A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[kmp]

Hello ladies, I am returning to B&B and like your thread! I am not a frequent free-time computer user until I am TTC LOL! I am 31 about to be 32 and DH is 31. Had my first early MC in August 2011 and had a nightmare of an ectopic in November. Needed methotrexate shot twice and my HCG numbers didn't go to negative till the end of January. Worst experience I've ever been through!! I had a surgery in March which was very successful and removed a septate (wall dividing uterus), a large fibroid, and a bit of endomitriosis. I will have a hsg in May and can ttc that same month after. We conceived right away each time so I hope we do again and that it lasts. I should be ttc during end of may ovulation and can NOT wait! Very nice meeting you all!

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper- did you doc say why you felt lightheaded today? I am glad you are getting the bloodwork and that you'll stay on the progesterone until you get those results.

Kmp- welcome and sorry for your losses. you've come to the right place!

Lexi - good luck to you this cycle. Sending lots of VERY VERY sticky baby dust your way!!!

AFM- my doctors office gave me some more of the progesterone suppository samples yesterday. So between those and the ones I had left over from my last pregnacy I have 58!!!! That should definitely get me through my trip. My insurance also FINALLY approved covering them so if I need to get refills I should be good now. They are extremely expensive otherwise!!!

 

[Sooperhans]

She wasn't 100% on why - it wasn't my bp, when she took it it was 125/75...she said hopefully it's a pg symptom but she said do remember that sometimes our body has this horrid way of tricking us.

That's great about your stockpile of progesterone! That and a few bikinis and you are packed

Kmp welcome and sorry for your losses, the ectopic sounds really traumatic. Hope you are ok now hun and I hope time flies so you can ttc again

 

[wookie130]

Sooper, any word yet, or will you not know until Monday?

KMP, welcome, and I'm so sorry for your losses. Hopefully the removal of the septate wall in your uterus will allow the next BFP to be super sticky!

 

[Myangelavery]

Hello...i am 31 dh 30 i have had 3 mc and a stillborn daughter at 34 weeks. I have no living children. I just stopped bleeding from my last mc and am not following the "rules" for waiting until i have a period. If its meant to be it will happen. Im starting to get angry because there are so many people around me who arent even trying and havin babies and all i want is to be a mom and its so hard fof us to achieve this! Dont mean to sound bitter. So i guess we will see how the next few weeks go....good luck to everyone!!!)

 

[wookie130]

Hello...i am 31 dh 30 i have had 3 mc and a stillborn daughter at 34 weeks. I have no living children. I just stopped bleeding from my last mc and am not following the "rules" for waiting until i have a period. If its meant to be it will happen. Im starting to get angry because there are so many people around me who arent even trying and havin babies and all i want is to be a mom and its so hard fof us to achieve this! Dont mean to sound bitter. So i guess we will see how the next few weeks go....good luck to everyone!!!)

It seems to me your bitterness is completely justified, dear. I'm so terribly sorry for your losses, each and every single one of them. Good luck to you as well!

 

[melfy77]

Hello! May I join you?

I'm 26 and OH is 22. I've had 2 early miscarriages in 7 months. One in december at 5 weeks and the other one 2 weeks ago, at 7 weeks. The last one was harder because we saw the heartbeat, so we thought this one would make it, but no...So we are ttc again, not waiting for af to return. And I have an appointment at a fertility clinic in 10 days to get some tests done and see if something is causing those MC. And since hubby and I are gonna see each other on the weekends only for the next 8 weeks because of a new job, now's a ''good'' time to get tested.

Myangelavery: I am so sorry for your losses. Miscarriages are so hard, but loosing your daughter like this...sooooo sad And I totally know the feeling. A lot of my friends are expecting, and I should have been one of them, it makes me sad, but also really angry and bitter, and I don't like it. I'm happy for them, but don't think it's fair that I can't keep one too

 

[BeachChica]

Welcome ladies an so sorry for your losses! It's terrible that we find ourselves here but it's nice to chat with people that actually know what you've been through.

