A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Sooperhans]

New - HALLELUJAH!!!!!! :-D

 

[wookie130]

New, I second the "hallelujah!"

 

[patiently]

NTAT wooooooowwww!!! im so excited for you. Im actually doing the worm and the robot for you! this is amazing news so thrilled or you.

Emmadiva I have no idea whats wrong with her. she does seek attention so much. For everything actually she lies about articular events too just to get people to feel sorry for her. I think she is just unhappy with her life so she looks to others to make her feel better about it. I know she must be finding things hard now as her baby's father wants nothing to do with her. I am not surprised though he does his own thing and they were never in a relationship. If she wants sympathy this is not the way to get it and certainly not from me so i will be keeping my distance from her. I think perhaps she could be bi polar but i wont be the one to inform her about it. I do really wash my hands.

Sooper i dont even know if i will go away I really need a holiday but i have just started a new course and am so motivated i dont know if i should take time away. I will see how i feel in the next coming weeks. I had a quick look at your chart and maybe you ovulated cd 20? Your temp has risen quite high and has stayed that way for a few days now. What do you think? I bd the exact same days in accordance to o'v day as you and got my BFP so Baby dust to you and hope you catch the egg hun x x x

 

[Sooperhans]

Patiently thanks for looking, I think you could be right and hope my temps stay high now, hoping that it doesn't matter that I've started the progesterone on day 20 as the doc instructed, as it won't be 4 dpo as planned, just hope there aren't any adverse effects...

That's encouraging, I hope to get a bfp very soon, would be really exciting xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Boo my long message disappeared!!

Yes Beach, in laws went fairly early after a lovely evening dining outside and so the bd was able to commence And it seems I'm getting a consistently rising temp now, yay.

How exciting you have a big European trip lined up, do you think you would want to ttc before if you can and is there anything you'll do differently as a result of the testing? Otherwise it would be cool to make a Euro baby!

Sooper - Yeah for the BDing! Your chart is looking good, I think if your temps are still up tomorrow you will get crosshairs showing O on CD 20 so its good you got some in! Also, you can log your progesterone on FF too

I am ready to start TTC now but I don't want to have a MC overseas (terrible we have to think that way, isn't it!!??) So I need to be either early pregnant there or wait, just to be sure. I am going to check with my doc. I probably won't do anything different this time other than the progesterone, but I don't know if he'll want me away that long without being monitored.

We'll see.

 

[BeachChica]

NTAL I bet you were never more excited for that damn witch to arrive!!! What now? Can you start trying. Seems like your body has had plenty time to recoop after all that time huh!?

 

[KatM]

Hi Ladies,

I have read through the last 3 months of posts and would love to join you all, although under sad circumstances. I like how supportive you are towards one another. This will be my first RPL thread. I have just been lurking on different loss threads since my 2nd MC.

Congrats on all the new pregnancies!!! This makes me feel hopeful. I also enjoy seeing that many of the original posters are now far along in their pregnancies.

Patiently, sorry that sometimes when it rains it pours. My heart goes out to you even though we have never corresponded. I send you light and hope you are doing nice things for yourself.

AFM, I have had two losses in a row. The first was a blighted ovum. I got pregnant straight away and that one didn't even make it to a scan. I lost the 2nd at only 5 weeks.
I switched Drs and am hoping the new Dr will be willing to do some tests. I see him on Monday. He is known for being proactive when it comes to helping women have babies. My old Dr just took the "it's bad luck" stance. I am almost 35 and TTC#1.
DH and I NTNP this month, so I have no idea where I am in my cycle. I did not want to explicitly prevent PG, but am scared to be PG at the same time. We will be on holiday the entire month of May in Europe (I'm from the States) and am scared of MC while abroad. Oh well, I don't intend to let fear rule my life. It will be challenging to remain calm and hopeful during the next PG. Thanks for including me.

