Any of you have NO contact with FOB?

[lb]

Am I really the only one that would put up with an annoying FOB so my child could have their father?

If FOB wasn't physically and mentally abusive, if he hadn't threatened to kill both myself and my child, I would have tried my damn hardest to keep him around for her.
He's an asshole, he's stubborn, he's a know-it-all, he's passive aggressive, but I would have put up with all of that if it meant Livi could know her father.

In no way do I think that I am the lucky one because I'm a single mother. I would GLADLY argue with FOB over who gets Liv on what days, what her name was to be, whether or not she's old enough to date, if that meant she had someone to give father's day cards to, someone to call Daddy.

It breaks my heart to watch her grow older and know that soon she'll be asking about him. All I have to give her is a card he wrote when I was pregnant and some unclear pictures of the side of his face. She'll never even know what he really looks like.

ETA: This is baring the FOB is in no way harmful to either of us, just plain old annoying.

you are not alone I would do anything for annoying fob, who wants quin on weekends, wants to fight with me for when he gets to see him etc.
sometimes i wish quin could have a father so bad, I just cry.

Same here, hon. I got so excited with my ex because he was really stepping up to the plate and everything, but that all went to shit. I feel like I failed her twice now. I couldn't keep FOB around and I couldn't keep the closest thing she's had to a dad around. Sometimes it gets too much and I just bawl.

Ally, same happened here. I cry about it all the time. I feel like I'm getting desperate for Kayla to have her dad around, but he makes such bad decisions.

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Same here, hon. I got so excited with my ex because he was really stepping up to the plate and everything, but that all went to shit. I feel like I failed her twice now. I couldn't keep FOB around and I couldn't keep the closest thing she's had to a dad around. Sometimes it gets too much and I just bawl.

I felt like this too , if anyone remembers I was living with someone and I feel like I put up with ALOT of bullshit because I really truly believed I could give quin a family, and when he broke up with me the only thing I could say was" i wanted this soo bad for quintin" and he was like "i can still be in quins life but not yours because quin has no males in his life" and I had to decided not to, because if i had a choice to pick a male role model in his life I want it to be someone who wouldn't steal,lie,cheat , almost hit my mom with a car I just wish I could give quintin that, i really really do.

Ally, same happened here. I cry about it all the time. I feel like I'm getting desperate for Kayla to have her dad around, but he makes such bad decisions.

 

[AriannasMama]

to all of you.

Anyone need a FOB?

 

[abbSTAR]

NONE EVER! Didn't want him, so will never deserve him!
I have an amazing partner, and he's a great daddy! So FOB can f*ck off for good and can fight through the courts to prove he really want to see harley.. Doubt he ever will! OH plans to adopt Harley.. And for now I don't plan on telling Harley unless he finds reason to ask or when he's old enough to understand

 

[abbSTAR]

Oh and he has no right anyway because he's not on the birth certificate

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

NONE EVER! Didn't want him, so will never deserve him!
I have an amazing partner, and he's a great daddy! So FOB can f*ck off for good and can fight through the courts to prove he really want to see harley.. Doubt he ever will! OH plans to adopt Harley.. And for now I don't plan on telling Harley unless he finds reason to ask or when he's old enough to understand

Good for him!

I think I'm so eager to settle down with someone because whoever I marry is going to adopt Olivia. Not like I'd force them to do it, I just wouldn't bother getting involved with someone who was opposed to the idea, kwim?
It's for legal reasons, really. FOB isn't on the B/C and as long as that remains blank there's a chance he could come back and take her. But if I get married and my husband adopts her, FOB could show up, positive DNA test in hand and would STILL be given no rights by the state of NJ because she's already been adopted by another father.

 

[Tiffyx3]

I can't currently say whether FOB will be involved! But my best friend's step-dad has been around since before she was born, and her Mum explained it to her by saying 'You have a daddy who made you, and a daddy who loves you' which I always thought was rather sweet

 

[MissMamma]

i am struggling at the moment because with all my heart i hate the man i made a child with and do not particularly think he is a good role model for a child but at the same time am desperate for Raphi to have a father
he is a nasty piece of work but would it be better to have him in the picture or out? i just dont know
i am even past caring about myself now. its not about whether i'm lonely or happy or sad its about a girl having a daddy :/

 

[smatheson]

I can't currently say whether FOB will be involved! But my best friend's step-dad has been around since before she was born, and her Mum explained it to her by saying 'You have a daddy who made you, and a daddy who loves you' which I always thought was rather sweet

Something similiar happened to my cousin although her stepdad wasnt around when she was little. She has never met her real father, but her step father is so amazing and treats her no differently than her little brother who is his bio son. Anyone can be a father, but a daddy is someone who is there for your child and that doesnt mean they have to be blood related. There are so many amazing dads who arent the bio dad