Any "plus-size", bigger gals TTC their first? :)

[dontworry]

I feel like half the time I'm infertile. Not only do I have PCOS. I feel like everyone thinner than me is getting pregnant and I am some fat ugly blob who can't get pregnant.

*sigh*

It's really hard sometimes.

Totally feel the same. I actually feel worse when my OH tells me he thinks he might be the "Broken" one.

 

[pretty14u]

hey ladies.. im 22.. and plus size.. size 18/20 .. i have pcos.. however since i was diagnosed my cycles became regular... ever since july 2011 they have came ever month and on time.. i have been ttc for 1 year and no luck.

 

[MrsC_Est1127]

Good to know I'm not the only one worried about being bigger & TTC #1. I'm size 11/12, but I'm only 4'11. Very new to the TTC journey..

 

[NewMrs2011]

It's so nice to hear that I'm not the only one with these worries!

I have heard a lot of good things about people following the Slimming World plan when ttc/pregnant. I believe it's one of the only diet plans that medical professionals recommend when your ttc/pg too. I would be keen to start following the plan and see if it helps me shift the pounds. I may have a chat to my doctor about it next week when I go back to discuss my blood test results.

I would do it, what do you have to loose? It's not a diet and I've never eaten so much or so well before! I lost 8lbs in my first 3 weeks which will slow down to around 1-2lbs a week, but that is healthy. Added to this, eating the right healthy things can only help with ttc.

If you get PG they adjust things slightly for you and it becomes just a tool to help you manage your food more healthily.

I say go for it, it also makes you feel happier and cleaner

Yeah I've decided....I'm gonna give it a try, it can only do me good Quite looking forward to getting started on it actually.

Well done you on your weight loss so far, you've got off to a great start! I'd be chuft if I lost half of that!

 

[magic_angel]

Hi my name is Ceri and im 27, im new to this, only signed up yesterday

I am also a big girl or like my fella of 3 years says, more to love i was 22 stone and i decided to lose weight for my mums wedding so i lived on slim fast milkshakes and rivita cracker bread with fruit and veg snacks, i lost 4 stone Im 18 stone now and i am really struggling to lose weight.

I have had really iregular periods since 18 and they were anywhere between 45-65 days lasting 2 weeks. over the past 5-6 months they have been between 32-35 days which im happy about, i was on the cerrazette mini pill and decided my body didnt like it so i came off the pill 2 years ago (may) to regulate my periods,
ive not been to docs or asked any questions as im terrified to hear those horrible words "You cant have kids" but ive grown a pair and booked an appointment for next week to have a chat and they are going to check me out.

Im fed up of seeing my friends on bby number 4 and some of them dont even like their children half the time and im desperate for baby number 1.

Im fed up with people asking me when am i going to have a baby when all i want to scream is "dammit im trying to already so leave me alone" instead i have to say politely nope not my time yet, smile and creep away

Im going to start a water diet, ive never been able to drink water so im forcing myself to drink as much as possible, eating soup, fruit and taking water tablets as everyone i know seems to think a lot of my weight is water so will see how much i lose

i know its not healthy and i dont plan on living on it, when i start little and light and often diets they kick start my body into wanting to eat healthy so im gonna see if i can push myself because i want to be a mum so bad its taking over my life and ive got to give myself a break from all the thoughts going round in my head.

im convinced the doctor is going to tell me something is wrong i just pray its fixable

sorry its a long one xx

 

[Maureen1222]

Hi to all! I'm new to bnb and couldn't decide which topic to comment on and then stumbled upon this... I'm glad to see that I am not alone! My husband and I are both plus size and ttc #1I am on cd 16 after using Femara and my u/s yesterday showed no follicles. Going Friday for another and if nothing my doc says we have to discuss other meds. I also have PCOS. I often wonder if losing the weight would make a lot of my problems go away!

