Any of you have NO contact with FOB?

[QuintinsMommy]

just cause we do it because we have to doesn't mean it isn't hard? isn't there a time when you ever wish my god I wish I could just have sometime to myself? or even just go for a walk w/o LO?

 

[QuintinsMommy]

or don't you ever think when your child is in school at fathers day making crafts and he doesn't have father to make them for?
or when they ask one day "why don't have a daddy?"
don't you think it be easier to not have to have your child deal with that?

 

[lauram_92]

Not really. I knew it was going to be like this when I found out I was pregnant. I am used to having him on my own 24/7. Apart from recently when I went out, but I had to put him to bed and get up with him in the morning, and I just regretted going out because I was so tired.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

well you are super woman because I know the fact that quintin has no father affects me.

and I've known I would be a single parent from the day I saw my BFP

 

[17thy]

I'm sorry but knowing what I have now and if it was just gone tomorrow, it WOULD be hard, and it WOULD be lonely.... :/ If I hadn't ever known this life I'm living now then I wouldn't know what I am missing and it wouldn't seem as bad as it really is...

 

[lauram_92]

or don't you ever think when your child is in school at fathers day making crafts and he doesn't have father to make them for?
or when they ask one day "why don't have a daddy?"
don't you think it be easier to not have to have your child deal with that?

I don't think you understand what I am trying to say. I am trying to say there is a lot worse situations people could be in, and I don't mind my situation. In fact I like it. Yes it would be easier if I didn't have to explain all that to him, but in a lot of cases it is a lot easier not having a FOB around.

 

[mayb_baby]

I think if you live alone it's harder

 

[lauram_92]

I'm sorry but knowing what I have now and if it was just gone tomorrow, it WOULD be hard, and it WOULD be lonely.... :/ If I hadn't ever known this life I'm living now then I wouldn't know what I am missing and it wouldn't seem as bad as it really is...

Well I don't know what you have to miss out out.

I just don't think it is "bad".

 

[lauram_92]

I think if you live alone it's harder

I'd rather live alone than with my parents. A lot of people know my situation. They're horrible to me and basically ignore Oliver.

 

[mayb_baby]

but there are people there, I hated living at home but I mean it must get lonely when you are the only adult in the house. I'm just giving my opinion it doesn't count as I have no 'real' experience

 

[lauram_92]

well you are super woman because I know the fact that quintin has no father affects me.

and I've known I would be a single parent from the day I saw my BFP

If he could have a perfect father, than didn't cause arguments, actually knew how to do things then yes it would be easier. But in general when I see what others have to go through I am glad I don't have that. (I know Lorna said the nice things aren't said which is usually true but I think sometimes the cons outweigh the pros.)

 

[cabbagebaby]

i'd rather live on my own to laura family are hassle !!!

 

[lauram_92]

but there are people there, I hated living at home but I mean it must get lonely when you are the only adult in the house. I'm just giving my opinion it doesn't count as I have no 'real' experience

I am on my own 99% of the time. I actually dread them coming home from work. I would LOVE to have my own house. And I mean LOVE.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

or don't you ever think when your child is in school at fathers day making crafts and he doesn't have father to make them for?
or when they ask one day "why don't have a daddy?"
don't you think it be easier to not have to have your child deal with that?

I don't think you understand what I am trying to say. I am trying to say there is a lot worse situations people could be in, and I don't mind my situation. In fact I like it. Yes it would be easier if I didn't have to explain all that to him, but in a lot of cases it is a lot easier not having a FOB around.

I'm just trying to say it is not as hard as everyone makes out. So sick of people feeling sorry for me and acting like I am doing something so hard, when it isn't.

I also PM'd Kittycat and she understands what I mean. [/QUOTE]


I do understand what you are trying to say, you don't want pity, and YES there is other situations alot worse then my own, but I think you are just are making it out to seem like being a single mother with no FOb is a easy. I was clearly trying to point out the more difficult that us as purely single mothers would have to deal with, that other mothers do not.

 

[mayb_baby]

As I said I cannot relate as my mums amazing but annoying and she is great with michael.

 

[lauram_92]

Yes, we have:

- every bloody book mentions daddy
- fathers day with no father
- doing it all on our own
etc. etc. etc.

But I would prefer to what most people have.

 

[lauram_92]

As I said I cannot relate as my mums amazing but annoying and she is great with michael.

I'll post my Mum over to you

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Yes, we have:

- every bloody book mentions daddy
- fathers day with no father
- doing it all on our own
etc. etc. etc.

But I would prefer to what most people have.

well good for you.

 

[mayb_baby]

Ummm can I 'kindly' refuse please

 

[lauram_92]

Yes, we have:

- every bloody book mentions daddy
- fathers day with no father
- doing it all on our own
etc. etc. etc.

But I would prefer to what most people have.

well good for you.