Adoption journey

[aimze]

Thanks guys, finding hard to understand that I'm sure all families interested are amazing for this little boy an how they choose one?!?

X

 

[dreamofabean]

It must be really tough for them to decide, I guess they look at what your 'criteria' was and then his and make a judgement. I think competitive matching is horrid

 

[Lolly1985]

But all families are different, all local areas can provide different things, all childcare experience is valuable and how tight your support network would be considered. Also, they don't say this, but they look at physical resemblance too. But ultimately yes, all would love and support this lovely little boy. It's the toughest part hunny and I'm praying for a positive outcome for you. Hang in there xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

And agree with Dream, competitive matching in my opinion is cruel. Obviously a lot of matches are competitive but it goes on behind the scenes so you never know. Once you're approached more formally I think you should be the only ones in the picture. Thinking of you xxx

 

[aimze]

Thanks girls you're all amazing...I think on paper we look pretty good, support network is tight an large, we have volunteered for years with young children and have a lot of younger children in the family...

I'm just really worried that I feel such a connection to this little boy and of it's a no the next profile we see I will take a glance and delete an not allow myself to get attached...that then makes it unfair for me an little one though

They approached us so you're right, they should have stuck with just us ;-)

 

[Lolly1985]

It's torture, when do you think you will hear hun? You sound wonderful parents to be, I'll stay positive for you lovely xxx

 

[aimze]

Tuesday coming is when they make their decision, im sure if its positive i'll hear quicker than if it's not us...Regardless of us, this little man will get his home an I'll be happy with that...But i'll be happier if he comes home to us!

Just brought the "I feel" range of books at lunchtime to put on his shelf! Positive thinking, his IS coming home!

 

[dreamofabean]

Totally agree, positive thinking all the way! Our boy had a whole bedroom sorted and wardrobe full before we knew he was coming home

 

[aimze]

Positivity is slowly coming out...pretty much been told prob won't be us...several families are being considered not just one or two or even three :-/ hmmmm

 

[dreamofabean]

You just never know Hun I'll be keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you x

 

[aimze]

Thank u...main thing is little man is very close to his family!! That thought will keep me going!!!

Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Exactly Hun. If it is meant to be then it will happen xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Here's hoping hun, please don't write yourself off just yet. We're rooting for you and your attitude is lovely xxx

 

[aimze]

I wanna join the mummy club!! Come on baby! Put his new toy in the cot today!

 

[dreamofabean]

Awww Hun, I am praying very haft for you! I remember the waiting and not knowing, it's torture! Just keep your fabulous attitude and you will soon know!!
As I'm typing this I have a certain little fella trying to bite my big toe cheeky monkey with his hurty gums!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Me too Aimze, good for you and your positive thinking Can only help right? Hope you have a busy weekend planned xxx

Hahaha, Dream your little man is super cheeky! Who needs a teething ring when you have mummy's toe!! Heehee! Little pink is currently chewing on one of her new Clarks shoes, thing is she's still wearing it! What's with these babies and feet?!!

 

[Rainy123]

Got to say aimze, I love your attitude that no matter the outcome it will be great for the child. Think I will remember this next time things seem tough.

 

[aimze]

Awww thanks rainy..I'm honestly finding this really hard...Spent a few mornings this week crying in bed not able to go into work (I'm allowed to work from home luckily)

Babies room is now finished, wardrobe also has baby boy clothes in...I can honestly say I love him already...

 

[dreamofabean]

That is exactly what we were like with our little man Hun. We loved him from the very first moment we saw his picture, and whilst an almost 4 month wait to know was torture, we loved him that little bit more each day! X

 

[aimze]

Hi Ladies! Hope all of your weekends where lovely

Tomorrow is D - Day! Feeling ok about it, we are who we are!!! I don't know what time the decision is being made, could be 10am could be 4pm but I doubt we'll hear back tomorrow anyway...Whats everyones experiances been like with waiting for news about links? Quick to get back to say Yay, Nay or keep me hanging!!

xx