 

[magic_angel]

hi maureen 1222

im cd17 not using anything to help me ttc as wouldnt know where to start to so im at the basic, writing down my AF dates, BDing dates, little help predicting ov via fertilityfriend.com and lots of sex, problems with periods and a worry about me possibly having pcos and endometreosis and not wanted to see doc as was worried what they would say and i didnt want to hear the words i cant have children but ive book apt to see docs next week for a proper chat about everything and some checks so will see what they say, hope its nothing serious as ive been ttc for a very long time with no job what so ever, hope you get your BFP Very soon and sending lots of baby dust

 

[liddieloo]

HI Ladies!! im a size 14 (5'3") and i got my BFP today!! Just wanted to send some your way!

 

[felecia]

Hello everyone, loved to see this post! I am now 265, but I was 275. Drs thought I had PCOS so they put me on 1000 mg metformin daily. However, they also put me on b/c pills so I never lost anything for 3 months. I came off b/c pills in December and since then I've lost 10 pounds with metformin; I found out I was insulin resistant, but no PCOS last month. I just got done with provera, and about to start 150 mg of clomid along with 2000 mg of metformin. We have been ttc for over 2 years now, and I was almost relieved when they told me I was insulin resistant which you wouldn't think I would be, but all the tests kept coming back ok, (I had a 9 month period... so that meant no ovulation all I did was bleed everyday, all day for 9 months... wasn't fun). I'm glad I found this thread though so we can support one another

 

[PandaMao]

Hello ladies. I am also a plus size girl trying to conceive #1. I'm currently around 247lb and I've lost 17lbs so far (yeah, go me!). I want to be healthy for me and baby so I've been trying to lose the weight, but it's not easy! We've only been trying for 5 months now so I have not been to see a doctor or specialist or anything. It's still pretty early to be concerned about any actual problems and I'm a bit scared to go and have them tell me something is really wrong so for now we're just doing our thing and hoping it works. I've jst started charting my cycles monitoring CM and doing BBT charting last month and I'm pretty sure I ovulated. I had no idea if I was before that or not so that is at least one less worry. I also just started taking Fertilaid since that is supposed to help regulate cycles (mine aren't too bad, but I had 2 last year that were around 60 days and other than that ranged from 29-42 days) so we'll see what happens there. It's so good to see I'm not alone.

 

[magic_angel]

Hello ladies. I am also a plus size girl trying to conceive #1. I'm currently around 247lb and I've lost 17lbs so far (yeah, go me!). I want to be healthy for me and baby so I've been trying to lose the weight, but it's not easy! We've only been trying for 5 months now so I have not been to see a doctor or specialist or anything. It's still pretty early to be concerned about any actual problems and I'm a bit scared to go and have them tell me something is really wrong so for now we're just doing our thing and hoping it works. I've jst started charting my cycles monitoring CM and doing BBT charting last month and I'm pretty sure I ovulated. I had no idea if I was before that or not so that is at least one less worry. I also just started taking Fertilaid since that is supposed to help regulate cycles (mine aren't too bad, but I had 2 last year that were around 60 days and other than that ranged from 29-42 days) so we'll see what happens there. It's so good to see I'm not alone.

hey i too have not seen docs but have an appt next week to discuss periods as for the last 9 years they were anywhere between 45-65 days but came off pill 2 years ago to regulate AF and for the past 5 months they are now a regular 32-35 days

my af was 31st jan til 5th feb, pred ov is - 13th - 16th feb and i started light spotting on the 15th for one day so i dont know whats going on as i have NEVER BLED during ov or inbetween periods, im trying to get answers on my posts on here but guess everyones in bed lol hope things go well for you

 

[josephine75]

