Adoption journey

[Aimee4311]

I'm glad y'all had such a wonderful day! Congratulations again!

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you Dreamy... you better return the favour as I will by dying to hear all about little man Oh wow, how absolutely lovely of MIL, I can see why that meant the world. The acceptance of him into your family and the love already starting to grow... magical! So happy for you

Aimee looking at your ticker our LOs are very similar in age, 5 days apart!

 

[aimze]

Dream amazing your mil has brought some bits..I have the same worry with mine!

Done hours of coursework tonight, family tree, bio & a book about us complete! Just a few more bits to complete before Wednesday!

X

 

[karenh]

aimze: you are getting a lot done! Congrats!

Dream: How sweet about your MIL and how she is coming around. little man will be so spoiled.

Lolly: How wonderful to have your daughter home and sleeing in her room. What an amazing day. Thank you for sharing it all with us.

AFM: Our interviews were yesterday. I felt drained and a little discouraged afterward. I am sure some of that was PMS though. Now we wait to find out if we are approved. It will be a while.

 

[Lolly1985]

Self doubt is so normal Karen, but you are hopefully being over critical and have actually done really well. What is the time scale now? Big hugs to you xxx

Well little pink slept from 7.40 last night to 7.15 this morning!! Mummy had about 4 hours sleep!! She looked at little confused when she woke up but was soon full of smiles snuggling on mummy and daddy's bed. Not eaten much breakfast, but hey, we can't have it all!!

 

[Monkey78]

Oh lolly im still crying reading your posts. You are finally a mummy with a darling little daughter. Congratulations, you really do deserve it xxxx

 

[Rainy123]

I love reading the lolly updates too -thanks for doing them. It really helps you see how things DO turn out well sometimes. I am a little jealous but mostly completely excited and happy for you.

I have been busy with work but last night found my mind completely distracted by how much has changed for me. My SW could contact me any day now, next week or months away...crazy,

Karen - fingers crossed for you but you always seem to have great perspective and attitude on here so I'm sure that came across. How long do you have to wait?

 

[Aimee4311]

Thank you Dreamy... you better return the favour as I will by dying to hear all about little man Oh wow, how absolutely lovely of MIL, I can see why that meant the world. The acceptance of him into your family and the love already starting to grow... magical! So happy for you

Aimee looking at your ticker our LOs are very similar in age, 5 days apart!

Isn't it such a fun, wonderful age, isn't it?! It seems like Josalyn learns something new every day, which is so neat to watch!

 

[Lolly1985]

Rainy I get that because that used to be me! And it will be you too, like you say you could get a call or email any time. Hard to get your head around sometimes, but I really am excited for you too

Aimee, it really is a lovely age, little pink is desperate to walk and is standing at every opportunity, we have to mind out for bumps but the look of accomplishment when she walks along the sofa is lovely!!

Thank you monkey, how is your journey going? It's December panel isn't it? Really not that far off, 2014 will be a good year!

Well today hasn't been so delightful thanks to terrible teeth, or lack of teeth more to the point. She hasn't eaten much as her gums are so sensitive and has even rejected morning bottle and dummy at sleep time. I got upset and started thinking is it me, doesn't she like me, is her little head sad. She was screaming and just couldn't settle. But then the fiance gave me a big cuddle and suggested a bit of calpol and my happy smiley pink came back Also, note to self, try and SLEEP tonight!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh bless you Hun!! You are doing so well!! It's normal to doubt yourself and it will be normal if she's unsettled for a while, but she already loves you so much! Over 11 hours sleep does not signify an unhappy, unsettled baby!!

 

[Loski83]

I'm back from hols, been keeping up on my phone. Lolly your posts are beautiful and I'm so happy for you to have your little pink at home.
My little princess did so well we spent 8 hours in the car driving to my aunties house and she ran straight in to my grandma and said "hi grandma" to her I hadn't even told her who it was. All my family adore her and completely accept her. I was worried how my grandma would be as lo is the first child to be adopted I our family. At butlins she danced every night on the dance floor. She kept mammy fit as she thought it was fun to run away all the time and to be honest it was fun catching my baby instead of it being nieces or nephews. She met barney and her little smile was amazing. She rode a donkey I didn't think she would but she loved it. So overall she absolutely loved her little holiday and so did I it was different to usual as she kept me very busy, but it was an amazing 5 days where we bonded even more. I seriously didn't think it was possible to love someone as much as I love her.

