Any Aussie ladies starting IVF?

[Kirs_t]

Hey girls,
Thanks for all the well wishes.

Wish- a girl!! That is absolutely fantastic xxx you made me giggle with the penis things too. Defn not what you want flashed in your face while up the duff!

Aleja- so glad the scan went well and bubs is doing great.are you still feeling sick?

Miss red- so relieved the bleeding has stopped and bub is ok. Make sure you go gently chick and look after yourself xxx

Taylah- hope you are also resting up and feeling excited to meet your bub! I can't wait for the news when she arrives

Maddy- how are you doing? Are you looking forward to the fs consult?

Take- thanks for thinking of me. How's the cycle going?

Well the d&c went fine... I was actually quite relieved as it was much easier and painless compared to last time I was in hospital with egg collection (I ended up in for a week with a catheter cos they buggered up my bladder!) and since then I was feeling physically pretty well with not much bleeding or cramping (emotionally was another story- I have had what I imagine is like pms on speed! Hormone dropping? My poor DH)
Anyway- then I was out for lunch today and chatting to some girl friends but not really able to concentrate cos I had cramps that were getting worse and worse- then next thing I had to race to the loo and (sorry for tmi) but dark black clots were just gushing out. Like filled the loo and all over the cubical. It was disgusting and humiliating and I just sat there crying and not knowing what to do. Eventually my friend came to help and DH took me home. I'm still cramping but not bleeding like that anymore. I think I was more shocked cos I didn't think that could happen after d&c??? I feel pretty exhausted now so will just see what happens and head in to ER if it gets any worse. If not ill check in with gp tomorrow. I'm assuming my uterus just got rid of whatever was left?

I'm so so sorry if this is a huge overshare.... Just need to vent as I'm pretty shaken up.

Xxx

 

[Miss Redknob]

Glad to hear your doing ok Kirst xx I had clots after my d&c, just make sure you go straight to emergency if the bleeding stops suddenly as I had this and ended up with a massive blood clot!! You should bleed like a normal period. Sending you lots of

 

[aleja]

Oh Kirsty that sounded awful what you went through in the bathroom. Are you taking some time off work to recover?

Wish, oh wow a little girl! So very exciting. Let the shopping begin.. Yay !!
How rude of the stripper to slap his dong in your face!!! It did make me laugh though

Ms Red your OB sounds very accessible doing weekend and evening work .. Are you still with the same FS or were you referred to a different OB. It's so crazy that a little spotting can create such havoc. I'm glad it stopped.

Hi other ladies. GL this month Take2

 

[Miss Redknob]

I have had my OB for 3yrs now, he is a gem!!

 

[Take2]

Ok Kirsty, you poor love. What an ordeal to say the least. I hope this all passes by very quickly for you. Thinking about you and including you in my wishes and hopes for a bit of good luck to arrive in the very near future x

Not much happening with me cd21 and still waiting to ovulate, looks like this cycle is going to be another long one too

 

[Maddy40]

Kirs_t hun, I'm so sorry. Did the Dr warn you this might happen?
TMI spoiler

Spoiler

I did have periodic heavy bleeding for about a week after my D&C at 11wk5days. And then less spotting/bleeding for another 3 weeks after that

Take care and don't be hard on yourself

AFM, DH has decided he's not onboard with IVF. He wants to be done after our IUIs. Not sure how I feel about that yet. I need to dig around in his mind a bit more to find out what's going on.

 

[wishandwait]

Hey kirst I'm so sorry you've had to go through that love, it's truly awful. Your DH sounds wonderful and supportive though, that's great. I know what it's like to feel 'what if I never?' too... The only thing that used to bring me comfort is that of all the couples I knew who had struggled, everyone of them ended up with a baby, some it took 8 years and 5 ivf's but none ended up childless. Hope u continue to recover and enjoy your holiday x

Red and aleja glad your scans are going well and your on the tail end of feeling shit. It does get better! I took so much time off first tri! I also don't know anyone who has had no bleeding/spotting at least once while preggers, scary though!

Maddy..do you think DH just needs more time? It's harder for them to get their heads around it.... I think because they are genuinely not as smart Hahahha not really! Took my DH a few months to come around to it xx good luck!

 

[wishandwait]

Oh and thanks for all the well wishes guys the shopping has begun!!

 

[Kirs_t]

Thanks so much for the love guys!
I spoke to the clinic this morning and they said that the black clotting that has been passing is defn not normal. She said its most likely tissue that they missed. Man this has been the most traumatising week, ugh. Had hb and iron checked this morning so will see what happens next.

Maddy- how do you feel about DH not wanting ivf? I think often the boys really worry about us and just can't bare to watch us go through so much? Even though they don't express their fear or emotions like us girls!

Wish- shopping for girl bubbas is the absolute best! So much cute stuff! Are you going to do up bubs room?

My best friend is in labour as we speak! I am so excited but really nervous too as bub is only 32 weeks. She was having twins but lost one of the boys at 21 weeks. It's going to be a huge rollercoaster delivering them. They have given her steroids for his lungs, so hopefully he keeps cooking for a few more days at least to let the medication kick in. I feel so close to my friend through this pregnancy as we have really shared the battle to fall and stay pregnant together. This is definitely her miracle baby!