 

[patiently]

Hi Kat and welcome to this thread. I am so sorry for both your losses The ladies here are fantastic and really supportive when no one else is. I try to stay away from this thread as im not ttc yet but its so hard when everyone is so lovely. When was your last loss? I hope that you get your BFP really soon. I know the months that i got mine was when i gave up. My last bfp i stressed so much until what i thought was o'v day then i gave up. I ovulated late but wasnt even sure if i did and Bam! BFP! so maybe your relaxed approach will be good. Thank you for your lovely words. The fear of pregnancy is only natural after a loss and even more so after two. I know i was scared about everything, but im sure things will be fine THIRD TIME LUCKY! Good luck hun sending you lots of baby dust x

 

[KatM]

Hi Kat and welcome to this thread. I am so sorry for both your losses The ladies here are fantastic and really supportive when no one else is. I try to stay away from this thread as im not ttc yet but its so hard when everyone is so lovely. When was your last loss? I hope that you get your BFP really soon. I know the months that i got mine was when i gave up. My last bfp i stressed so much until what i thought was o'v day then i gave up. I ovulated late but wasnt even sure if i did and Bam! BFP! so maybe your relaxed approach will be good. Thank you for your lovely words. The fear of pregnancy is only natural after a loss and even more so after two. I know i was scared about everything, but im sure things will be fine THIRD TIME LUCKY! Good luck hun sending you lots of baby dust x

Hi Patiently,
Thank you for the warm welcome. It's good that you stay on this thread and receive love and support even if you are not currently TTC.
My last loss was March 6th. By the time I started bleeding, my HCG was already down to 12. The Dr. said we could try straight away again.

This is only meant to be helpful, even though it may not be... From your posts it seemed like your last pregnancy might have been sticky if it implanted in the right spot. That seems, to me, hopeful that you will have a sticky pregnancy with everything doubling as it should when it implants properly. I know it doesn't make anything better. It's also a relief that you kept your tube and discovered the EP early. Please stay here and get continued support. Sorry for all the strain with your sisters.

 

[patiently]

Kat you have made my day lol. I was also feeling a bit more positive as my numbers were progressing so normally so i really do think that if it implanted in the right place everything would've been good. Well hopefully in a few months it will be in my uterus and my numbers will still progress nicely. I've never seen a heartbeat or an actual baby in my womb in an ultrasound so that will be the biggest milestone for me!

Im so sorry for your very recent loss hun. I know this might not help but i think that you will be 3rd time lucky, your losses were for different reasons so i dont think this reflects a problem with ttc or having a baby it could have been a case of "bad luck" but i do think all will be ok next bfp, and maybe that bfp will reveal itself in the next few days. Good luck hun. Have you been having any symptoms?

Hi to everyone else. Lexi how are you hun? hope your good! x

 

[BeachChica]

Kat- welcome to the thread, and I am so sorry for your losses!
You and I are in the same boat with the vacation. I too will be in Europe for about 3 weeks in May. I think my doctor will tell me at my next appt that I can start trying next month (he has not been quite as leinient letting me TTC straight after a MC) but after 4 losses I REALLY don't want to have a MC overseas!

Where will do be on your trip? We may be going to the same spots! We will be in Barcelona for 6 days and then taking a 12 night Med cruise

 

[KatM]

Kat you have made my day lol. I was also feeling a bit more positive as my numbers were progressing so normally so i really do think that if it implanted in the right place everything would've been good. Well hopefully in a few months it will be in my uterus and my numbers will still progress nicely. I've never seen a heartbeat or an actual baby in my womb in an ultrasound so that will be the biggest milestone for me!

Im so sorry for your very recent loss hun. I know this might not help but i think that you will be 3rd time lucky, your losses were for different reasons so i dont think this reflects a problem with ttc or having a baby it could have been a case of "bad luck" but i do think all will be ok next bfp, and maybe that bfp will reveal itself in the next few days. Good luck hun. Have you been having any symptoms?

