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tinytoes
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It drives me nuts - all the snobbery over a natural brith being best, and a vaginal birth without painkillers beingthe ultimate.
I mean, we dont get any extra points for coping with pain? The babies arent much healthier and mroe likely to be geniuses?!
As the BBC said - you wouldnt consider having a tooth removed without drugs so why a baby?!
And WHY do certain women feel a c section is the devils work? That we're not real mothers or women until we've experienced true childbirth. I'm in no hurry to feel my perineum tear. I'm in no hurry to feel contractions as if I'm being squuezed by 56 sumo wrestlers. Or to force out a water melon.
There is always a slight snobbery or hoitey-toitey-ness about birth - that you're a better person if you undergo a natural childbirth. And you get extra bonus points fr a long labour and lack of drugs.
Well I for one would like to poo-poo that idea.
I think we're never failures - wether we choose c section or drugs coming out of our ears. For me as long as baby is out and healthy then that'll do me.
I could endure birth without any pain relief, but I dont believe I'd receive any medals for it. It wouldnt be added to my CV - "This lady has endured extreme pain so must be a super-MuM". It wont make me a better person, I wont suddenly become more popular or worldly wise. I wont be thanked by the child in years to come. My OH wont love me more. I wont be given a round of applause or be put at the top of a league table.
We're all creating a baby. Thats the main thing, not how we choose to bring it out into the world.
In the grand scheme of things the birth is a small factor.
I get quite wound up by the natural "hippy" mums who claim child birth is wonderful and magical. sorry but I dont get it. Receiving a baby in your arms is the magic as far as I can see. The rest is just a way to get it there.
so there, thats my tuesday rant...phew!
I mean, we dont get any extra points for coping with pain? The babies arent much healthier and mroe likely to be geniuses?!
As the BBC said - you wouldnt consider having a tooth removed without drugs so why a baby?!
And WHY do certain women feel a c section is the devils work? That we're not real mothers or women until we've experienced true childbirth. I'm in no hurry to feel my perineum tear. I'm in no hurry to feel contractions as if I'm being squuezed by 56 sumo wrestlers. Or to force out a water melon.
There is always a slight snobbery or hoitey-toitey-ness about birth - that you're a better person if you undergo a natural childbirth. And you get extra bonus points fr a long labour and lack of drugs.
Well I for one would like to poo-poo that idea.
I think we're never failures - wether we choose c section or drugs coming out of our ears. For me as long as baby is out and healthy then that'll do me.
I could endure birth without any pain relief, but I dont believe I'd receive any medals for it. It wouldnt be added to my CV - "This lady has endured extreme pain so must be a super-MuM". It wont make me a better person, I wont suddenly become more popular or worldly wise. I wont be thanked by the child in years to come. My OH wont love me more. I wont be given a round of applause or be put at the top of a league table.
We're all creating a baby. Thats the main thing, not how we choose to bring it out into the world.
In the grand scheme of things the birth is a small factor.
I get quite wound up by the natural "hippy" mums who claim child birth is wonderful and magical. sorry but I dont get it. Receiving a baby in your arms is the magic as far as I can see. The rest is just a way to get it there.
so there, thats my tuesday rant...phew!