 

[Lolly1985]

Loski, what a lovely post, you sound like you and all the family have had a great time together. You must be such a proud mummy!! So glad she has just slotted in so comfortably, it was always meant to be

So we are having slightly troublesome bedtimes the last couple of nights as little pink is used to going to sleep in a bouncy chair so only ever wakes up in her cot. We have been tough and put her down in the cot, blanket, dummy stroke on the head and out. When she's singing or shouting we have left her, when she gets upset been popping back in, lying her back down, dummy in, blanket and little soothing rub on the head. Then out again. It has taken all my strength not to scoop her up and give lots of cuddles, but don't want her to learn that if she cries she gets out to play, I want her to know cot means bedtime. It's working slowly. Social worker rang about an hour ago and said I'm doing the right things. Reassurance but establishing a new healthier routine. Pleased with that as I guess I really want her to feel safe and secure and wondered if I was doing the right thing by not holding her. Anyway, she's asleep and mummy can watch last night's xfactor!!

Love to all xxx

 

[Loski83]

Lolly we had to do controlled crying with lo to get her into a routine. It's really hard but well worth the end result. Good luck with it.

 

[LolaM]

yes, it is. Hubs and I were VERY rigid with baby boys schedule when he arrived and it has paid off, because now he knows we can be more flexible and relaxed with him

 

[karenh]

It is so good to hear that everyone is doing so well even though there is adjusting going on.

There really isn't a time like for us. We are waiting for background checks to come back and caseworker to write our homestudy, then we wait to be approved then we wait to be picked. We really have no idea when anything is going to happen now.

 

[Lolly1985]

Karen it must be so hard having no time fame, I really hope you are approved and chosen very soon, I know you are craving family life so badly and would be a fabulous Mummy

I had a bit of a wobble this morning Little pink is teething very badly and was so upset that it broke my heart She cried to come up but when I tried to cuddle her she thrashed and pushed me away. this repeated a while and I had a little sob. I worried that the reality had finally hit her and she was grieving, confused, hurting, missing her FCs and struggling As it turns out we gave her teething granules and she perked right up And as silly as this sounds i'm worried my little cat is stressed. She keeps biting me and lashing out, sleeps behind the curtain or furniture, and I miss cuddles with her We are all adjusting but it's hard work!! On a brighter note little pink only had to be settled down in her cot twice last night so that was great!

Mummy, Daddy and little pink walked to the woods today and had some lunch out. A lady in a shop commented at how lovely she was and asked lots of questions! She said she was a dink and I said just like her Mummy We stopped at the shop for some vapour rub as you have the snuffles at night and bumped into your Uncle S. You charmed him of course and we know Auntie T will be jealous he got to see that! ;D Mummy made sweet potato and butternut squash for tea and after the initial head shake and spit out before little pink had even tasted any, she ate up a good amount and Mummy was pleased as it is a total new taste We had a bump after tea and Mummy and Daddy had to blow hundreds of bubbles to calm you down! Nearly time for bath, bottle and bed. Oh, and Mummy mopped the kitchen floor today, total accomplishment!!

 

[dreamofabean]

A fabulous achievement!! I haven't managed that today and I'm not a busy new mummy!!!
Karen it must be tough not knowing, I have a kind of deadline and it's killing me!! X

 

[karenh]

Lolly I am sorry you had a rough day, but it sounds just like a normal day except the part about second guessing about fc. That would be totally normal for an adoption situation. Just remeber you are an amazing mom and little pink loves you. There will be hard days and there will be fenominal days, and sometimes that are one in the same, but they are all worth it. We are here to support you through all of them.

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you Karen, you are super lovely!! Big virtual hugs for the pick me up. Hope you're hanging in there too xxx

 

[LolaM]

Lolly I am sorry you had a rough day, but it sounds just like a normal day except the part about second guessing about fc. That would be totally normal for an adoption situation. Just remeber you are an amazing mom and little pink loves you. There will be hard days and there will be fenominal days, and sometimes that are one in the same, but they are all worth it. We are here to support you through all of them.

agreed. Even now, hubs and i have moments when we do not know what to do to comfort baby boy. Most days it takes both of us to care for him, i do not know how anyone does this alone. I was unable to maintain a clean house with the baby and work and pets and a husband and running errands, something was forever not getting done so i gave up and hired a cleaning lady to come in and do some cleaning, takes a huge amount of stress off me!