Hi to everyone else. Lexi how are you hun? hope your good! x

Hi Hon, I am so happy that I could brighten your day in anway. You deserve it. I have never seen a heartbeat or an actualy baby either. Hopefully soon for both of us. The most I saw was an empty sac.

I hope it is just a case of bad luck for both of us. I have purposely NOT been symptom spotting. As a matter of fact, I grew concerned of being pregnant as that would mean if I MC again, I would be betwen 9-13weeks while in Europe. I doubt my US health insurance covers Europe. I know this is very negative thinking, and after having 2 MC this is where my head goes. Oh well, it is too late as we did not prevent. I will let fate take it's course.

On the other hand, if this were to be a sticky bean, by the time we came home I would be over the most high risk hurdle and would be super distracted on holiday. We will see.

Kat- welcome to the thread, and I am so sorry for your losses!
You and I are in the same boat with the vacation. I too will be in Europe for about 3 weeks in May. I think my doctor will tell me at my next appt that I can start trying next month (he has not been quite as leinient letting me TTC straight after a MC) but after 4 losses I REALLY don't want to have a MC overseas!

Where will do be on your trip? We may be going to the same spots! We will be in Barcelona for 6 days and then taking a 12 night Med cruise

Thank you for the warm welcome BeachChica. I love the beach and cannot wait till DH and I move back to SoCal. I am so over Austin, TX. I can totally relate to NOT wanting to MC while overseas. It may be pessimistic, and after RPL it is only natural that this is our line of thinking.

To answer the question about my holiday:

DH and I will be flying into Athens, Greece at the end of April. From there we will board the newest Oceania Cruise ship with the 5 star restaurants. We picked this because it is supposed to have the best food. Yum, we love to eat.

We will then sail as follows:
Santorinia, Greece
Ephesus, Turkey
Sicily
Amalfi
Rome
Florence
Provence, France
Barcelona

We will then debark and spend time in Barcelona for the hubby's Bday. We will then rent a car and wing it along the coast of France and all around Italy. We LOVE Italy and will most likely spend most of our time around Florence, our favorite. We will be there for our 2nd wedding anniversary and then back to the States June 1st I believe.

So.... it looks like we are hitting a lot of the same spots. I am so excited for you!!! Just what we need, some R&R. I'm so sorry for your losses hon. 2 has been challenging enough.

 

[BeachChica]

Kat - we will be at some of the same spots! We will be on the Celebrity Solstice coming back to the U.S. on June 4th. I wanted to do the cruise that went to Greece but DH's parents will be with us and had already done that itinerary.

Here's where I'll be:

Barcelona, Spain
Nice, France
Livorno, Italy (Florence)
Civitavecchia (Rome), Italy
Naples, Italy
Kotor, Serbia and Montenegro
Venice, Italy
Dubrovnik, Croatia
Barcelona, Spain

 

[wookie130]

Hey Kat! I'm kind of a newbie to this thread too, and have also have 2 losses in a row...mine were 6 months apart, however. I am almost 34, and am trying to have my first child. I too am in the "2nd miscarriage" limbo of not really knowing what's going on, as I have not yet had the 3rd miscarriage, which traditionally gives the green light for doctors to do testing. They often don't test after the 2nd miscarriage, and treat it like bad luck.

Let's hope we both are third-time lucky! I am now on baby aspirin, taking a b-50 complex with my prenatal, and take OTC progesterone cream in my luteal phase.

 

[KatM]

Kat - we will be at some of the same spots! We will be on the Celebrity Solstice coming back to the U.S. on June 4th. I wanted to do the cruise that went to Greece but DH's parents will be with us and had already done that itinerary.

Here's where I'll be:

Barcelona, Spain
Nice, France
Livorno, Italy (Florence)
Civitavecchia (Rome), Italy
Naples, Italy
Kotor, Serbia and Montenegro
Venice, Italy
Dubrovnik, Croatia
Barcelona, Spain

Sounds like so much fun!!! I can't believe you are going with your in-laws. Mine would drive me CRAZY. They are super nice, but we are nothing alike.

