Any other Mums out there with high needs babies?

[NotNic]

Finlay's a 'nip-er in the bud-er'. Even now we have to get in quick before the scream takes hold. If we let him cry he would just suck air in and get windier. I had huge issues with the in laws early on about how we (I) dealt with things. They would let him cry and jig and pat and piss him off. I wasn't allowed to comfort him. I was made to feel like I was controlling and over powering. I may have been, but I knew that letting him cry made things a hundred times worse. Of course sometimes I couldn't soothe him and he would cry inconsolably or other times I would need to let him cry for practical reasons but as a rule I tried not to where possible. I wouldn't say I'm a 'gentle' parent. I'm much more matter of fact as a person, but you know your own child and what works. Also guidelines don't tend to promote sleep training until after 6mths so officially its too early if anyone is trying to push you that way.

 

[justhoping]

Until you added the part where she was on reflux meds she sounded exactly like my oldest. Are you sure that the meds are working and you don't need to add another or up the dose of the one that you have? On the off chance do you think that she has a milk allergy. Mine did and had all of those same symptoms. No sleep, reflux, screaming if put down. Hugs momma. Take a deep breath. I know that you wanted to EBF but you also have to stay sane. If she gets half and half it will be ok. I couldn't tell but are you waking her up to feed? Because I would not. I know they say to feed every so often but if she just got to sleep you would have much better luck after she gets some sleep.

For a bit about the eating for you. Can you get some meal replacement shakes since you are having such a hard time fitting it all in. You would at least get some nutrition that way.

And as for the nightmare toddler bit. My baby got much easier when the reflux went away. His was caused by a milk allergy is why I asked. it can take a long while for it to go away. You may need to get on the Dr if what you have now isn't working and I don't think that it is.

i agree here as it sounds like the reflux meds are not working and possibly a milk intolerance..both hurt terribly and can make a baby cry that bad as it hurts that bad....

 

[justhoping]

The meds seemed to work for the first 2 weeks then it was almost like they wore off so I went back to the doctor who said they wouldn't up the dose and that there was nothing they could do and that 'baby's cry - that's what the do'
I insisted on getting a referral to a paed but upon further investigation they will only see you if there is a developmental problem!!

Is it really possible that she could be allergic to my breast milk? How devastating
And where would I get the probiotics to add to her milk? Chemist? I've never seen anything like that before and I'm constantly browsing the baby sections of every store

My husband is away to an all day music festival today - 14 hours and so far it's been a nightmare. She's cried and whinged most of the day. I put her in the sling and bounced/paced up and down for 30 mins till she fell asleep. Every time I stop or try and sit down she wakes up and starts crying, my feet and back are aching so bad, I just want to sit down and have been needing to pee for ages!!
I had to do a poo with her in the carrier earlier because she screamed hysterical every time I tried to put her down!!!! And I couldn't just let her scream for ages because I have a fissure and it takes me so long to do an incredibly painful poo

also try gas medication over the counter baby brand of course...and pro biotic......and gripe water..both very soothing for a baby in pain......

 

[hapi2bhealthy]

bugaboo just on the probiotics, i give charly them: i got them from my chiro but ask at your local health food store. we use bioceuticals brand. charly has a cows milk protein intolerance, so shes on soy for now.

 

[socitycourty]

I tried the BioGaia probiotics for my LO. They're too expensive for me to buy all the time but I wanted her to have them during the winter as probiotics can boost the immune system.

I also give her yogurt once a day so hope that helps too. She had colic and I tried nearly everything

 

[BUGaBOO]

Great - I will have a look in the chemist and will def pick up some gripe water, I have infants friend and infacol as well as some homeopathic granules but none of those seem to work........

Her sleep is getting worse too - she will only go to sleep on us, being rocked and jiggled (though this has always been the case) though now instead of sleeping for a few hours, she sleeps for 20 mins or thereabouts then wakes up. Wide awake. We try and put her back to sleep but mostly it doesn't work. She still wakes up twice throughout the night - all the baby sites say she should be sleeping in longer chunks but that's not the case. We're sooo exhausted.

Oh and with the fussy baby site - you can enter your area and see of there are other parents of high needs babies around you for meet ups etc.
Unfortunately I'm the only one in Brisbane

 

[justhoping]

Great - I will have a look in the chemist and will def pick up some gripe water, I have infants friend and infacol as well as some homeopathic granules but none of those seem to work........

Her sleep is getting worse too - she will only go to sleep on us, being rocked and jiggled (though this has always been the case) though now instead of sleeping for a few hours, she sleeps for 20 mins or thereabouts then wakes up. Wide awake. We try and put her back to sleep but mostly it doesn't work. She still wakes up twice throughout the night - all the baby sites say she should be sleeping in longer chunks but that's not the case. We're sooo exhausted.

Oh and with the fussy baby site - you can enter your area and see of there are other parents of high needs babies around you for meet ups etc.
Unfortunately I'm the only one in Brisbane

she sounds like me as a baby.....i was severe silent reflux and a milk allergy but back then they didnt know better,.the amount of strained crying i did cause severe physical problems as i grew up.....

i hope u find the answers