Adoption journey

[Loski83]

S pleased for you lyns, Tuesday must be lucky day thats the day we found out about our lo and this Tuesday we hopefully get date for matching panel. Looking forward to Tuesday for both of us, good luck xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi all!

Ooooh its all happening on here and is so exciting to read! Tuesday will be a good day girls

Not much really to report from this end... still... sigh...

I spoke to a good friend yesterday and had a great phone catch up! I used to provide respite for the family at weekends. She adopted 10 years ago and was matched with a beautiful 13 month old. They later went on to have a miracle birth son who was later diagnosed with autism aged 3. I used to forget they were not biologically brother and sister as they look so similar in their features. Show how well they consider family resemblance when matching. I moved over 400 miles north 4 years ago but we are still in regular contact. It was lovely to speak with someone with such a wealth of experience, and despite all the changes of late she could relate to lots of our early experiences already and offered some good advice going forward. I said that I hope to update her soon

Getting very nervous as degree grades come in this week, my stomach is churning already So scary that 3 years of hard work boils down to this one email

Hope you are all having a lovely weekend, love Lolly xxxxxx

 

[Loski83]

Lolly good luck for your results and hope everyone is having a good Tuesday, mine is fantastic!
Our sw been to meeting and has phoned to say everything is perfect they really want us so we are onto the next stage. They are all coming to our house on the 30th july to meet us and look at our house I hope they don't think the bedroom is too small. Our sw is coming out tomorrow with loads more information to go through and work for us to get on with. I can't wait till tomorrow so we can find out more about our daughter

 

[Butterfly67]

Lolly good luck for your results and hope everyone is having a good Tuesday, mine is fantastic!
Our sw been to meeting and has phoned to say everything is perfect they really want us so we are onto the next stage. They are all coming to our house on the 30th july to meet us and look at our house I hope they don't think the bedroom is too small. Our sw is coming out tomorrow with loads more information to go through and work for us to get on with. I can't wait till tomorrow so we can find out more about our daughter

Aw how exciting Loski, I am sure the room is fine for a little one unless it is literally a broom cupboard lol

 

[Lyns]

Loski, the room we have is quite little. Our social worker said children are often comfiest in a smaller, cosier room anyway, as there is less in there to feel like open empty space when they first arrive.

We've actually kept a larger spare room for visitors as it was suggested to us that to move children out of rooms etc when grandparents come to stay is the worst thing we could plan.

All good news for you, so exciting.....our phone has been stubbornly silent today.....roll on good news tomorrow

 

[Lolly1985]

Loski, I've said it before and i'll say it again So excited for you, keep us updated with your wonderful news!


I have also had a happy Tuesday, I found out I got a first in my degree Haha, the name for this smilie is smartass!! So so happy today. Everyone at work was asking what I will do next, and I just shrugged (secretly thinking, hopefully I will be a mummy )

Hope everyone else is doing ok, and the journey is progressing, and the waiting is not too hard

 

[Butterfly67]

Ooh well done Lolly on your first - yes you are a

 

[Loski83]

Well done lolly I bet your on cloud 9 tonight
Our sw turned up tonight unannounced lol, anyway we know rough dates for when things should be happening and more things about our lo. Hopefully all going well we will have her home in 6-8 weeks

 

[Milty]

Lolly congrats ...it is a great feeling of accomplishment when you graduate.

Loski: 6 weeks will fly by. My appointment to review matches is on the 30th

 

[Lolly1985]

If i'm on Loski you will be on (cloud 27!! ) That is such fab news, does it feel real at all yet? I know I keep saying it but I am so happy for you

Butterfly, quite happy to be a for once Hopefully SW will approve as it is an early years degree. Technically I now know all about children, but the real lesson starts when you become a mummy, until then i'm sure I actually know very little. Yay for only 5 days How are you feeling about it all?

Thanks Milty 30th will be here in know time, how exciting

Hello to everyone else! Keep the good news rolling in please

 

[Loski83]

Butterfly I just noticed your new ticker only 4 days now xx
Milty good luck on the 30 hope you find a match
Lolly I am on cloud 27 lol but just sick of waiting it feels like the 30th is ages away. I was saying to my husband last night all the things I want doing before they come he asked me if I thought hews superman cause it only next week and I had to laugh cause in my head it's such a long wait and in his he doesn't have time to do DIY

 

[Butterfly67]

Lolly I am in two minds - 90% of the time I know it is what I want and am excited and then when I am out and I see a screaming toddler I am like are you sure? And then there is the fact that technically I know nothing about children and practically I know nothing either lol I just have lots of ideas about what I want to do with them like on Monday we will go to the library and choose some fun books then maybe Saturday morning will be baking morning etc etc

Loski, 30th does seem like ages away, I'm with you

 

[Loski83]

Butterfly you have 2 days filled with fun activities already, don't doubt yourself you will be a lovely mammy. Yes you will have days when your toddler will be screaming, however you will have days where he/she is full of smiles and happy. Good luck whatever you decide I think there is one very special child out there waiting for you to find them though xx

 

[Milty]

BF I've know you on the boards for awhile and I can tell you will do great!!!

Every new parent has these feelings...they are built into us on purpose. They come from the same place you use for insight into your child. If you don't have these feelings later you would not have that mothers intuition all parents need

 

[Lolly1985]

Nah it'll be here before you all know it! Tomorrow it is 10 days time, and on Monday it is only a week away Go hubby, get him working, haha! Hope it goes quickly for you all

Butterfly, I am loving the plans already. I think Milty summed it up great and it's true. You will be a great Mummy and don't think otherwise. And surely tears and tantrums are all part of the fun

 

[bluebumble]

loski - as a childminder do you have to take much time off?

 

[Loski83]

They have asked me to take 6 months off as it could upset the child to many people coming in and out of house and could resemble foster care. I have just handed my notice in today and finish work on the 17th August. Don't think I am going back to childminding might try and get a job in a nursery with place for our child. The placing agency is happy to pay me for a year to be off so think I might take them up on it and spend a year being a stay at home mammy xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Loski, I love your new ticker!!!

BF, today is the day Can't wait to hear how you got on!

Hi to everyone else, hope your Mondays have been good ones (well as good as Mondays can be.... )

Love Lolly xxxxx

 

[Butterfly67]

Only a week to go Loski

Thanks Lolly well it was an interesting evening. I have written a long post on my journal but the quick version is that it made it seems like very kid was going to be disturbed/abused in some kind of way and it would be a tough struggle. You are more likely to get approved if you opt for older and/or disabled children etc and the picture they painted wasn't very rosy. Having said that they had a couple of people there who had adopted and they were very happy that they had done it. I'm worried that I can't do it and that i don't have the strength of character to go through with it and deal with the issues. But then I can't really bear the thought of not trying Anyway, I have the form to send off if I want to go for it...

 

[Loski83]

Butterfly they give you the worst case scenario but it's not necessary true. We hopefully will get matched with a beautiful little girl who is 9 months tomorrow and is completely healthy so far. I know that's not the case for everybody but it's not all as bad as they say.
I can't wait till this time next week but I am panicking incase they don't like us or something