Hey Kat! I'm kind of a newbie to this thread too, and have also have 2 losses in a row...mine were 6 months apart, however. I am almost 34, and am trying to have my first child. I too am in the "2nd miscarriage" limbo of not really knowing what's going on, as I have not yet had the 3rd miscarriage, which traditionally gives the green light for doctors to do testing. They often don't test after the 2nd miscarriage, and treat it like bad luck.

Let's hope we both are third-time lucky! I am now on baby aspirin, taking a b-50 complex with my prenatal, and take OTC progesterone cream in my luteal phase.

Hi Wookie,
I'm sorry you are in the same boat as me. I am 34 currently, almost 35. I know the pressure is on us a bit.
I bought baby aspirin, but have been afraid to take it without talking to my new Dr. However, everything I read looks like a green light for baby aspirin. I plan on starting it as soon as I get another BFP as long as my Dr says it is okay. I will have my blood drawn for hormone testing, I hope, on Monday when I see the new Dr. My old Dr did nothing at all after 2 losses. This is why I switched to someone known for being proactive. He is very catholic and wants women to populate the earth, lol.

Let's both hope that mumbo jumbo, unprofessional speak of "bad luck" really is indeed the case for both of us. We are a bit more mature and I know this puts us more at risk. The good news is that means it really could be flukes and at our age we still have a lot of high quality eggs from what I read. Plus, we all know women in their 40's can get pregnant and have healthy babies.



Patiently,
I hope there has been something bright in your day that put a smile on your face.

AFM, my gum had some slight bleeding in one area when I flossed. This only usually happens when preggars. I wasn't excited at all. DH was shocked, but I told him my fears of MC while in Europe. It is hard to get excited over a BFP unless it sticks. I won't count it unless I see a heartbeat for the 1st time. It's not a great attitude, yet I believe it to be practical.

 

[wookie130]

Kat, I know exactly how you feel...I'm going to have a hard time feeling any excitement for my 3rd BFP either...not until I'm as huge as a beached whale, the baby's kicking, and I've had 20 ultrasounds!

 

[KatM]

Kat, I know exactly how you feel...I'm going to have a hard time feeling any excitement for my 3rd BFP either...not until I'm as huge as a beached whale, the baby's kicking, and I've had 20 ultrasounds!

You made me laugh. Feels good to laugh. I sincerely hope that we enjoy our pregnancies after a certain point, and it is understandable if we don't. Baby dust to you.

 

[lexi374]

Hey everyone!

Finally i can connect to b n b again!! After 2 weeks or so looks like i have got loads to catch up! So will try and have a read back this weekend.

So for now welcome to the new ladies sorry you find yourselves here, and to the 'old' ladies, hope everyone is ok.

Afm was scan day yest for the girl at work and my other close friend, all was ok they are both due in October, and my other close friend is September, so 3 within a month! 2 of which i work with.

Cd 10 for me will start bd this weekend, i think my chance of a 2012 is probably out the window now.
Only 4 days at work next week then i have a week off! we are tarting up the kitchen a bit so at least ive had something other than to think off.

Right will try and catch up a bit now x

 

[BeachChica]

Kat- LOL yes the in-laws might be driving me crazy after this trip, we'll see. but I can't really complain as they invited us on this trip to do something nice for us after my year of MC's (and paid for the whole trip). My concoction of pills also includes baby aspirin and RE says it OK to take all the time and is actually good for you.

By the way, I will be 39 next month and still TTC #1. I did have my Day 3 FSH done last month though and everything came back normal. The doctor says that my quality and quantity of eggs are still good.

Lexi- happy

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper- I see that FF finally marked O for you I am so glad you got the BDing on Cd 20 as it shows O on Cd 21!!!!