A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Sooperhans]

Thank you Beach! I'm getting myself all anxious about it and it's affecting my sleep where I keep waking up and anticipating the temping, only to realise it's 2am...and that happens every hour thereafter....sigh. I'm usually a 29 day cycle and the doc told me to test on day 29, if neg come off and if pos stay on the prog. Except I'm day 20 and haven't even started it! And now I'm thinking my stressing is probably delaying it. It really helps seeing other charts, you're right, there's a definite continuous rise post O. I'm starting to wonder if my thermometer is broken! Although I'm 29 days, last cycle was 40 post mc, so I'm wondering if this month will be affected. Will keep going and see whet happens this week x

 

[pink80]

Sooper have a look at my charts - I've got all sorts on there. Normally cd14/16 ov and delayed cd35 ov for you to compare against


https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/304e9b

Xx

 

[Sooperhans]

Great, thank you Pink! These charts are really interesting.

How are you doing? Xx

 

[pink80]

I'm not too bad - trying not to think about too much xx

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper - you might have a crazy cycle this month since you just had your MC. It usually seems to take me a couple months to get back to normal. I had a MC in January and I was too worn out to temp that month but look at my Feb chart, its all over the place. Lots of ups and downs and I am not even sure if CD 20 is when I O'd. Are you using a regular thermometer or a BBT one? The sleep could be affecting your temps so try to relax about it and just take it the same time every day. I know easier said than done! With temping too, sometimes it takes about a month to get the hang of it and see the regular patterns on your chart.

Lukas - it depends what comes back abnormal. I had high homocysteine discovered in my testing and I was put on extra folic acid starting at lower doses and then testing every 2 weeks and increasing the dose until it got back to normal. My doctor did not want me to start TTC until this got in the normal range because this problem can cause spina bifida and other birth defects. Its terrible to wait but this next baby could be your forever one so you want to be sure you have any issues sorted out, just in case.

 

[patiently]

Cannot believe my sister's attitude. I have been trying to keep my distance but today she wanted to come for a drive in my car so I said OK but I didn't want to talk about our issues. She asked what the problem was so eventually I told her. I said that she hasn't been sympathetic to my situation she got angry...Remember she is pregnant. She threw water over me said I'm jealous of her to stay away from her kids and that i don't deserve kids and that I won't ever have them. I wanted to get so mad with her but she's pregnant so I told her to get out of my car she shouted that my partner doesn't love me an that's why he's joiningthe army and that I willnever have kids and she has always hated me. She kicked my car door and tried to break the windows too. I am fuming right now don't even have the words to express

 

[Sooperhans]

Pink - that's good, hope you are staying calm and progressing well

I think you are right Beach, I don't think I've settled into temping at all! Looking at my data, my times are pretty sporadic. Like ranging from 5.45am to 7am! Some mornings I've been busting for a wee and I couldn't wait, lol. I know you are supposed to temp before so I've gone earlier rather than not at all.

I spoke to the doc today, she asked lots of questions and because I've had ov type pain and ewcm, now I'm on day20 she wants me to go ahead and start the progesterone. She seemed pretty convinced I had o'd and was prob crap at temping! Bit nervous but she said despite my 40 day cycle last month, I'm more likely to revert to 29 days as I am regular. We'll see.....(fx'd)

 

[Sooperhans]

Ps I am using a bbt thermometer x

 

[Sooperhans]

Sorry Patiently I didn't see your post...WTF?? Rise above it and don't believe a word of what she says, sounds like you are getting hounded and it's horrible. I would be shaking if that happened to me and furious. So sorry you've had such a crap time xx

 

[ayclobes]

Hey ladies, sorry i've been mia, but i've been so busy! i just got a 2nd job and i'll find out when orientation starts, been filling out paper work to get our homestudy started b/c we possibly might be adopting my neice's baby (it depends if she gets him back..if not by august then he is ours!). Baby T is 7wks old! We havent really been thinking of ttc..so its been off the radar for us. But, i do wanna start temping next cycle..from cd1-cd whenecer next af shows. af is due 3/28-4/1

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper- interesting about what your doc says. Your temps seem very low to be past O but they are the pros. Definitely keep temping though, it will help and try to get into a routine of doing it the same time (and before you wee )

Oh patiently I am so sorry for all you've been through. It just can't get easier can it. Maybe you need a break just to relax and get you mind off of all this. I pray ou will have them strength to get though this.

 

[Sooperhans]

Thanks Beach, I'm trying to drink less in the evening and make myself wait until the alarm goes off at 6.30am, it worked this morning but I did go for about 3 weed before bedtime to try and get rid of everything! I've been needing to pee a lot and have quite a tender abdomen atm, hb told me to not think about it. Hmm easy for him to say!

