time. And twins, that's fantastic! My dad is a twin and they are still close at their age. It's such a blessing. I have been prescribed Crinone 8%, which is 90mg, I hope this is enough. Do you mind telling me what your previous progesterone levels were, when they came up as low?

Bluesgirl, sorry for your losses and hugs to you. My doc said to take my progesterone from cd18 after I've had AF after my mc. Which I'm still waiting for...

Oh Beach, I'm sorry for all you are going through, the list your specialist gave you ranges across very different paths that you could take - did they recommend one over any of the others? If you were to do ivf I so hope your insurance covers it. It is good that you are having further testing and I hope it gives you results that can help you make your decision. Thank you for your advice and am waiting for this cycle before deciding what to do, but in my heart I would like to try again after AF is out of the way and my body has had a bit of a break. I have my fx for all of you too and hope everyone has lovely w/es lined up xx

 

[FloridaGirl21]

first monitored round my progesterone was 6.5, 2nd round was 5.4, they should have been at least 15 post-O

 

[patiently]

Sooperhans if the dr's have said its ok then i think do what you feel to do. If you want to try again then try again if you want to wait then wait. Everyone is different and i feel as that so long as there is nothing medically preventing you from ttc again then things will be fine. So many women catch the egg right after a mc and you are waiting for one anyway. FXed for us all!!! come on bfp's!!! x

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you Floridagirl and Patiently. My thoughts exactly, here's to our bfps just around the corner! X

 

[Sooperhans]

Think I've just worked out the icons! Lots to everyone***

 

[lexi374]

Welcome sooperhans, sorry for your losses, hopefully it will be 3rd time lucky for you.

Do you temp at all, only asking as your doc told you to take progesterone from day 18 but if you havent already ovd by then it will stop you oving all together.

Also if your thyroid is not under control im pretty sure this can be a cause of miscarriages.

Welcome bluesgirl sorry for your losses too, i thnik you are in good hands with st marys though ive read lots of good hings about them.

Beach i dont know what to suggest... have they ever found any reason for your losses? Have you had all the testing? Sorry for asking, you have probably already said.

It would be awful to go through ivf and have the same thing happen again, would they be prepared to try you on meds in the hope of making it stick? Predisolone, heparin, progesterone??

Patiently have you tested?!?

Florida, nsn, lady, ntat, jw, pink, aj, marie, ayc, inoue, and any1 i forgot sorry. Hope everyone has a nice weekend x

 

[patiently]

Hey lexi how are you have been thinking of you hope you are ok. I haven't tested again, I did at 8dpo the day i fainted and bfn so i refuse to test again i hate to see one line. lol! Im just going to wait until wednesday and if no AF then i will test. Really hope i do get a bfp! wouldn't that be great and my OH will be away but would love to give him the news in the week that he's doing something he loves. It will be like all his xmas' came at once! He has been constantly on my mind throughout the day though really feel like ive fallen in love with him again. Been having some really racy dreams about him too! naughty naughty! lol...

 

[lexi374]

Well i looked at your chart today and i have a good feeling for you.....

Fair play for not testing, i hate seeing white spaces, unfortunately i have to test early from now on as i need to start the steroids asap, but i would prefer to wait it out than see bfn.

Im ok thanks for asking, im thinking ill probably ov next weekend...

I would love to catch straight away, im so sick of waiting for that bfp all the time!

Good luck to you

 

[patiently]

Thanks so much lexi i hope you're right FXed! I didn't know you had to test early but i guess testing early and testing late both have their pros and cons. At least testing early you cut the waiting time. That's the thing about ttc its the DAMN waiting that drives me crazy. But after a loss your fertility is higher so i'd say you're in with a good chance!! and as you had an early loss i do think your body will be back to normal and you will o'v when expected. Have you been BD? will you be BD this week at all? hang on in there lovely you will get there ALL OF US WILL! GL this cycle! sending lots of sticky baby dust your way x x x x

 

[BeachChica]

Lexi - they have never been able to find a reason for my losses. I have all of the genetic testing etc (OH too) and everything has come back normal. My doctor said after my 3rd loss that he just feels its bad luck. Loss #3 was tested and was due to Trisomy 12. Loss #4 could not be tested for some reason. I would hope that if I go the IVF route they would try everything possible to get it to stick. I can't remember but what plan on your on. I see you are at 4 losses too. Sorry if you already told me, I have been reading so much.

Patiently - I am so happy you are feeling love between you again and even having naughty thoughts Its so nice to hear after all you have been though. I have everything crossed that this is your month!!!

AFM - just waiting for AF to arrive. I have that heavy feeling that she is coming but I am still waiting. My chart was all over the place this month so who knows what's going on. I am not even sure when I O'd.

 

[lexi374]

Beach we had all the usual testing too, and everything was normal. Never had any tissue tested though so dont know about that.

I also paid to have nk cells test and this came back high so will be on prednisolone from bfp, and also progesterone. As the last prgnancy ended so quickly i never really got a chance to see if meds worked, so will definately try again. I didnt have a good feeling about the last 1 from the offset.

I hope they will be able to try you with as many things as possible to make bean stick, ask loads of questions before you make up your mind.

Patiently havent started bd yet but will this weekend, hopefully every other day and then maybe everyday towards next weekend. FX for you!!!

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks Lexi! I have my binder ready to ask lots of questions. Right now I am leaning towards trying 1 more time using the progesterone earlier before trying IVF. Last pregnancy I was on progesterone but I started it very late (about week 7) due to come problems with my insurance etc. This time my doctor said he would start me on it 3 DPO. I did have borderline/low progesterone this last pregnancy. I have never been tested for the high NK cells. I have mentioned it to two different doctors and they shrug it off saying that there is no evidence to show that this test is useful.

I would be curious now to see how many people have had 4 losses or more and ended up having success and what they did to get there. Maybe we should start another thread to see!!

By the way, you should add a link to your chart so we can start stalking it!!!

 

[lexi374]

Yeah it would be interesting to know, and what they did differently this time if they had success.

Yep 7 weeks would def be too late, a lot of docs here dont believe in nk cells or progesterone to help, my gp being 1 of them!

How do i post a link??

UK ladies frer twin packs are buy 1 get 1 free in superdrug at the mo, so you get 4 tests for £10.49!! Bargin!

 

[BeachChica]

Lexi - when you reply there is a little box in the tool bar (looks like a globe and paperclip) that you use to post a link.

 

[lexi374]

Its ok i worked it out i think.