Thats a myth.
You shouldn't feel bad that you couldn't do it.
It's not the most natural thing a woman can do.That's how babies are supposed to come out of their mothers body but it is very hard and in many cases the baby would die(like in yours) or a woman wouldn't be able to have any more children.
You shouldn't feel like you failed at something.
Actually, anatomically and medically speaking this is not a 'myth'. Pregnancy and Childbirth IS a very natural thing for a woman's body to do. It is the complications many women face that are unnatural.
That's why we have medically advanced options to help those women through a situation where her body is medically unable to perform a natural function.
You wouldn't call a type II diabetic "natural" in the sense that that is normal for a person to need insulin. It isn't normal. But thank God we have the knowledge and ability to help those people.
I don't begrudge women who have these unnatural complications and or fears to take advantage of every medical option available to them to bring life into the world. That is what it was developed for to begin with. That would be like me saying the type II diabetic is a wuss for taking insulin.
But if there developed a trend in the medical profession that 1 in every three people that they see "MUST be a diabetic, therefore we'll just hedge our bets and put them on insulin". I'd have to stop and wonder what the hell is going on, and if this is right or not. No? This is in essence what has happened in the US. Women are being convinced that they are 'diabetic' and cannot naturally have a baby... AND that it's better for them to 'be on insulin' and have a section rather than let their body do what it does naturally.
We have all read stories here of women who's midwife told them they were having a HUGE BABY (10-12 pounds) and couldn't possibly birth it naturally... I have no problems there, I think that's fair. But then when that baby's born and it's 6 or 7 pounds, forgive me but I think WTF? THIS SCENERIO happens more often than not.
In other words, when a woman makes a complete informed consent to having ANY birth option they want I'm all for it. But when they are talked into having their baby via an option that isn't completely explained to them (I'm not talking about emergency sections here of course) and it seems that it's just to the benefit of the hospital/nursing staff/doc... that makes me mad.
I don't think you're a wuss or a crybaby for not pushing your LO out your vagina. And I don't think anyone who has given birth naturally is a hippy or snob or anything else.
We are ALL MAMAS.