Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

So much to catch up on!! Congrats to all those approved, good luck to those nearly there, and welcome to new readers

Loski, things seem so good and positive for you, I am so happy that you are so close to having your perfect family. The boys must be so excited Can't wait for more updates, there are more each day Reckon you will be having an amazing few weeks

All my love to everyone xxxxx

 

[Milty]

So amazing Loski

I hope I an like you and just know when I see matches...it makes me nervous knowing I will have to decide

 

[Loski83]

Morning all, we should find out on the 17th a timetable of events for when things are going to happen and get out matching panel date. I'm worried about her sw coming to our house cause don't know what they expecting to see.
Lolly the boys are really excited even the 16 year old stroppy teenage boy lol. They keep telling their friends that they are getting a sister soon there's a few people that have said to me 'congratulations when you due' and other comments along that line. Just going to let them think what they want and then they can work it out themselves when I produce a 10 month old lol.

 

[Milty]

My son talks about it all the time. When people ask I just respond "oh we are adopting this time" that type of thing

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone! :wave:

Hope you are all doing ok, despite this miserable weather!

Well after a sudden onset of panic on Sunday that we were waiting for nothing and that our loan repayment paperwork must be sat in a pile somewhere as it is taking AGES, DF rang up today to see what was happening.

The woman he spoke to said that she had 'just been passed our case this morning' (as if ) and while everything appears to be progressing nicely (could have let us know that ) we need to sign some papers. We originally emailed them as we were told this would be fine.... anyway, hopefully once that is done we can finally get it cleared and crack on DF reiterated the reasons why we are doing this and how important it is that this is sorted asap. I think she got the message. Just happy that hopefully we are getting nearer

Then to get back to both VA and LA and make one of the most important decisions of our lives.... no pressure

Love Lolly xxxxx

 

[Loski83]

Lolly hopefully it won't take long now to get proof. Looking forward to hearing your decision on agency and how it all goes for you.
Milty I think the whole world knows we are adopting the boys tell everyone lol.
Nothing happening with us at the minute back to the waiting game till Tuesday feels like forever lol xx

 

[Milty]

How fustraighting for you guys...the wait with SW are hard enough you don't need more.

Glad it's processing though

 

[zero7]

Hello all

So happy to say that we were approved at adoption panel today! So very happy.

XXXX

 

[Loski83]

Oh congratulations zero7 I am so happy for you, how did you find panel hope it was a good experience xx

 

[Butterfly67]

Congrats zero7 that is brilliant

So I sent in my form to attend the information evening on 23rd July which seems to be the first step in my area

 

[zero7]

Thanks Loski and Butterfly!

Panel went very well. Just a couple of simple questions and a unanimous YES!!

I was so nervous but hubby was so cool and brilliant!

Anyone who is nervous about their assessment, dont be - stick with it and stay strong to show resilience! We have had some really big issues but it all came good in the end.

XXXX

 

[Milty]

Oh Congrats Zero!!! Very exciting.

BF I'm excited for you too.

 

[Loski83]

Butterfly well done for making the first move towards adoption and there will be a very special child out there waiting to call you mammy xx
Zero7 I hope you get a quick match xx

 

[puppymom32]

Awesome news all around!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi ladies

Zero, massive congratulations That is fantastic news, I hope that you don't have long to wait before finding your family Thank you for the encouraging words. I think most people generally have some issues, it's just we have to explore them in massive depth and that can be worrying. I really appreciate the reassurance

Butterfly, that is great news. You have taken the first steps, maybe we will go throught this together, who knows

Hi to the rest of the gang, hope everyone is having a good week. Today we sent all the signed paperwork off so fingers crossed for a quick turn around now and getting on a prep course this year.

Yay for Friday tomorrow!! xxxxx

 

[Lyns]

We've been invited to a profile viewing in just under 2 weeks.......I'm sort of exited, but in a funny way have mixed feelings. We've not heard great things about profile events.....anyone got any thoughts xx

 

[Loski83]

We where booked in for one but ended up not going cause we got a match before so can't help, however just go with an open mind and keep to children that are within your limits.

 

[Milty]

We call the adoption parties here in the US


You feel really strange as you are going there but then everything seem normal when you get there. Here they usually have some fantastic event for the kids like clowns, petty zoo or magicians. The one I went to had all three. Then we adoptive parents went to a side room and could view the basic profile of all the kids there. Then they had a lunch were we could eat with the kids. If you wanted to talk or see one their SW would bring them to you in a lounge area off to the side. You could just talk with them but they also had books you could read and crafts you could do together that type of thing.

 

[Loski83]

Milty it's not like that here the children aren't actually present just sw from different authorities with childrens profiles. It's amazing how things are done so differently in other countries and really interesting to hear about.

 

[Lyns]

Well we spoke to our Social worker who told us not to expect too much from the event as it tends to be either larger sibling grups or children that have been in the system for a while, adn if she thought any of them were suitbale for us, she would have already pounced on them, but she encouraged us to go and be open-minded...said it can be a learning experience for us too, as to what we are drawn to....and not!!

BUT!!!!! She also mentioned that she has been approached by a social worker who says they may have a possible match for us!! No details at all yet, but she is meeting on Tuesday next week, so we should know more Tuesday/Wednesday!!!

Am trying not to get too excited but it's just all happening in here for us all at the mo!!!