I'm so glad this subject has come up! I've been having an internal debate with myself. My midwife told me one glass of wine, with dinner, once per week, was perfectly fine. It does no more harm (she said) than ultrasounds, diet sodas, gaining too much weight, and the long list of other things we do...basically, it does no harm. But when I had a glass at a family celebration a few weeks ago, my father went off on me!! So I've been struggling with the issue. On one hand, I really enjoy wine. I only ever (pg or not) have one glass with dinner, I LOVE the taste of it, and I almost never drink to get intoxicated. Yet the other part of me wonders, "Am I an alcoholic since I desire that one glass every now and then." My father said, as many of you, "Why take the risk?" What I have kind of come to is that I don't see it as a risk. For the many, many generations before, women occasionally drank when pg. Women in other countries still do. My midwife said it is fine. I know many women who would not give up chocolate for 9 months if told the little bit of caffeine in it might possibly cause harm to the baby, though there is no evidence it will. Wine, for me is no different. I enjoy taste. I miss it like some women would miss chocolate. I don't think this makes me some alcoholic or horrible mother. In the end, I do think women should decide for themselves and I think, in the end, it all balances out. There is some new research coming out that says ultrasounds could, maybe, cause problems. I don't know if that is true or not. But I figure, if I do have the occasional glass of wine but never get an ultrasound, my "risk" for harming my baby is no different than the woman who gets ultrasounds but doesn't drink wine. I feel pretty confident, both of our babies are going to be just fine and go to Harvard together