Myangel- did they do any testing or give you and reason for your losses? Losses are terrible, but to have one at 34 weeks, how heart wrenching!!

 

[Sooperhans]

Welcome all new ladies, there have been so many experiences by everyone that I hope you find support here and I'm sorry for your losses xxx

Hope everyone has been enjoying their weekend. Had a relaxing day yday watching a win in the footy (c'mon Liverpool) but not so great on the horses. Anyway...another bfn today. Sigh...but raised temp still. I'm going to call and try and get a Tues blood appt, the results should then be ready for Thurs/Fri. I just want to know what's going on, starting to feel very blah about it all. Fx xx

 

[wookie130]

Good luck Sooper. I hope you have your answers soon!

Welcome Melfy! I'm sorry about your losses...hopefully you can also find out what's happening. I'm sort of being forced to wait until I've had 3 miscarriages before anyone will do testing.

 

[notoptimistic]

Sooper - how many dpo are you? I'm 17 with a bfn last night. I guess these preg symptoms aren't?

 

[lexi374]

Welcome to all the new ladies so sorry for your losses. x

Soop i hope you get some answers soon!

Notoptimistic sorry you got a bfn.

Hi to everyone else! x

Afm dh and i had a flutter on the grand national yest and he picked the winner, £86.50, not bad. On the flip side my horse was put down, i felt really sad as the owner had been on tv earlier in the day talking about it and saying he hoped it gets round ok. Its pretty cruel really, poor horses.

Im 8dpo nothing to report, except a really sore throat since last night, didnt sleep well and back to work tom after a week off x

 

[Neversaynever]

SO sorry there are new ladies on here

Just to pre warn you..some of the ladies that are now pregnant post on here as they have built up relationships with the other ladies...they are all sensitive and respect everyone's feelings.

Love and loads of

Lexi...wonder if that's the old immune system suppressing itself ready for the egg I'm back at work after two weeks off too How is the kitchen looking?

Sooper..how are you holding up? If you are still getting a BFN tomorrow, I believe you should stop the progesterone supplements to allow AF to arrive...I'm hoping you see a line though

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Nsn hmmmm id be lying if i said it hadnt crossed my mind, but trying not to set myself up for a fall.... no other symptoms at all so may just be coming down with something.

There is 2 thoughts with getting sick around implantation, 1 that your immune system is being lowered to accept baby or 2 people with immune probs like me (nk cells), your body is fighting back trying to stop implantation. Was googling all this crap earlier thinking should i start steroids just incase it is trying to implant and my uterus is . But im just stressing myself over something that might not be, so not gonna do anything tonight.

Going back to work sucks eh?? Are you out of your classroom now?

Kitchen worktops are in and sink and oven, will be a couple of weeks before we can get it tiled, so still not finished but will look so much better when it is. x

 

[kmp]

Thanks for the warm welcomes!! I have gotten 2 baby shower invitations in the past week aarggh!! I have come to terms with things in many ways, but things continue to come up now and then and I guess that is normal, but I do not want to be bitter. One of the showers is for a friend who accidently got pregnant two weeks before I got pg with my ectopic so it is a strong reminder of my upcoming due date

Wookie, it is frustrating to have to wait for testing. After discovering that I had a septate uterus I kept thinking how I wish I could have had an ultrasound and figured this out before I even started ttc. Kind of backwards and in the long run more costly to wait until things go bad. Hopefully you will not need testing anyway with a sticky bean!!

Neversaynever, thank you for the warning, I know losses can make us sensitive, but it actually makes me feel better seeing ppl in our situations with happy outcomes!

Lexi, good luck! I had cold symptoms both times I was pregnant so fx!!

AFM, difficult af, hope I only have to have one more! Does anyone else focus on potential due dates? I loved my previous due dates and am a little disappointed that I will likely have a winter due date. Trust me, I will be thrilled to have a healthy pregnancy, but we have rough winters here and I love taking babies for walks and think about outdoor birthday parties instead of bday soon after christmas. I guess I think too much about long term.