Yes, I'm a bit worried about starting on the prog last night, but I voiced all my concerns and she came up with a reason to counter everything and reassure me, so I'm going to have to try and test on day 29 (not that far away, ooh) and we'll see!! She's been good on previous issues and well informed, so I hope it works out....xx

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper - just had a look at your temps today and I am wondering if you O'd yesterday. Your next couple temps should give us a better picture. Try to get some in today just in case!

 

[Sooperhans]

Argh how exciting, thank you! Flipping hb has invited the in laws around tonight...hopefully they won't stay too long, lol. Thank you for looking. How are you doing? xx

 

[wookie130]

Patiently...ummm...what the HELL is wrong with your sister? Being pregnant does NOT give anyone the right or a license to act like a raging psycho!!! I mean, I've been pregnant a couple times myself, and I'll tell you now that while I was moody or emotional, I was not kicking car doors, and trying to bust out windows. Perhaps she needs help, seriously. Saying those horrible things to you? Flying off into a blind rage isn't exactly safe for a pregnant woman, nor does it signify that she's mentally stable...I would sincerely question her ability to raise a baby with the potential to behave like this. Something is very OFF with her, honey. That's not normal behavior AT ALL.

 

[BeachChica]

Argh how exciting, thank you! Flipping hb has invited the in laws around tonight...hopefully they won't stay too long, lol. Thank you for looking. How are you doing? xx

Sooper - I am doing good, just anxiously waiting for my appt to get here next week on the 5th. I am having another test done and hopefully the doc will be able to tell me if its OK to start trying again. I am going on a big trip to Europe in May for about 3 weeks so I am wondering if he is going to tell me to wait just so I don't having a MC overseas. Talk to DH before the in-laws arrive and let him know that they need to be out early!!! Maybe you can even squeeze in a quickie before they get there

 

[patiently]

Thank you ladies. I seriously started to think there was something wrong with me thats why shes acting this way but deep down i know its her she has some serious anger issues and she is so aggressive. People like this get pregnant and have kids so easy yet those who are stable and really want them have a tough journey. Im trying not to think about her anymore just going to do my own thing and hopefully i wont bump into her!

The shot seems to be working so my hcg went from 6100 on saturday to 4000 tuesday so hopefully my hcg will come right down in the next few weeks...heres hoping! Hopefully time will fly and i will be right back here with you ttc ladies. Hope all the pregnant ladies are doing well, all those approaching ov baby dust to you and for those in the tww hope you have very promising symptoms and are a few days away from you bfp! Good luck speak soon x

 

[Emmediva]

Thank you ladies. I seriously started to think there was something wrong with me thats why shes acting this way but deep down i know its her she has some serious anger issues and she is so aggressive. People like this get pregnant and have kids so easy yet those who are stable and really want them have a tough journey. Im trying not to think about her anymore just going to do my own thing and hopefully i wont bump into her!

The shot seems to be working so my hcg went from 6100 on saturday to 4000 tuesday so hopefully my hcg will come right down in the next few weeks...heres hoping! Hopefully time will fly and i will be right back here with you ttc ladies. Hope all the pregnant ladies are doing well, all those approaching ov baby dust to you and for those in the tww hope you have very promising symptoms and are a few days away from you bfp! Good luck speak soon x

Sorry you are having to deal with this while miscarrying, sounds like your sister may be Bi-Polar, has she been checked? My little sister is Bi-Polar and has these aggressive sessions every once in a while, and then like nothing she is fine She takes medicine once in a while and it does help but when she doesn't take it all hell breaks loose My sister has 3 kids that have to deal with her crazy behind.... Once again shows you how unfair life is at times...

 

[Sooperhans]

Boo my long message disappeared!!

Yes Beach, in laws went fairly early after a lovely evening dining outside and so the bd was able to commence And it seems I'm getting a consistently rising temp now, yay.

How exciting you have a big European trip lined up, do you think you would want to ttc before if you can and is there anything you'll do differently as a result of the testing? Otherwise it would be cool to make a Euro baby!

Patiently, maybe Emme is right about the bi polar thing, or is she acting out as she's used to a lot more attention from you? So unacceptable though and keep doing what you are doing. Will you be booking your holiday? Hope so!

How is everyone else? Annmarie how are you getting on hun? Inoue do you have an early scan lined up and closer to your decision about continuing to work? A big and to all xxx

 

[NewToAllThis]

Quick one.... AF arrived this morning. After 25 weeks and 1 day of waiting!