Anxiety....

[CVR1986]

Hi all. I got a bfp on Friday 5th Feb, it was our first cycle ttc after a mmc last April.
I feel so anxious this time around. Every time I go to the toilet, I expect to be bleeding, and I am so scared of going for a scan and there being no heart beat again.
Any advice on how to chill out a bit?

 

[Linzalora]

I'm sorry you're having anxiety. I am, too. How are you feeling today?

I was so worried until I past 7w, then I felt better. I had a scan, heard a heartbeat, and was thrilled, but then the doctor said it was measuring 1-2 weeks behind. I fell into misery again. At the encouragement from DH, I told my family the good news, and that was uplifting. I also told some close friends who are checking in on me more, which really has helped.

It seems that the general agreement is that if you're pregnant now, you're pregnant now. Some women on here have suggested journalling, so I'm starting that now. In the end, I know that I can't change anything so I try to celebrate something (even tiny things- like going for a walk, eating a salad, or having symptoms) about each day that I get to carry this little life. It doesn't always take away the anxiety, but it does help.

Hobbies can help, too. What are your favorite activities to do in your free time?

 

[live_in_hope]

hey hunny xx

I too feel exactly the same. My mmc was discovered at 9 week scan. Heart had stopped beating at just over 7wks... We had seen baby at 6 weeks and all was fine.there was no baby related reason why we had those scans early, i had a gallbladder attack at 6 weeks and so they scanned me just to check baby was ok then I had a pribate one booked for 9 weeks that we booked when I got my bfp..ljust as well otherwise we wouldnt have known until the 12 week one. We had no pain, bleeding or anything to believe the pregnancy wasnt progressing. I never suffered much with ms or many other symptoms with my daughter so when the same thing happened, i didnt really question it. That should have been my clue. So naturally this time, every day I dont feel pregnant, I worry, get anxious. This week I have been a lot more positive and even brought some baby bits, because right now I am still pregnant...my 12 week scan is next week....i really hope I am one of those lucky ones who just doesnt suffer with early preg symptoms badly...all I feel now is the tiredness. Its such a tiring/mentally draining time and I dont know if it will ever truly go away but talking about this baby and buying things has helped me feel better, because for the here and now, we are pregnant good luck hunny, wishing you alk the best xx

 

[CVR1986]

Thank you ladies.
I wouldnt have known until nuchal scan if I hadn't booked the private scan due to my gut feeling things werent right.
Im glad I found out in a private clinic rather than leaving through a sea of happiness at the maternity hospital!

I got a 3+ on a CB digi today which has helped a bit as I have see progress.
Im also very tired and nauseous so fingers crossed.

 

[Linzalora]

hey hunny xx
This week I have been a lot more positive and even brought some baby bits, because right now I am still pregnant...my 12 week scan is next week....i really hope I am one of those lucky ones who just doesnt suffer with early preg symptoms badly...all I feel now is the tiredness. Its such a tiring/mentally draining time and I dont know if it will ever truly go away but talking about this baby and buying things has helped me feel better, because for the here and now, we are pregnant good luck hunny, wishing you alk the best xx

I got a 3+ on a CB digi today which has helped a bit as I have see progress. Im also very tired and nauseous so fingers crossed.

Hooray for us being pregnant!

CVR- Congrats on the 3+! I gave up on digitals long before I ever got a 3+. I have zero patience. haha.

Orchid Live in Hope- Awe! Baby bits- how fun! Right now, I feel "naughty" looking for maternity clothes. I'm a teacher, and it seems that all my students are always hanging out where I shop. I am not ready to let them know yet.

My excitement yesterday was I bought bra band extenders. I know it won't be enough to substitute in the long run, but for the next few weeks, I'll be comfy in my old familiar bras.

 

[Linzalora]

lol! I thought that Live in Hope's user name was Dark orchid, but that's the name of the font color!

 

[live_in_hope]

Thank you ladies.
I wouldnt have known until nuchal scan if I hadn't booked the private scan due to my gut feeling things werent right.
Im glad I found out in a private clinic rather than leaving through a sea of happiness at the maternity hospital!

