Adoption journey

[aimze]

Lolly how are you celebrating your amazing news? X

 

[dreamofabean]

Yay! So exciting Aimze a mommy to 2 before you know it!

 

[aimze]

Too crazy dream!!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Well it's other half's birthday and he requested a Chinese banquet... I'm stuffed!!

 

[aimze]

Oooo nom nom love them places lolly! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Yummy lolly!!!
Little man has made me so proud today guys I had to go to a funeral today and thought I should ask mil to have him rather than just my mom again. She was thrilled and excited to be asked (first time!) and I was as nervous as anything! He's never been left at someone else's home and can be funny with nanna! Well he waved me off happy as Larry and apparently was golden! She actually said she was amazed at how well behaved he is and how he plays independently! My fave comment was that she would take him over a day with dh's nephew any day! Now those kids, and sil to be honest, are the golden children in her eyes so it made me chuckle and feel rather jammy!
He was left for 3 hours and didn't moan once when I arrived back I heard him squeal when he saw me through the porch window and his arms were outstretched immediately such a little cutey!
Love him soooo much! Could just eat him up! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Beautiful Dream! What a total little star, you must be so proud! He coped very well and is obviously feeling secure enough to know Mummy would come back. And then when you did you certainly reaped the rewards!!! What a gorgeous boy he is!

 

[dreamofabean]

He really is lolly he's just wonderful. I still cannot believe just how lucky we are to have our boy he's cute as a button, so clever and absolutely hilarious! Love him xxx

 

[LolaM]

Yea they'd be fostered but he's being relinquished so she isn't fighting a placement order!

Fostering works well with us because more time with #1! X

oh goodness, how far along is she? can you stay with baby #1, go back to work for the 12 weeks and then take baby #2? How exciting and scary

 

[aimze]

Lola that was my first question but if I leave in April for #1 we'd have #2 placed oct so no time to return to work and I couldn't bear doing that to #1 we wouldn't share a bond or any secure attachment as it wod be like 2months with him before full time nursery!

We've worked another way, hubby takes #2 leave whilst I'm still off an switches to me when on stat! X

 

[Rainy123]

Wow aimze, huge news. Have you decided what you're going to do or still considering? There are so many things to think about - not an easy decision at all.

 

[aimze]

We haven't given it any proper consideration with regards to logistics because if we think about it we'll get bogged down with how we can't afford it, how stressful, how expensive nursery for two is....

So we've said yes to them considering us alongside birth family so we'll see! Yes it's going to be Massive struggle but these are siblings and it's not for me to split them up! Ball is in their court!!!

Very exciting though!

Nearly Easter weekend amazing!

 

[dreamofabean]

Whoop! Had our court paperwork through today! Hearing is beginning of July so just have to wait for a date for celebration hearing now time to start talking to vicars about his christening! Yay!!!

 

[aimze]

Dream that's amazing news. Yahooooooo so chuffed!!!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

I'm loving all the good news this week ladies

 

[aimze]

It's been a good news week!

Rainy when will you get panel dates? Mines in less than a week an 2 weeks till we meet our scrumptious son!! Something strange about the fact we had stage 1 in Aug & may we'll be parents..like adoption has been our pregnancy an lasted exactly 9 months...a girl said something lovely yesterday...I was eating loads if junk food an said I don't even have a excuse, she replied an said "well you are paper pregnant!" Just nice someone acknowledged how close we are!! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Hee hee Aimze! I remember my friend saying something very similar to me! Yup, you're the equivalent of 8 months pregnant! Eat what you want you will lose it all when baby comes home! I lost almost a stone when little man came home, shame it went back on once in a routine

 

[Rainy123]

I love paper pregnant - definitely going to use that one.

Not sure when I will hear about panel dates. My SW has been off sick this week but said she was putting the boys' social worker on the case. Got some bunk beds today - was going to wait until I paint to put them up but I can't resist.

Can't believe all the good news in here this week!

 

[LolaM]

not true. I got baby boy in June. Back to work end of July and he knows 100% who his mama is. I'm a teacher so I work 60+ hours a week and my hubs works 12 hour shifts. Bb not only caught up, he is now AHEAD on his milestones. It's not so importNt to spend every waking moment with him. Just lots of good interaction when you do!

 

[Lolly1985]

I think the system is very different over here Lola. It would be massively (I mean massively!) frowned upon over here. We have to specify how long we will be on adoption leave for prior to placement and breaking that so early could lead to big issues. Also wasn't little boy and bit younger so bonding was probably more natural and happened faster? Every situation is very different and each to their own, I really believe that because every child is an individual. But when I think of my daughter I think I would feel the same as you Aimze.

Hope everyone is having a lovely bank holiday weekend in the sun