Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Dream I echo everyone's kind words as you know. We are all here for you hun xxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls your support means so much xx

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Dream I have a feeling if you have your heart set on him it'll all work out in the end lots of prayers your way I'm over here with tears in my eyes for you :-/ so sorry you can only go up from here

 

[LolaM]

court went. mom showed up wiht mystery grampa claiming that the kids belong to his son, who passed away and he wants the kids. so now we have to have DNA tests, grampa has to have a home inspection and the mother has to have a visit with the kids because, legally, we have to, even though she has been MIA for the last 4 MONTHS!!!We are still going ahead with severence of her parental rights, and we are NOT taking the siblings, and SW understands, or so she SAYS. We shall SEEEE

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Wow Lola .....I'm honestly thinking they wouldn't give the kids to grandpa but I duno how that works. We were up against our girls grandmother it was SCARY....I feel your pain. Just pray to God that this works out the way we all want it to and I'm gonna be praying my heart out b/c I was once in your shoes. I was sooooo scared they would go to grandma because she was a blood relative. They usually do that here...but thankfully by the grace of GOD we got our girls!

Lots of hugs your way....secretly hoping the DNA tests come back negative....so that would be off your chest....lots of prayers though!!

 

[LolaM]

Wow Lola .....I'm honestly thinking they wouldn't give the kids to grandpa but I duno how that works. We were up against our girls grandmother it was SCARY....I feel your pain. Just pray to God that this works out the way we all want it to and I'm gonna be praying my heart out b/c I was once in your shoes. I was sooooo scared they would go to grandma because she was a blood relative. They usually do that here...but thankfully by the grace of GOD we got our girls!

Lots of hugs your way....secretly hoping the DNA tests come back negative....so that would be off your chest....lots of prayers though!!

I have my suspicions. Where has this guy been for the last 6 months???

 

[karenh]

Lola: Ugh! Where did this guy come from. Hopefully mom won't show up for the meeting again like the last four months, and it is good that sw seems to understand where you guys are coming from. Grandpa seems fishy. I really hope things work out with that.

Dream: I can't believe they moved the date to October! How frustrating. I know it really sucks right now but if it all works out in the end it will be so worth it.

I am sorry everone is having such a rough time. I know the adoption journey can be really rough and suck so bad some times. I can't wait until we all have our littles and they are officially ours. It will be worth all this crap we are going through.

 

[aimze]

Lola grandpa sounds super fishy, an the dads died?! Where I'd that come from?

Happy Sunday to all x

 

[dreamofabean]

Morning all,
How are we??
Lola that sounds rather suspicious! I hope you get to the bottom of it soon!
I am feeling much better about everything and now realise I was being a bit over dramatic yes it's disappointing as we had all these deadlines in our heads but it isn't the end of the world. I just found it hard as I've always dreamed of bring a mummy before my 30th bday and now that won't happen, but it will after so really I just need to get a grip! Lol.
Dh and I have both discussed our options and agreed there really is only one. Walking away from little man is NOT an option we are willing to consider at this point. We are realistic though and agreed this time we wait but if this happened again we couldn't continue as it's just too hard having your hopes dashed again and again.
So now we wait... 6 weeks again... Anyone with a spare stash of sedatives?!

In other news, lolly has kept quiet about her very exciting deadline because we are all having rubbish times!
Friday marked two weeks until she meets little pink! only 4 days til panel now lolly!! Eek! Very exciting times

 

[Lolly1985]

Yay, go Dream, get your fight on girl!! Waiting is shocking but so glad you are sounding so much more positive. I believe if it's meant to be it will be (and it will!) and I know then you'll know it was worth the hoop jumping and the frustration of the wait. Good luck with your meeting tomorrow lovely, keep us posted!!

Dream you are so lovely! Yep, 4 sleeps until panel and 12 until we meet our girl. I know people are struggling so didn't want to shout about it too much, but now you mention it... (Ahhh!) haha!!

How is everyone?

Aimze how is the homework going?

 

[dreamofabean]

It's just amazing lolly! We need your updates to remind us at the toughest times why were doing this and how it can work out beautifully
I am beyond excited for you!!
Yup we have said before that little man already kinda feels like ours, probably a stupid thing to say but there is a string connection already. We are not prepared to dump him just because we have to wait longer! Then again I am THAT person in the supermarket that refuses to change queues too! bad analogy but you know what I mean! Once I'm committed it takes a lot for he to give in!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Definitely Dream. So glad you have taken that view. You are tied in emotionally so of course he feels like your boy. You have that connection and can't turn feelings off so I guess as infuriating as it is you have no choice but to wait. He'll be more than worth it hun! We are with you every step!!

Thank you! I know we have to get through matching panel first but we have been told it's just formality and everyone is happy we are meant to be her parents. Final hurdle until we meet our daughter. Hope this week goes quickly!

 

[dreamofabean]

We will all join you in wishing this week away honey!!! X

 

[Rainy123]

I agree with dream. When things are being delayed and generally being rubbish, it is great to hear that things are working out for others.

Lolly, not long to go now. Bet once panel is over with this week, you will be beside yourself. I know I would be trying to keep my emotions under control until that hurdle was done. S excited for you!

I heard from someone from my prep course today. They were placed with 2 children last month and sound so happy. Can't wait until that's me!

 

[zero7]

Dream - it will happen! Adoption is a waiting game - we waited for almost three years of nonsensical red tape, BUT, I wouldnt change a thing as it meant we got our gorgeous girl!

Lolly - so excited for you to meet your little bundle who, without doubt, will be the love of yours and your DH's lives.

Will be checking in again to see how it all goes!!! Xxxxxxxx

 

[LolaM]

The father passed away in afghanistan. Our baby is 7 months old, so it had to be recent. Grampa will take a DNA test to determine grand-paternity. Then he will need a background check and a home inspection before the kids can even think of being moved to his care, then he will need to be monitored to be sure he doesnt then just hand the kids back to mom, who is unable to parent.

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you so much for the support ladies!! We are very excited and I can't wait until each of you waiting gets to this point. Zero and Loski know how wonderful being a mummy is, I can't wait to join them. We have been busy this weekend unpacking toys, putting batteries in toys, making the pushchair (oh my goodness, how complicated?!!), sorting garden and patio and making it baby friendly!! Took all our old clothes to charity and did a bit of shopping. Next weekend is stairgates, blinds (would have been sooner but drill broke!) and mega cleaning!

What's everyone been up to?

Lola I can't imagine how difficult all this is for you. Hope they do what's best for these little children. Not knowing must be very hard.

 

[aimze]

Lolly how exciting so close!!!! Yay!!

We haven't started the homework yet...been too busy decorating but ill start this week...also enrolled as volunteers for rainbows an cubs for extra experience

Dream I really hope it flys by to Oct! Once this hurdle is over!!! X

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Lolly FAB news!! Yayyy I think showing the good in all of the waiting is good and shows how the process does come to a huge happy ending!!! Yyyaaaaaayyyyaaaa!!!!

 

[LolaM]

It is upsetting and scarey, we have given so much of our lives to care for him...and to have him go back to THOSE people <you all know the sort> who care only about the welfare check they can get from him...