am i just being selfish now??

[Ozzieshunni]

I would have killed DH if he went out when LO was 2 weeks old and came back drunk. He would be finding another place to stay.

 

[patch2006uk]

But he doesn't need to stay out till 3/4am! He can go out after work and come home at a sensible time too!

Hmm, rolling in at 3am when I'm asleep, or turning up pissed at 11pm when I'm not. Not sure which is worse!

You were asleep at 3am with a 2 week old baby? *jealous*

Actually yes. She was still in hospital.....

But once she was home, 3am was between feeds. 2am or 5am I'd have been up.

sorry, completely didn't spot the adjusted age on your ticker.

My LO still had days and nights completely backwards, so sleep felt like a distant memory at 2 weeks!

 

[whit.]

I think you're being unreasonable tbh

Works work. He is leavin his job and won't see some of these friends again. I dont think he's askin the earth to want a last night out with them on this own

I definitely don't think she's being unreasonable. If the people he is going out with are real 'friends' then why wouldn't he see them again just because he's switching jobs?

Sophia is 8 weeks old and I'd still be upset if my DH went out for a night and came home piss drunk in the middle of the night. Let alone with 2 other kids to look after plus a 2 week old. At least I can nap with Sophia during the day if we have a long night, can't really do that with a 6 & 4 year old.

 

[Shannyxox]

I think its selfish!!! Hope your okay xx

 

[tu123]

My hubby was really hands on with LO whilst he was off work. He was asked out for celebratory drinks often with his brothers and pals. BUT, all he wanted to do was sleep!

At two weeks, he would stay up with LO until 3am and i would take over after. We had a nightmare in the first few mths.

I think your feelings are normal re;sex. You go through so many emotions post partum and the hormones drive you nuts. Add that to tiredness and baby worries it is not suprising you are having some paranoid thoughts.

I dont see why there cant be a compromise? It is an important time of all your lives to cherish.

Cant he go out and come back a bit earlier?

Just how MY relationship works tho.

 

[stardust599]

My hubby was really hands on with LO whilst he was off work. He was asked out for celebratory drinks often with his brothers and pals. BUT, all he wanted to do was sleep!

At two weeks, he would stay up with LO until 3am and i would take over after. We had a nightmare in the first few mths.

I think your feelings are normal re;sex. You go through so many emotions post partum and the hormones drive you nuts. Add that to tiredness and baby worries it is not suprising you are having some paranoid thoughts.

I dont see why there cant be a compromise? It is an important time of all your lives to cherish.

Cant he go out and come back a bit earlier?

Just how MY relationship works tho.

Agree with this!

I think it's perfectly reasonable for him to want to have a work night out, we all need our own time with friends, let our hair down and switch off - he probably wants to get away from all the stress of kids etc. and it'll be hard to completely switch off if you are there too you know what I mean? And of course he'll want to party with his work mates to celebrate his new job.

BUT

Your LO is 2 weeks old and you have 2 young children too, I'm guessing you're probably exhausted, you'll have been on your own all day and once the older 2 are finally in bed you still have a newborn to deal with all night.

His timing really sucks and if it was my relationship I'd be looking for respect and consideration for me as his partner and mother of his children.

It would be better if he could just have a small night out (like a meal and a drink) then home to help and support you. And arrange his big night out for 6weeks time or something? xx

P.S. the sex thing is completely normal, it's hormones and feeling yucky post-pregnancy, it'll pass and things will get back to normal xx

 

[CLH_X3]

I don't think he's being selfish at all .. Why can't he have a night out on his own with his work friends .
my oh went out with his friends at 2/3 weeks to celebrate the baby being born.. I didn't have a problem with it and he come home at 4am!
Whenever iv gone out on a night out with work iv never asked my oh and neither has anyone else at work :s
My LO has always been a good sleeper though at 2 weeks waking once at night after having a feed at like 11 ...