~ Anorexia, Bulimia & Eating Disorder Support Thread ~

[Rin731]

Don't restrict hun. That's the worst thing you can do as it will encourage unhealthy eating habits. Just do your best to eat heathily. I have experience in the area of nutrition, so PM me if you want further help.

Oh I know. I know how to do it healthily.
And thanks, I might take you up on the PM.

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It's just so frustrating when DH wants to eat like that, and yes, it's MY choice whether or not to eat what he eats, but our grocery list is FULL of processed foods, and we went out to eat...5 or so times this past weekend (which I hate) because DH was home and wanted to eat that way.

And EVERY time I try to talk about it, he only says, "You know, we don't eat THAT badly...", which isn't good enough for me. We bought a packet of cookies (HIS REQUEST, the kind with the big sleeve of them in a packet), and by the end of the night, he'd eaten the 5-6 in the first portion of the sleeve, and I'd only had a 1/2 of a cookie.

I rather prefer when he's at work and I can eat a peanut butter sandwich by myself.

 

[fluffpuffin]

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Husband is off work this week, so of course this weekend we had Chinese, McDonalds, Taco Bell, and fried chicken, not to mention cookies, crisps, and chocolate.


WHY can't he understand that it's so difficult when he wants to eat like that???

He asks, "What can I do?" and I tell him "Not ask for those things for dinner.", and he says, "I don't MAKE you eat anything."

I'm so miserable right now. I can't sleep, all I want to do is restrict tomorrow.

If you cooked something you could make healthier meals. Would he eat them or does he insist on buying take aways? If I dont cook my hubby just buys crap food as well so I give him no choice and he usually likes and eats what I cook.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

Today is a bad day. I thought it was getting better.

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All I have eaten today is two slices of plain white bread. I physically can't put any food into my body.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

Does anyone know if EDs can affect cycles?
This is the 4th month in a row where its been between 2 and 6 days late, i'm 100% certain i'm not pregnant. My BMI is still 19.9, so technically still a healthy weight.

yes it does. I only used to get a period once every 3-4 months. so I only ov'd 3-4 times a year! since going on the pill they have regulated but i know if i come off the pill they will go back to shit

 

[HellBunny]

just found out today i am pregnant.. mixed feelings, kind of got my head around things now but this ED thing won't be gone. I am going to try and eat healthy for LO.. but it will be a struggle, i will never be free.

 

[Groovychick]

Be positive hun, you will be free. Why not seek out some counselling for your ED?

 

[HellBunny]

Be positive hun, you will be free. Why not seek out some counselling for your ED?

I might speak to them about it once i've been to the doc/midwife etc. Its such a shock.. i had no idea. I'm hoping if i set myself out a meal plan.. healthily, i will cope, i will no doubt fully relapse when he/she is born.. but for now, if i can eat for the sake of LO, things will be okay x

 

[EllaAndLyla]

congratulations Hellbunny, hope things look up for you too, try not to think about relapsing because it will take over you mind. Have a happy and healthy 9 months! xx

 

[Rin731]

just found out today i am pregnant.. mixed feelings, kind of got my head around things now but this ED thing won't be gone. I am going to try and eat healthy for LO.. but it will be a struggle, i will never be free.

Congrats? I hope it goes well for you.

 

[Rin731]

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Husband is off work this week, so of course this weekend we had Chinese, McDonalds, Taco Bell, and fried chicken, not to mention cookies, crisps, and chocolate.


WHY can't he understand that it's so difficult when he wants to eat like that???

He asks, "What can I do?" and I tell him "Not ask for those things for dinner.", and he says, "I don't MAKE you eat anything."

I'm so miserable right now. I can't sleep, all I want to do is restrict tomorrow.

If you cooked something you could make healthier meals. Would he eat them or does he insist on buying take aways? If I dont cook my hubby just buys crap food as well so I give him no choice and he usually likes and eats what I cook.

I do cook all the time, but we're on a budget and sometimes processed food is cheaper. But I try my best to cook healthily.

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Really, the issue is portions. He'll come back from the kitchen with 5 cookies in his hand (after dinner) and say, "What? It's not that bad.", if I say something about it.

I try, ( and I think he does too...) it's just that he doesn't think it's an issue, he doesn't take me seriously. I said something when we were sharing a big can of ravioli for lunch, and he said, "I really can't take you seriously because it's not that bad."

I'm at LEAST 75-80lbs overweight (as is he), and it's NOT THAT BAD???

I want to exercise more but I get so panicky and depressed when I try b/c I can't stop thinking how awful and gross I am to get so heavy...

I'm just so depressed all the time. All I want to do is lay in bed and cry...

Sorry such a sob story. Just feeling really really down.

 

[HellBunny]

Does anyone know if EDs can affect cycles?
This is the 4th month in a row where its been between 2 and 6 days late, i'm 100% certain i'm not pregnant. My BMI is still 19.9, so technically still a healthy weight.

yes it does. I only used to get a period once every 3-4 months. so I only ov'd 3-4 times a year! since going on the pill they have regulated but i know if i come off the pill they will go back to shit

lol, turns out i was actually 100% pregnant! eeek xxx

 

[Groovychick]

How are you feeling about your pregnancy hun?

 

[HellBunny]

How are you feeling about your pregnancy hun?

Mixed, was unplanned but i am excited now food wise i'm actually okay.. i know i have to gain weight and if i eat sensibly (can't eat anything with sugar due to last pregnancy i had gest diabetes.. so hoping to avoid it lol) i still weight myself alot.. i guess that in itself isn't doing any harm to bubs.. but i'm staying positive.. if i gain i will tell myself its for the baby etc. Symptoms are completely different to DS1 though! I'm so emotional and moody.. keep crying lately xxx

 

[Groovychick]

Staying positive is great hun; keep it up! And we all know those emotions are down to pesky hormones!

 

[mayb_baby]

Uni is killing me slowly
I don't think I'm coping

 

[tasha41]

Do you think it's possible to not consciously make yourself vomit? I keep getting sick. Though I'm not making myself sick... I don't mind either all the time- it's embarrassing because like I can't control it, I puked infront of a friend that was over at my house, and at work (people heard me wretching), at home with OH & his friend here... I've had a few triggers lately, watched an ED documentary and then went on YouTube and watched a bunch of ED videos and listened to Courage by Superchick and all kinds of stuff...

I have had 3 BFNs..

 

[louandivy]

Definitely possible Tasha, when I was came out of a bulimic phase I would still randomly throw up whenever I ate creamy/fatty foods, even though I wasn't actually making myself do it. Weirdly I have developed a pretty intense phobia of vomiting now,maybe because suffering from bulimia was so horrific.

I know its difficult but I would definitely try and stay away from all the ED documentaries, they are so fucking triggering! I wish that people who wrote books about their struggles didn't include things like how many calories they consumed and what exercise they did, surely they can write about their experience without triggering and giving ideas to thousands of anorexics and bulimics in the process?! Big hugs hun

 

[Rin731]

Uni is killing me slowly
I don't think I'm coping

I always had a harder time whilst going to college- thin girls EVERYWHERE.

 

[mayb_baby]

Fed up

 

[HellBunny]

Fed up

Whats wrong hun? x