 

[lexi374]

Kmp thanks and good luck to you, i used to think i dont want a baby between nov and feb, cos winter and too close to xmas, and too close to dhs kids bdays etc, but after nearly 4 years.... honestly ill take any date now! x

 

[Myangelavery]

Beach chica- hi..when i had avery at 34 weeks they took 18 viles of blood and found nothing wrong ...they tested genetic, clotting, autoimmune...everything and found nothing my new dr wanted to do mri w contrast but its very expensive as i have high deductable insurance. The hospital was supposed to do an autopsy but somehow it never got done...unreal!!! Its been rough. I really do wish everyone on here has a bfp soon!!!!! Any miscarriage is hard to overcome

 

[Myangelavery]

Kmp i am always thinking about due dates. I love love love christmas and was hoping for xmas or before and this last mc my due date was nov 27th so woulda been perfect! But now i just stopped bleeding and skipped right over december .....end of january would be the soonest((( It doesnt matter as long as i have a healthy baby but our intentions were try for xmas time.

 

[Nicki123]

So sorry to read about your situations kmp, myangelavery and melfy77. I have only been on b&b a few days but have found it incredibly comforting to 'speak' with others who have shared similar experiences. Friends are sympathetic but can never really understand unless they have been through it. I hope you find the same comfort

Loopyla I had the acupuncture and as you said it was incredibly relaxing. As it was my first session was just talked for the first hour and that was very therapeutic in itself. I haven't talked through the whole series of events for a while and when I did I thought 'wow I really have been through a lot haven't I' and had a little cry! But the lady was lovely and it kind of felt good to talk about it. Then I had an hour of treatment and went away feeling extremely relaxed and exhilarated at the same time. Looking fwd to my next session.

Hope you've all had lovely weekends ladies x

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi to all the new ladies and sorry for your losses . It sad that you are all going though such horrible times, but I'm glad that are more of you to support each other.

Sooper, I hope you get some answers one way or another in the next few days. It's so tough when you have 'symptoms' as those pesky hormones can play horrible tricks on us sometimes. I'm hoping those 2 lines appear for you.

Lexi - glad the kitchen is getting on well and lots of coming your way! Hope your sore throat doesn't turn into a cold!

Notoptomistic - sorry you got a BFN this month

KMP - it's hard when you have other pregnancies around you that remind you of your due date. On of my best friends had a baby 2 weeks before the DD of my second MMC. Now her little girl is here though I really don't think about it anymore - somehow it was tougher seeing her pregnant so maybe once your friends' babies come it will be easier.

Myangel - so sorry for your losses, that must have been very hard,and made worse by not having any answers. I hope you get your happy ending soon and you are very strong for trying again so soon

Beach - almost time for your big trip! Glad you've got a stockpile of progesterone sorted!

Hi to everyone else and lots of to everyone.

Just waiting, Florida, tweak - any updates from you ladies?

I'm finally gettng over my horrible cold after 2 weeks of feeling rotten. I have been so glad I booked the last week off as holiday as I've felt rough! As NSN mentioned, I am one of the members of this thread who is now pregnant so I'll put the rest in a spoiler in case any of you don't want to read anymore.

Spoiler

We're finally doing some shopping! We've ordered the pram and car seat and I've been online and ordered some of the bits I've been researching. It seems so surreal to finally be getting stuff and strangely gorwn up! I'm also developing a worrying addiction to Ebay and am on the hunt for a breast pump and a nursing pillow as there are lots of these hardly used and second hand online so I'm bargain hunting!

The little lady is doing well but I'm getting a bit squashed now so it gets a bit uncomfortable, but it's amazing to know she's growing in there so I can't complain! My latest MW went great, and I've got to have my anti-d injection in a couple of weeks. My appts are every few weeks now which is making the weeks fly by!