Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

We always found that we got a result at the end of the day, but then we were always waiting on court decisions etc.
Really hoping you hear tomorrow and that it's lovely news! X

 

[aimze]

Found out already....It wasnt us, another familiy where a tiny bit more suitable than we where......Gutted....

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh no sweetheart, I'm so very sorry :'( Thinking of you both and sending all my love xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

I hope you can take a little time out to reflect and grieve and concentrate on panel. We're here for you if you need to vent xxx

 

[aimze]

Thanks lolly...I honestly feel like I did when I didn't get a positive test from Ivf cycles...the fact it was my first pregnancies first birthday yesterday an my seconds due date in a week doesn't help

It just seems so cruel they do this, allow you to get attached to the dream an then put you up against 6 other people to choose x

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh Aimze honey, I'm so sorry
I agree with lolly, take time to process it all and grieve. You will find your baby honey, although it doesn't make sense now, one day soon you will be saying how glad you are that things turned out this way. Your baby is waiting honey, just needs a bit longer to find mommy and daddy xxx

 

[Rainy123]

Oh aimze, so sorry it wasn't the news we all hoped for. I think it is very natural to get really hopeful for the first link and I think that makes it even more painful

 

[LolaM]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjKFb-4t_vg

 

[aimze]

Thanks ladies....I'm ok now, just at the time it seemed the worst news ever...

I think I have some good news to share re another link which has happened very quickly, don't want to jinx it & not getting attached but will report back soon!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

We learnt tough lessons from a couple we of children we enquired about too. We got excited by the profiles and thought this could be it only for the match not to be suitable when our social worker got more information. So when little pink came along I was too scared to commit too soon. But it all worked out very well this end and I hope it does for you too Aimze xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh that's good news Aimze, will keep hopeful for you x

 

[Lolly1985]

Social worker visit went well today. We have draft copies of the life story book and later in life letter. I cried! But I always cry!! She also bought us a disc of photos from contact with birth family. We now have to find lots of pictures of little pink with us and all the family and email back so she can start the book. A month today until directions hearing. Eeek!

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek lolly!! How exciting! x

 

[aimze]

Wow lolly that's so close!! I'm so excited for you

So, was approached about a 2yr old...amazing, so many likes we can share an interests we will all love as a family...their SW want to meet us an were over the moon....

And then....a baby we saw (very little one!) an was told they had been linked 2months ago contacted us to say would we re look at baby...

Felt like was a real test of heart over head but heart won...Baby we would only choose because we'd love a baby baby! But our heart was with 2yr old!!!!

Crazy 24hrs!!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh wow Aimze! It's amazing how quickly things can change isn't it?! Do you know when you can meet their sw?is littlie a girl or boy? Very exciting times!
Our boy is keeping us very busy! He is getting more character every day and can be a real cheeky Charlie! Lol. He has gained a new tooth too, he looks super cute
Today dh is off work so we are taking him swimming. We've not taken him yet, in fact he's never been so we're looking forward to another first! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Aimze tell us more!! Brilliant news and like Dream says, how things can turn around. What's meant to be will be and I know when you have your little one you'll look back and everything will all make sense!

Dream you'll have a great time swimming. I love it and take little pink every week now. Always extra fun with daddy too!

Oh god, little pink just choked on a third of a grape, my legs are total jelly

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah lolly I'm a nightmare with choking, so paranoid!! It's only now that I'm relaxing slightly and giving him proper food! How bad!
Littlie adored the water! He splashed and kicked his legs and squealed! It bought tears to my eyes to see him so confident and at ease with it all such a proud mommy!!!

 

[aimze]

Oh no lolly is little pink ok?

Dream swimming sounds great!! I can't wait to do things like that!

We're just waiting for dates for everyone to agree on, we need to be approved first too...how long do you usually wait to meet them?

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks guys, she's ok, I slapped her back and it came out straight away. Then there was the delayed cry from the shock, mouth open but no sound job. I was just willing her to cry so I knew she was breathing! Then a minute of crying but about an hour of nervous wobbly legs for mummy! The rest of the grapes went in the bin!!

Our linking meeting was arranged for the following week once all parties were interested. It was quick though because the family finder was off for an operation the week after that. So excited for you Aimze!

How lovely Dream!! Did little man sleep well after swimming? So glad he liked the water

 

[dreamofabean]

Scary stuff lolly! Little man has choked a couple of times, once he was sick and the others he cleared it himself. It scares the holy Moses out if me! Glad she's ok though and mommy is too!!
Little man slept for about 40 mins after swimming in the car and then ate a huge lunch! Ha ha.
Dh is off work again today so we are going to a local town for a shop around and then out for lunch with our boy the restaurant is in the park so we are hoping it stays dry so we can have a walk and feed the ducks! Snow is forecast though so we shall see!!
Hope everyone has a lovely valentine's day xx