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[Krissy485]

Nicole i am sorry this weekend is just plan sucky!!!! try taking a relaxing bath today if you are still feeling the same way. with your daughter and the ipad you could trying getting her one the the kiddy ones that vtech or leapfrog make for christmas. oh and hapy apple seed!

Grace how you doing sweet heart? monday is the day you see the dr. again right? if it is a blighted ovum again, isnt that rare? at least that is what my ob doctor told. and i know you have the strenght of lord and what sounds like an amazing dh behind you!


Nicole and Grace one thing that always lifts me up in times like this is the foot print poem and i have one version of it that is very special to me. Before my dad even met my mom he was in the army for 3 yrs and was station in Germany for 2 of those yrs. even though when he was in there it was after vietnam so it was a peaceful time, my great grandma had seen the footprints poem printed in her local newspaper and clipped it out and mailed it to my dad, she died while he was germany. he kept it all those yrs and even laminated it to keep it from falling part he always carried it in his wallet. when i was 18 my dad gave it to me and it has never left my wallet. not only do i feel god's love when i pull it out and read it but i also feel my father's love and my great grandmas. so through all you are going through Nicole and Grace just know i am praying for you and sending all the loving vibes i can!

Janelle i hope your dinner went well and that you were just too tired from it all to give us a shout out!

Misty hope you wake up feeling better today! one day away from 10weeks yay!

afm got josh up and out to go hunting. he is in a pissy mood because of course once again i couldnt read his mind on shit...like how he wanted certain things washed and kept in the dryer so other smells didnt attach to them, or how I should have put more gas in the car....he actually wrote (we were texting after he left) who in their right mind would not have put gas in on friday...ummm..you! i didnt drive the car since thursday...i havent drove either of our vehicles since thursday!!! he didnt respond to that one. whatever he should be gone all day i hope but more than likely will show up around lunch time...ugh....when ever i am sick..i mean really sick he is an ass....i just wanna throw my hands up in his face all the time anymore and go if you dont like our situtation YOU fix it! i told him the other day it felt like he blames me for where we are in our lives....like i am not finishing school fast enough...that i should have pushed him to stay at his old job he had for over 5 yrs and it goes on and on and on......he just laughed it off like i was crazy like usual....i love the man but man does he make it hard sometimes to like him.....

 

[armymama2012]

I took a long bath last night. My Dh didnt come to bed til 6 a.m. even though I went to bed at 11:30. when he did come to bed he brought our daughter in bed with us because she was awake and he didnt want anything to happen to her overnight and find her lifeless too. I completely understand. She didnt sleep well but I enjoyed watching her for 3 hours while she tried to sleep. Now she is us and watching her favorite movie Rio while eating off-brand Fruit Loops with her chocolate Lactaid. My back hurts and I wish I got more than 6 hours of sleep. I couldnt go back to sleep for a while once I learned that Dh was still downstairs laughing even though I had been in bed for hours.

 

[janelleybean]

Morning ladies! SOrry I was MIA yesterday, I was super busy and the In laws didn't leave until 9:30 and then I got on to check what everyone was saying, but was too tired to even respond. Thanks for calling me out Krissy.

I hate to admit it, but I'm going to be just as busy today. We're trying to get this stupid fireplace done before the temperatures drop (which is next weekend) and it's sucking so bad!! "I HATE YOU FIREPLACE!"

I wanted to stop in and say :wave: to all the ladies. Sorry, but I don't have time to do personals at the moment. I will try to check in later in the day, if not tonight. Tomorrow for sure I will be on more. I'm sending you all Big Big BIG and I'm thinking about you all during the day!

 

[MnJ]

Janelle, what brand and model doppler do u have? I really want one. These darn appts are too far apart and my bbs still aren't sore. Makes me very nervous.

 

[Krissy485]

Hello ladies!

nicole I have been in that same place with my dh before and it sucks! makes you feel like those damn video games are more important....grrr...i beat him for you if i could! Congrats on being an apple seed!

Janelle- it is already cold here! good luck!

Misty- i am sure your baby is fine!

 

[Krissy485]

Such a quiet weekend it has been! i know ALL of us have been so busy! Well fall has set in here in MI it is cold and rainy today and the kids are driving me nuts because they have only been able to go out for a little bit. oh well Diago it is lol.... well I better hear all about your weekends tomorrow. Probably check back in later tonight but for now i have to finish up laundry for tomorrow and dinner is just about done... see you ladies later!

