annoying wedding gift

[louloudedos]

I've been with my dh for 4 years and we just got married last week. We are trying for our 1st as of last month. We wanted to start before I turned 30. I'm 28 now. One of his aunts gave us a scroll of papers saying congrats on our wedding, BUT it mentioned 3 times how he shouldn't be a daddy for many many years. I took this personally. Am I over reacting?

 

[froggyfrog]

I don't think so. That's rude. It's nobody's place to comment on when you guys decide to become parents!

 

[Tink_]

I completely agree with the above; it is your choice with your partner as to when you should have children and I would be hurt & upset too if somebody was commenting on it!

x

 

[alchemy]

One person's opinion. I would just ignore it, no reason to waste your time fuming.

 

[louloudedos]

thanks guys… I will just let it go. But I will be glad when I can break the news that I am expecting. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

 

[crazycatlady5]

People always like to comment on having children one way or another when you get married. I don't think it's anyone else's business.

When I got married someone gave us a baby blanket as a wedding gift!

 

[alchemy]

thanks guys… I will just let it go. But I will be glad when I can break the news that I am expecting. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

Let it go, let it go...

 

[KatO79]

Nope I'd be annoyed to. It's always so rude of people when they start mixing into when you should have kids. It's none of their business!

My advice is to what others say and do what feels right for you and your DH

Good luck

 

[jumpingo]

thanks guys… I will just let it go. But I will be glad when I can break the news that I am expecting. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

love the snarky undertones of the happy dance guy

People always like to comment on having children one way or another when you get married. I don't think it's anyone else's business.

When I got married someone gave us a baby blanket as a wedding gift!

that is horrible!! obviously i wouldn't, but what i'd *want* to do is send it back with a note saying, "thanks so much for the wedding gift, but we got MARRIED. perhaps this baby shower gift got sent to the wrong address?"

 

[stormageddon]

Wow. What a rude aunt. Don't let it get to you, no matter what people comment. It could be worse. I worked in a nursing home and had a resident frequently ask rather loudly and publicly if I was pregnant when she knew I wasn't.

Also had people be rather rude when they find out that I have been married five years and don't yet have kids. I figure no matter what people are going to be rude. If it isn't someone you trust expressing concern--f it. Just listen to those you trust and value their opinion. If you are ready for kids then go for it! Surround yourself with positivity, keep calm and f the naysayers.

 

[biscuits104]

People always like to comment on having children one way or another when you get married. I don't think it's anyone else's business.

When I got married someone gave us a baby blanket as a wedding gift!

No way!!! Jeez, that's ridiculous!!! DH and I have been married for nine years and my father in law told him the other day that he "needed to quit shooting blanks". We just started TTC last month!

 

[KatO79]

People always like to comment on having children one way or another when you get married. I don't think it's anyone else's business.

When I got married someone gave us a baby blanket as a wedding gift!

No way!!! Jeez, that's ridiculous!!! DH and I have been married for nine years and my father in law told him the other day that he "needed to quit shooting blanks". We just started TTC last month!

Wow, that's pretty rude

Unfortunately it seems like that as soon as you get married, people are expecting you to announce a pregnancy within the first 6 months. If not, they start asking and irritating you with it

Luckily my in-laws are polite enough to not have been irritating us with questions these past 5 years of our marriage (1 year since TTCing) but I'm sure they've been wondering. DH's grandmother told us after announcing we're going for assisted conception that she's been wondering for a while but didn't want to impose. My soon to be ex-SIL didn't help things as apparently she got pregnant with #1 about 3-4 months after the wedding She was also younger than me at the time when she started, like 28-29 while I started at age 34½

The only irritating people have been DH's friends. One went so far he'd comment every time he saw me on my "flat belly" After TTCing one of his friends had a baby and last time I saw her, she asked me while playing with her baby son "Don't you want one of these?" I didn't answer her (it stung though as we'd been trying for 7 months and I had my chemical 1 week later after her questioning) but really, can't people just learn to mind their own business

 

[biscuits104]

KAT I love that you have a cat counter!! I need one of those, well, 2 of those haha. Best of luck to you and your husband. People really do need to keep their thoughts to themselves (especially when it comes to TTC).

 

[KatO79]

KAT I love that you have a cat counter!! I need one of those, well, 2 of those haha. Best of luck to you and your husband. People really do need to keep their thoughts to themselves (especially when it comes to TTC).

Thanks You can get a cat counter from this site: https://pitapata.com/

My only complaint is I couldn't get the cat in the exact colors of mine as she's Blue & White semi-longhaired but the closest I could get was the Black & White longhair Would be cool if you could get a cat that looked almost exactly like your own in terms of colouring and coat length

Thank you Hope you soon see your too

Yes people really need to learn some manners Thankfully that male friend now knows we have issues conceiving and has kept his mouth shut since but if I'm still not pregnant when I next see DH's female friend (whom we see maybe 1-2/year) with the little boy, I might try and start crying next time she asks so she can learn that the question can be sensitive for some people. All I have to do is think of some horrible stories I've read about abused cats recently and I'll start bawling One of them I should never have read as it was particularly upsetting and it'll haunt me for years to come

 

[biscuits104]

KAT I love that you have a cat counter!! I need one of those, well, 2 of those haha. Best of luck to you and your husband. People really do need to keep their thoughts to themselves (especially when it comes to TTC).

Thanks You can get a cat counter from this site: https://pitapata.com/

My only complaint is I couldn't get the cat in the exact colors of mine as she's Blue & White semi-longhaired but the closest I could get was the Black & White longhair Would be cool if you could get a cat that looked almost exactly like your own in terms of colouring and coat length



Thank you Hope you soon see your too

Yes people really need to learn some manners Thankfully that male friend now knows we have issues conceiving and has kept his mouth shut since but if I'm still not pregnant when I next see DH's female friend (whom we see maybe 1-2/year) with the little boy, I might try and start crying next time she asks so she can learn that the question can be sensitive for some people. All I have to do is think of some horrible stories I've read about abused cats recently and I'll start bawling One of them I should never have read as it was particularly upsetting and it'll haunt me for years to come

Oh no! I think I know what story you are talking about. Was it a video that youtube wouldn't take down? Ugh, I can't handle it, I'm just like you, I would cry in a second!

 

[KatO79]

KAT I love that you have a cat counter!! I need one of those, well, 2 of those haha. Best of luck to you and your husband. People really do need to keep their thoughts to themselves (especially when it comes to TTC).

Thanks You can get a cat counter from this site: https://pitapata.com/

My only complaint is I couldn't get the cat in the exact colors of mine as she's Blue & White semi-longhaired but the closest I could get was the Black & White longhair Would be cool if you could get a cat that looked almost exactly like your own in terms of colouring and coat length



Thank you Hope you soon see your too

Yes people really need to learn some manners Thankfully that male friend now knows we have issues conceiving and has kept his mouth shut since but if I'm still not pregnant when I next see DH's female friend (whom we see maybe 1-2/year) with the little boy, I might try and start crying next time she asks so she can learn that the question can be sensitive for some people. All I have to do is think of some horrible stories I've read about abused cats recently and I'll start bawling One of them I should never have read as it was particularly upsetting and it'll haunt me for years to come

Oh no! I think I know what story you are talking about. Was it a video that youtube wouldn't take down? Ugh, I can't handle it, I'm just like you, I would cry in a second!

Nope it was this one: https://uglythecat.com/

Please have tissues ready because it's so unbelievably sad

My big brother posted it on his FB page and seeing it was about a cat was expecting some sad abused cat that'd be rescued in the end but nope, such a truely heartbreaking ending I cried for days afterwards