Don't apologize to us. It's only you that is going to get hurt here.
I don't mean to sound like a bitch but you owe him NOTHING after what he did to you.
NOTHING. Not an explanation, not a check-in, not even the time of day.
If you can be friends, great. From my own personal experience (and the experience of others) I can tell you that I would be VERY surprised if he suddenly turned around. It sounds like he's still manipulating you. If he really loved you he wouldn't have treated you like that from the get go.
Like I said, I'm sorry to be a bitch but I really think you need to hear that. I hope everything comes out ok for you.
agreed ^^
I wonder the difference between "mates" and "really good mates"
If he were to get another girlfriend tomorrow, how would you feel? Are you ready to be able to let him get on with his life, or do you think you would be really upset? I am suspecting it is the latter, which is understandable, judging by how long you have been broken up.
What I am trying to say is, it's ok to be civil, but please be aware he is a manipulator, and there's every chance he could flutter those eyelashes at you and you'll be back to square one.
I agree with both of these.
If he loved you that much and just couldn't take doing that to you anymore and wanted to be with you, wh not get himself into some sort of counseling with a pastor or anger management classes or couples counseling or something of the sort? If he loved you that much and couldn't take treating you like that and still wanted to be with you, he could have.. I don't know... stopped treating you like that (he never should have started in the first place). I've got red flags going up all over the place over this for you. It sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too, in the form of being single but still keeping you on the line. He sounds like a manipulative douchebag and I really think for your own emotional well-being, you ought to distance yourself from him, especially while you're trying to get over him. It sounds VERY much like he's still trying to play you and I hope you won't let him.
He's tried counselling in the past and it doesn't work for him
. I've tried it aswell and wish i never did
.
I spoke to a good friend of mine who i actually met through my OH, and she warned me to be more careful and not to be 'second best'. I'm going to speak to him later today, i'm worried about him. His new druggy girlfriend seems to be playing the game on him, using him because she knows he was weak
. We're staying mates, and when i mean mates i mean i am not sleeping at his no more, having sex with him or no kissing.
This would make a good Jeremy Kyle Show
I have respect for myself and my feelings,...