 

[armymama2012]

Well Dh finally brke down and cried while I held him an hour ago. He told me he was so scared last night he checked on our daughter every hour until he brought her into our bed. I wish I could help with his pain but he knows that if I had been the one to find our son that morning, I wouldn't have been able to move out of his room. It was hard enough having to go back to that same apartment for 4 months after we got back from his funeral. Nothing had been moved. I could see the spot on the carpet where DH laid him down before calling 911 and crying to his dad. We had to go into his bedroom to get some things for our daughter and we broke down and cried as soon as we opened the door. We slowly crawled together and got out of there as quickly as possible.

 

[HisGrace]

((((Nicole))))

 

[armymama2012]

Here is a pic of my son's grave marker in the baby section:

 

[Krissy485]

Oh wow Nicole i am sitting her bawling my eyes out!!!! my heart is breaking for you!!! was he barried in a military cemetary? My son is Joshua II also and i am sitting here looking at my kids and thinking i do not know how you were able to go forward. you have a VERY strong heart!!!!

 

[Krissy485]

Just wanted you all to know that Janelle is alive and has won the battle with the fireplace from hell lol....she should be on later if not soon. so yeah pretty much been just me and my thoughts...and that is a scary scary place to be...i tell you what i got some dark rooms upstairs hahahahahaa

 

[janelleybean]

Alright I got a few minutes before dinner is ready, so I can breath and tell you ladies how much I have missed you!!!

Misty- My favorite of favorites! The doppler I have is Sonoline B Fetal heart doppler. I LOVE IT! Check craigslist first, they are kind of pricey. But, don't start freaking out on me. I looked in my journal from when I was pregnant with my son, and I wrote how I had no symptoms at 9 weeks and it was freaking me out. Mine returned at 11 weeks. Your hormones are probably just leveling out. It's all normal trust me. The doppler is reassurance, but it's kind of heard to find the heartbeat this early, so don't be surprised if you can't find it.

Nicole- You are wonder woman I swear! My hear aches for you! I agree with Krissy, I don't know how you found the strength to carry on. You amaze me.

Krissy- I LOVE the rainy cold weather!! I have an entire closet full of hoodies and I can't wait to wear them and grow big, fat, and pregnant in them this winter! I hated being pregnant in the summer. Bring on the winter!

Grace- Hello my friend! I'm thinking about you all the time. I will be thinking about you all day tomorrow. I hope that you get good news. I'M REALLY REALLY HOPING HARD!

Aspe- I haven't heard from you, how are you feeling?

AFM- The stupid fireplace is done!! Well, kinda.. it's all covered with drywall. It only took all flippin' day to get the stupid thing even so that we could attach the drywall. I hate that thing!! I'm so happy it's covered though. Now we just have to lay a a section for where the hearth will go and We will be prepared for cold weather. Well... Not prepared for a fire, but prepared for not all our hot air escaping through the cracks.

I have to go finish dinner, but I just wanted to stop in and tell you ladies I missed you ALL terribly this weekend and I'm hoping to check in later after dinner. ...Hopefully some of you will still be awake. Doubtful, but I'm hoping!

 

[armymama2012]

Oh wow Nicole i am sitting her bawling my eyes out!!!! my heart is breaking for you!!! was he barried in a military cemetary? My son is Joshua II also and i am sitting here looking at my kids and thinking i do not know how you were able to go forward. you have a VERY strong heart!!!!

No, he's buried in the same cemetery as DH's grandpa back in IL.

 

[Krissy485]

Nicole got ya!

Janelle well maybe you should live some where you are HOURS be hind in time!!! lol i should be up for a little bit yet....

 

[MnJ]

Nicole! Ugh! Ur killing me here! Well one thing tho I'm SO glad ur DH finally broke down and u guys were able to connect. That part is wonderful. It makes me SO sad at the same time that he did break down. Men crying breaks my heart every time. They are such big tough "I'm too studly to have and show emotions" doofus heads that when they finally do let themselves be human it touches me so much. I don't have to know the guy and I'm bawling lol. Jake's gpa passed away a few months ago and seeing jake, his brother & dad cry tore me up. I was a blubbering mess! My niece's bday is also May 3rd. I don't know how a person lives thru the death of a child. I don't EVER want to know. I wish I could have a big ole group hug with u and ur DH. Just can't imagine... This baby ur growing now is totally a boy. I just know it!

