Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

Today we had little man's cake smash photo shoot it was great fun!
First we got some natural shots and I had littlie dressed in a romper that looks like a tux with a bow tie, very cute! He sat on a little car and then some shots with him playing with wooden blocks!
Then the cake smash! Little one didn't want to touch the cake he looked horrified and I had to bash the cake a bit to get him warmed up! He was rather shy to start with but did well I can't wait to see the images! I've just had a message saying she'll send me an edited image tonight so can't wait to get it!
All in all it was great fun and I'm hopeful we'll have some nice photographs to display in the house

 

[aimze]

Dream these cake smash photos sound amazing!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

I'm hoping they will be Aimze! With the cake he just had a white vest with a blue applique number one, he looked adorable, I could have just munched him!!
Can't wait to see the pics, he's such a handsome little fella so I'm hopeful they'll be good! X

 

[dreamofabean]

I've seen 2 images and omg they're so lovely! I may have to paper the walls with them

 

[Lolly1985]

Awww bless your boy!! He's just rich (as they say in Cornwall!) Or is other words totally gorgeous!! ♥♥♥

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks Hun we certainly think so! He's a handsome chappy and his whole face lights up when he smiles x

 

[Rainy123]

Dream, the photos sound lovely!

Really lovely, as ever, to hear everyone' stood news.

No news for me except work is hectic and driving me insane. Get me out of here SW!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Hurry up social worker, Rainy needs a break (for want of a better word!! ) xx

 

[aimze]

Awwwe dream they sound amazing!

Oh rainy I really want you to get a match soon!!!! Come on SW!!

Xx

 

[aimze]

Morning Lovely Ladies!

SW visit with babies SW and FF next week....What should I be asking? Theres only one thing that jumps out from the CPR so only general questions like:

What groups does he go to?
Has he been to the drs recently?
How is he with pets?

Basic things like that...Any advice on what questions we can expect? What format does it take? Do they look at our house first then sit an hav a chat?

I'm hoping we can get some dates if they like us for meeting FC, health visitor an most importantly MATCHING PANEL!

x

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh how exciting Aimze!
Ours was very casual! She had a look around the house, showed us DVD of our boy and then told us everything she knew about him and his case, confidentiality allowing. I've just found the notebook I wrote our questions in so I'll tell you what we asked, some were v specific about his background so I'll leave those out.
1. Has a DNA been taken/ is paternity definite (dates looked sketchy!)
2. Is contact with fb still taking place? If so, has final contact been arranged?
3. He was born by emergency c section, what was the reason for this?
4. In CPR it said contact had been cancelled a number of times due to medical appts, were these just routine appts?
Then we just asked a lot about his temperament, toys he liked to play with, routines, etc.

 

[aimze]

Ah amazing thank you! I'm soooo excited!!! I hope she has a DVD!!!!!

Best get tidying!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

That's amazing news!!! So excited!! We started by saying 'tell us about her' and then we just chatted casually from that point. Things they spoke about we kind of added to by making reference to things outlined in the CPR, know it inside out (brownie points!!) We asked a little about birth family's medical history and the extent of some of the learning difficulties in the family. Then they looked around the house and by then I knew it had gone well as they went saying things like 'look at her bedroom' and 'she'll love playing on a swing in this garden in the summer' We got biscuits and they wanted juice on arrival (it was scorching!) and when DF offered ice, well, I knew we'd nailed it, Hahaha!!

We've had a lovely day, meeting up with some girls I met on here during my IVF days. We have all kept in contact ever since. They carried on with treatments and one had twins on her forth cycle and the other a little boy conceived cycle five. Little pink was in her element with other children to play with. We had lunch out and a walk round a country park in the sun with our little miracles

 

[aimze]

Ah lolly how lovely!!! Sounds like a fab day

I couldn't imagine doing another Ivf cycle after #1, it really took it out of me...I remember crying every night trying to inject the burselin an wouldn't Pearce my skin!

Been buying frames a stuff today to make our house really homely...if they don't like us ill be pretty upset really!!

Happy Friday xx

 

[Lolly1985]

I know Aimze, 3 nearly finished me off. I was ready to stop after our second cycle but DF wanted to try again, he wasn't ready for adoption back then, so we had a third. How they kept going I'll never know but I truly admire their strength. And they have their beautiful babies so my god was it worth every second!

They will like you, it's sounding very good hun!! xxx

 

[aimze]

Yep when it works eventually I think it's amazing, it for us was just such a strain...I also think I got OHSS an the pain after egg retrieval was just horrific! I remember it like it was yesterday, when my mum drove me home it was like being sat on a ton of needles in my foo foo lol!!

Gosh I really hope we get dates next week for when we find out if they like us, I've heard of some people waiting weeks! But we are the only family an they approached us so I'm hopin it's looking good!! Eeeeeeeck come home soon!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

If you are the only family it is looking good lovely! I'm very excited for you. I just remember when they talked about little pink we were just beaming like idiots, but so were they. It was so lovely! It even says in little pink's later life letter something along the lines of 'whenever we would speak about you mum and dad's smiles would light up the room, they loved you before they met you'. I can't believe that meeting was nearly 8 months ago now! Like I said, my biggest tip is know the CPR well and make a few references to it. You'll be great!!

I feel your pain with the OHSS, I also got it during cycle two, it's awful isn't it? Because I have PCOS my existing cysts filled with fluid, it was horrible. Society views IVF as the miracle cure, they don't explain how it ravages your body. I'm so glad we've all moved on from it. Never again!!

Well today little pink's foster carers are coming over for tea and cake. They're coming here so she's in her safe environment. I am so torn apart to whether she'll have a flicker of recognition or not. It will be lovely for them to see how she's grown and developed, I just hope there's no fall out from it after. I'll let you guys know

Happy Saturday xxx

 

[aimze]

Lolly I hope it goes well! I can see why you'd be concerned about the fall out...I'm sure she'll remember them but maybe not quite understand why?

Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Well all went good, firstly because she has 4 new outfits from next and a big easter egg!!! Haha! But really, it went fine. They were here two hours and while I think she did recognise foster dad after a while she still came back to mummy for some cuddles every now and then. She also had a couple of tears when I nipped downstairs which reaffirmed that she does love and need me! It was clear foster dad is still smitten with her and I did feel an odd pang when he picked her up (a bit mummy bear like 'she's my baby now') But it was fine and of course I would rather it this way round! She showed them all her animal sounds, how she can show you body parts, her big girl teeth and most importantly how she can now run and climb! They remember the baby and couldn't believe her progress! They sent a lovely message thanking us and saying how her progress is down to all the effort we put into doing lovely things with her. They also said she's so settled and happy. It was a really sweet text. She's had her usual sleep and is quite happily playing as usual now, so far so good. She's an amazing little lady, so proud of her

 

[dreamofabean]

So glad it went well Hun!!
We've had a few grouchy days here! Little man is teething (I think!) he's off his food, tired but not sleeping properly, in and one of sleep for half the night! :/ I'm hoping he's in for a better night as I'm exhausted from the past few!!
Dh is on lates again tonight and tomorrow so I'm going to try and have a few early nights!
We've got his 9-12 month check on Monday and also a health visitor coming out to the house. Tuesday is the dreaded jabs if he's grouchy now then lord help us! Lol.
I looked into baby sensory classes a couple if months ago but they were fully booked, I've had an email this week to say they have a space so we're going weds to have a taster session
Hope you're all well xx