I got a 3+ on a CB digi today which has helped a bit as I have see progress.
Im also very tired and nauseous so fingers crossed.

aw thats great! And yay for symptoms starting too! !!! I was the same, had a private scan at 9 weeks, otherwise I wouldnt have known until the 12 week one at the hospital. Im glad really as I was much better looked after in the private place than I would hav ebeen at the hospital...on the conveyor belt... We had one at 7 weeks this time and I sobbed through the whole thing....all was perfectly fine but I was just so emotional xx

hey hunny xx
This week I have been a lot more positive and even brought some baby bits, because right now I am still pregnant...my 12 week scan is next week....i really hope I am one of those lucky ones who just doesnt suffer with early preg symptoms badly...all I feel now is the tiredness. Its such a tiring/mentally draining time and I dont know if it will ever truly go away but talking about this baby and buying things has helped me feel better, because for the here and now, we are pregnant good luck hunny, wishing you alk the best xx

I got a 3+ on a CB digi today which has helped a bit as I have see progress. Im also very tired and nauseous so fingers crossed.

Hooray for us being pregnant!

CVR- Congrats on the 3+! I gave up on digitals long before I ever got a 3+. I have zero patience. haha.

Orchid Live in Hope- Awe! Baby bits- how fun! Right now, I feel "naughty" looking for maternity clothes. I'm a teacher, and it seems that all my students are always hanging out where I shop. I am not ready to let them know yet.

My excitement yesterday was I bought bra band extenders. I know it won't be enough to substitute in the long run, but for the next few weeks, I'll be comfy in my old familiar bras.

aww yer Im like that when Im in town and if I see something, Im so paranoid Im going to be seen. I work in a school too and am never free of a parent or child I know lurking about i caved and brought myself some maternity trousers the other day, looking forward to wearing them next week, theyre so comfy and I was getting really bloated in the afternoons and getting uncomfortable in my usual ones. Xx

lol! I thought that Live in Hope's user name was Dark orchid, but that's the name of the font color!

well Ive been called many things but never 'dark orchid' I like it, its quite mystyical, or like a superhero name! xx

 

[Linzalora]

One of my harder days at school, and I am having terrible MS. Ugh. We'll see what's left of me by 3 pm! How are you ladies doing today?

 

[CVR1986]

Having stretchy pains today! Also retched whilst brushing my teeth....was like that daily when pregnant with DD so hoping its all good signs. Hubby dreamt about triplets....I hope not!

 

[bubbles82]

Hope you're doing ok. I'm afraid I haven't got much good advice as I'm finding it impossible not to worry and assume the worst. I've got a two year old DD but had an early loss before her, and since we started TTC #2 last year I've had two further losses, the second was a mmc found at a private scan around 9 weeks. I'd had a private scan around 8 weeks and saw a heartbeat but I knew the dates were too far off. Couldn't seem to get EPU to help at all, no one seemed willing to listen to me or believe I knew things weren't as they should be, so had to pay out for a second private scan just to confirm what I knew.

I just got another BFP this week, hoping its third time lucky for baby #2, but been feeling a bit crampy for a few days so I'm constantly checking and expecting bleeding and minute, it's horrible to not be able to enjoy pregnancy at all. I can't tell the difference between genuine gut instinct now and just assuming the worst because of the bad luck we've had.

Hope you're managing to find things to keep you busy and distract yourself from the worry x

 

[Linzalora]

CVR- Oh man, the tooth brushing is torture, isn't it?!? Haha! You tell your hubby he can just cool his jets on that triplet talk! I'm glad you're feeling some stretchy- that's always reassuring.

Bubbles- Congratulations on your BFP! Yeah, it's really hard not to be kinda paranoid about cramping, but I'm sure it's all normal for early pregnancy. Your little bean's gotta get comfy!

AFM- I'm up to my eyes in work this week, but all I want to do is sleeeeeep! I did buy a new mattress topper. I'm proud of myself for finding one with all natural materials that didn't break the bank. It made a HUGE difference. I slept so well last night. I hope good sleep will stick around for a little. I definitely need it!

 

[CVR1986]

Well...morning sickness struck this morning I had nothing with my mmc so Im glad to have started puking at same stage as I did with DD. Never been to happy about being sick.
Trying to be more positive and just not think about things too much.