Janelle - Hey girl! Missed u! I got on ebay today and ordered a doppler and I had picked the one u have! Yay! I've looked on Craigs list but haven't seen any on there. It was $56 but oh well. I want it. Hope I'm able to find the heartbeat and don't freak myself out more! I watched a YouTube review and the chick said she was 9w5d and was able to hear it. I'm obese tho so will prbly make things more difficult. Glad u got ur fireplace at least fixed up enough to keep the heat in! I'm in Iowa and am NOT NOT NOT looking fwd to winter. Ugh! I am glad, however, to be pregnant over the winter time so that I can wear big snuggly clothes and not be hot!

Krissy - Sorry u were so lonely this weekend! We had a birthday party for my mom today. I LOVE family get togethers. We always eat too much then we play board games. So much fun. Do miss my grandma tho. She moved to AZ last year as the winters here were too hard on her. Glad u got some good meds, even if just for at night. At least u can hopefully get some good sleep.

Ok all, there is something weighing on mine and Jake's mind. This is going to be a controversial subject so not sure if I should bring it up but ur my friends I can talk to and confidential in. If it's a taboo subject and you'd rather not discuss just let me know. Idk how many of u are very religious and this could make u dislike me. Anyway, I guess the perinatologist can do an amnio at 13 weeks to test for any genetic abnormalities. Jake doesn't think we should cuz of the risks. At the same time we REALLY want to make sure asap that it is a healthy baby. It is very important to both of us. The amnio is even riskier for me being obese. It is weighing on my mind a LOT. Now if this is a subject u guys feel is not comfortable being discussed just say so and it will be dropped. No hard feelings. Honestly.

 

[Krissy485]

Misty i dont know if i would do the amino. For me i would do all the other testing first, the blood work and the u/s at 12 weeks that can check the spinal fluid at the base of the skull because if that is not right then that is an indicator of downs syndrom. i would do those first and only if those showed up anything questionable then MAYBE i would do an amino. i am only hesitant bc either way i would have the baby but yes i would want to know what is wrong so i would know what to prepare for. also i say this bc a friend of mine who is the same age as me had all those other tests done and one showed that there was probably something wrong with the baby and they wanted to do an amnio at 24 weeks. she didnt really want to do it but the dr talked her into it and she did it. well two days later she ended up in labor and deliverying the baby at home while the perimedics were on their way. when they did the autopsy the baby was perfect. the amnio had caused the premature delivery. so like this is a very personal choice and i just gave you what i would do so maybe it could help you feel your way through it.

 

[janelleybean]

WTF?! Where is everyone?

Misty- A lot of time they can tell during your first ultrasound if there is any worry for birth defects. I'm not sure, but I think it has to do with the spinal cord and the size of the head. Which will tell them down syndrome, which I think the biggest concern for those that are older. Don't quote me though. I think you should wait for your first ultrasound, which should be at 12 weeks right? I would ask your doctor what they think, if it's necessary. If they highly recommend it, then I would do it, but if your doctor doesn't think there is much to worry about, then I don't think you should need to.

As for the doppler I LOVE that one! Now, I'm going to tell you, you will most likely hear your heartbeat before your babies. I remember when I heard it I was super excited, but then found out that it was just mine, and totally butt hurt. Yours will be a steady whoosh whoosh, and your babies will sound like a freight train or a galloping horse. Best way I can describe it. Start in the middle under your belly button, just above your pubic bone and slowly move the wand outward toward your hip, but staying just above your pubic bone. If you don't hear anything start in the middle again and slowly move the other way. If you can't find it wait a few days and try again. Don't get discouraged. Did you purchase the goop as well? You HAVE to have that in order for it to work. If you didn't purchase it, you can always go to the store and buy some KY Jelly. The gloppy stuff, not the slick lube. More goop the better! Best of luck and keep me posted!! When are you suppose to get it?

 

[Krissy485]

Janelle i am still here for a little bit lol...i should do my home work but eh do it tomorrow just cant let the other 4 weeks go...cant afford another c+ like last class...ouch that did hurt lol...

but i am think that since it seems AF is finally gone...bitch lingered long enough lol...that i might go take a nice long hot shower get alll spiffy and attack my husband since no parents till tomorrow and kids are asleep if he says no then i might not be on again for a while since i would be in jail for murder hahahah no seriously though...

 

[Krissy485]

Hell yeah listening to sexy and i know LMAO

 

[janelleybean]

Krissy- Get some!! I'm sure none of the ladies here would mind if you disappeared and got a little, but jail in not an option. You stay away from there! Love not war... Remember?!!?