 

[aleja]

Kirst I hope your friend's labour goes well. It is great that she has a friend like you to support her through it, who knows what a precious gift this is.
Excuse my utter ignorance about this but does she have to deliver both babies ? If so gosh that is going to be a rollercoaster of emotions for her I can imagine.

Maddy, that is disappointing to hear about your DH. Perhaps the thought of IVF is too daunting - this isn't surprising. Most of us would have been completely overwhelmed by the idea of IVF before we started but in truth its not that bad. Given you have already done an IUI with injectibles, the IVF cycle will be similar (except for the egg retrieval). Is he at least willing to attend the consultation? I hope so as perhaps learning more about it from the FS may help diffuse his anxiety about it.

 

[Miss Redknob]

Glad to hear you called the clinic Kirst, hope you are feeling better soon

Maddy, it was hard at first for my DH to accept IVF as he didn't want to watch me go through it as he would say " all I have to do is b**w in a cup". See if you can talk to you hubby and ask him what he's concerned about

How exciting Wish, can't wait til I start shopping I have a feeling that we are going to have a girl!

Aleja, hope you are keeping well

AFM still been really sick but at least have 2 weeks off work now

 

[Taylah]

Hi ladies , sorry have been on Internet been down!

Kristy - so sorry for what you have been through sounds so awful, I hope you are feeling much better now & best wishes for your friend & her early arrival xxx

Wish - congrats Hun & welcome to team pink, any names for girls ???

Miss red & aleja, so happy to hear things are going along nicely xx

Maddy - my dh wasn't keen either but he got over it, I think he hated the idea of being stuck in a room with 80's porn mags & having to fill the cup but he managed, he also thought I would be a horrible mess with all the meds but it really isn't that bad at all xxx

Afm - I'm feeling really disappointed today , the hospital was supposed to call me yesterday with a date for my c-section but they didn't I think this means they are too busy this week & I will have to wait till the following week, I'm just so done now & can't wait any longer but I guess I will have too

 

[wishandwait]

Red woo hoo for time off!!!!
Taylah hope it happens soon mate. Can you call them and give them a big teary? Worked for my mate they put her in that day.
Team pink should be called 'team spend' there's soo much cute stuff! Names we like are Johanna (pronounced Yo-hahn-a) it was my Oma's name. I'd probably just spell if with a y though. Save her explaining it forever. I also love Remy and Daisy. Xx anyone else thought of names?

 

[Maddy40]

Kirs_t gosh I'm glad you called the clinic. I hope they didn't miss too much & want to do another D&C.

Taylah good luck hun!

Red yuk to feeling sick but yay for holidays. I've got 10 days off now. I'm surfing the net and DH is sanding the lounge room walls to finish painting - 2 walls were done 6 months ago, so it's about time the other 2 got done!

Well turns out DH is really concerned about the money. We have a shed-load of debt because we bought a house and a car when we came back from overseas 18 months ago. And on one salary we're pretty stretched. DH has been learning English and just recently got a job but it's minimum wage and only 3 days a week. And this week we got the latest stats from the FS office and their live-birth rate for a 41yo is 4.1%.....sigh. Such a hard decision. Anyways....just started meds for 2nd IUI and hopefully we won't need to go any further.

 

[wishandwait]

Oh maddy I totally get that! Money is shit. Our parents helped us out which was lucky. Well fingers crossed for this round mate! Where is your DH from?

 

[Maddy40]

He's from Thailand, which is why DE IVF (using a Thai donor) is in the back of my mind as a possibility.

 

[Miss Redknob]

Maddy I really hope that this one works and you won't have to worry about IVF

 

[Taylah]

Wish - cute names & yes I have spent way too much money on all the girly stuff it's just too cute to resist I tried the tears - I can't do it anymore, it didn't work , I think they know I'm too sane & got it all together !

Maddy - can you go to westmead for ivf if nessecary , it really doesn't cost much at all !

Miss red- I hope you really enjoy your time off

As for me 9 days & counting - I finally got my date, 25th of January , I will get to meet my little girl

 

[Miss Redknob]

Those 9 days are going to go so quick

 

[aleja]

Oh Taylah 9 days is nothing!!!! However I bet it will feel like a life time for you !!!!

Wish, I like the name Yohanna and Remy they are both nice. My friends son is named Remy but I know some French names are unisex. I like the name Etienne for a girl although technically its a boys name.
I don't have any names chosen yet but Ive always liked Marnie. Too bad Lily Allen named her new daughter that.. Everyone will assume we copied��

Red, sorry to hear you are sick.. Is that why you think it's a girl? In that case I must be having a boy as I'm feeling ok except for constant indigestion and constipation. Blugh
Having some time of work will make a huge difference. Get lots of R&R time!

I had my first OB today. Seemed kind of rushed as he was about to go deliver a baby.
But did have another scan. Saw bubba kicking its little legs ��

Hi Maddy, I really hope this IUI works for you so you don't have to worry about the IVF cost. You will have a beautiful baby given your hubby is Thai. My nephew is half Cambodian and he is absolutely gorgeous

Hello Kirst and Take2 x