Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Ahh brilliant news Rainy, I'm so glad it's happening quickly, about bloody time things progressed fast for you huh?! Can't wait for an update!

Dream it sounds the perfect family day out, the things dreams are made of Hope he went down well again tonight and you're back on track

Well it is chickenpox, poor little love even has them in her mouth. She's woken up crying twice so far, could be a long night. I can't settle knowing she's poorly, hate it

 

[aimze]

Omg rainy that's such amazing news! Yay

Argh Monday, so soon too :/) :/) yep leaving work 2weeks, intros are over 5days I location, 5th day come to us an foster carer comes to us for 3nights but mini me sleeps at ours :-D x

 

[aimze]

Lolly where's she got chicken pox from? Poor love x

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh brilliant Aimze, you must be brimming with excitement How have your families reacted to the happy news?

I think she got it at sensory group a week and half ago as the incubation period is 7-10 days so it fits and it's the only place we've been with loads of children. But could be anywhere really. Apparently children tend to get it between the months of March and May, yep! She was a bit unsettled last night but brighter this morning. Bless my spotty pink!

 

[aimze]

Awww poor baby hope she's feeling better soon an not too itchy!

My family are weird it seems, no one seems particularly bothered just keep saying when I talk of things like holidays for 2015 'oh you can't book that' yes I kno I can't book but I can look! Been really annoyingly actually...also fell out with MiL...found out via a friend she's been showing baby boys photo to people when she shouldn't, I sent a very very reasonable text saying please don't an wow she hit the roof! Saying she'll fall out with me, I'm a control freak with double standards! I'm sorry but whatever I say about my son goes, no control freak comments needed just dont show his photo!

Rant over lol x

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh no Aimze I had to speak to family about the same thing! Everyone is excited but nothing is certain until panel, I get that I had fil making comments during intros and his first week home that we were unreasonable not allowing family to see little man immediately! I told them where to go, it was in littlie's interests. Adults should be able to accept what they're told and move on!
Not long for you now, I bet you can't wait!! As for people not seeming bothered, I felt that too. My one sister made a comment about how 'we'll have to learn to love him as we get to know him, whereas with my daughter you already loved her before she arrived.' It really hurt me and afterwards she apologised as she fell for him immediately! I'm sure once your LO is home they'll all adore him and love him to pieces!
Ah lolly your poor little Pink! Sending big cuddles from our house to yours xx

 

[aimze]

Dream so true...gosh I'd literally swot someone if they said that! What is wrong with people lol!!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

It was said quite innocently, she didn't understand why I'd taken offence at first! families eh?!

 

[LolaM]

I got very lucky with my inlaws, they understand that the child isn't OURS yet, but they love and adore him just the same. They send him presents and cards and ask after him all the time. And he CLEARLY isn't ours, with his dark curly hair but honestly, very few people have given us double looks or asked if he was ours.

 

[dreamofabean]

Lola I think people just don't think to question most times. My step sister is a foster carer and at one point had 3 babies: 12 months, 17 months and 20 months. I remember her being asked their ages and someone saying 'ooh you didn't waste anytime!' Erm, humanly impossible!!

 

[karenh]

Hi guys. I don't know how much of this i will catch up on, it has been a while. Also, I don't know how much I will be on here, because I just don't feel as though I have anything in common with anyone any more. However, I did just want to let you know I have finally found a job and our profile went up for mothers to choose us on Thursday. I hope it doesn't take long, bit still not holding my breath. I hope you are all doing well.

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi Karen,
Lovely to hear from you hun! Fantastic news about your job and your profiles going up! Fingers crossed you will hear something very soon!!

 

[Rainy123]

Karen - so good to hear from you. I have often wondered how you are getting it on.

So tomorrow is the day for me - meeting the boys' social worker. Very nervous. I have only see a brief profile so I expect it will largely be her talking me through them and giving me their CPR but wondered if you knew of any key things I should be asking. I expect she will lead it and I will just absorb but don't want to look like a dummy by missing something key.

 

[karenh]

Good luck tomorrow!

Today I am working on pass along cards to try and help the process along. It is kind of stressful trying to decide what the perfect card will look like.

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh it's difficult to know what to ask if you haven't had the CPR yet!! I suppose id be asking things like:
How long they've been in care, reasons for being taken, how many foster carers they've had, contact they've had with bf, any medical issues, and then the interesting stuff about their personalities and likes and interests! Good luck rainy!!!

 

[aimze]

Karen so good to hear from you! Congrats on the job Hun

Rainy wow tomorrow! How exciting!! yay!!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Good luck Rainy! What Dream said really! Maybe you could ask if either attend any nursery, whether they are meeting milestones and how their routine is, but can't think of many other things to add really. Other things like comforters, favourite toys etc would be questions for foster carers. Will be thinking of you

Aimze I'm sorry about all your family issues, sadly adoption isn't for everyone and they pass on their ill informed judgments All you need to think is soon you'll have your own little family which will take priority over everything

Karen great news about the job, well done! Wishing you lots of luck with your profile

Love to Dream and little man, Monkey, Zero, Loski and their ladies and Lola and your boy

Little pink seems to have come up with all her spots now. Hoping that is the worst over. Court case this week, feeling sick.... xxx

 

[aimze]

Ah lolly!! I hope that this is it an little pink is nearly with your surname!!

Rainy!! Tell all!! X

 

[Rainy123]

Well ladies, it all went well (apart from no social worker ever being able to find my house!). Spent a long time chatting to my new SW, who is lovely, and she said I will be fine with panel because I speak so passionately

Then boys social worker arrived and she is lovely too. Lots of information but nothing frightening me off. I have to mull it over until tomorrow (although I know now I want to progress) and then get in touch with them. The boys seem lovely - no huge issues to deal with. The oldest has some behaviour problems and may struggle with attachment due to age and living with birth parents a long time, but they still seem perfect to me!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Rainy I'm so very happy for you!!!!! This is so exciting