Hello ladies. I am also a plus size girl trying to conceive #1. I'm currently around 247lb and I've lost 17lbs so far (yeah, go me!). I want to be healthy for me and baby so I've been trying to lose the weight, but it's not easy! We've only been trying for 5 months now so I have not been to see a doctor or specialist or anything. It's still pretty early to be concerned about any actual problems and I'm a bit scared to go and have them tell me something is really wrong so for now we're just doing our thing and hoping it works. I've jst started charting my cycles monitoring CM and doing BBT charting last month and I'm pretty sure I ovulated. I had no idea if I was before that or not so that is at least one less worry. I also just started taking Fertilaid since that is supposed to help regulate cycles (mine aren't too bad, but I had 2 last year that were around 60 days and other than that ranged from 29-42 days) so we'll see what happens there. It's so good to see I'm not alone.

hey i too have not seen docs but have an appt next week to discuss periods as for the last 9 years they were anywhere between 45-65 days but came off pill 2 years ago to regulate AF and for the past 5 months they are now a regular 32-35 days

my af was 31st jan til 5th feb, pred ov is - 13th - 16th feb and i started light spotting on the 15th for one day so i dont know whats going on as i have NEVER BLED during ov or inbetween periods, im trying to get answers on my posts on here but guess everyones in bed lol hope things go well for you

Hey magic angel, I too bled for the last time on my last ov and then again on this one, because it had never happened to me
Before I was quite concerned so from reading a couple of posts on here and reading a couple of articles online I think it can be quite a common thing try this one it may help https://www.justmommies.com/articles/ovulation-spotting.shtml

Good luck

 

[jojo87]

I'm about the same size as you. I don't have PCOS but I don't ovulate regularly. DH also has low sperm count, he is also slightly overweight. We are trying to diet and exercise together so we can improve our chances, since apparently his low sperm count could also be related to his weight. It's frustrating though that there are a lot of overweight people who don't seem to have any problem conceiving!

 

[Melly Belly]

I'm about the same size as you. I don't have PCOS but I don't ovulate regularly. DH also has low sperm count, he is also slightly overweight. We are trying to diet and exercise together so we can improve our chances, since apparently his low sperm count could also be related to his weight. It's frustrating though that there are a lot of overweight people who don't seem to have any problem conceiving!

I know several people alot bigger than I am that have two and three kids, and most of them dont even want them...

My cycles are pretty much clockwork 29 days between periods, only when i miscalculate do they seem off, and i write everything down on a small calendar so i can keep track...so when i think im off on my days i go back and count and realize, nope, right on time!

Ive been on a pretty strict diet the past year and a half since i have acid splashback into my esophagus that caused damage, so im on the GERD (low to no acidic foods) diet, no fried foods, no citrus, no chocolate, no caffiene, nothing too heavy, as it makes my stomach upset...would expect the pounds to come off quicker than they do, but i have dropped apx 25lbs, now if i could only get out and exercise more! I do try to walk as much as possible, take the steps, etc...small changes at a time

 

[ghinspire22]

I think sometimes people don't know how blessed they are when they conceive. They can just roll over and get pregnant but sometimes when you have to work for it really hard, it makes you realize how much more precious it is.

Right now I'm struggling to get pregnant and I feel like it's never going to happen. I'm a bigger girl and my husband is slightly overweigh too but we aren't sickly overweight.

I just keep telling myself that it's going to happen because there is nothing right now saying that it can't happen. Hubby hasn't been tested yet because right now it seems like everything is with me at the moment. I have PCOS and I'm the one not ovulating.

I just think when it does happen for us that it's going to be so amazing.

 

[Maureen1222]

hi maureen 1222

im cd17 not using anything to help me ttc as wouldnt know where to start to so im at the basic, writing down my AF dates, BDing dates, little help predicting ov via fertilityfriend.com and lots of sex, problems with periods and a worry about me possibly having pcos and endometreosis and not wanted to see doc as was worried what they would say and i didnt want to hear the words i cant have children but ive book apt to see docs next week for a proper chat about everything and some checks so will see what they say, hope its nothing serious as ive been ttc for a very long time with no job what so ever, hope you get your BFP Very soon and sending lots of baby dust

Thank you! I hope the doctor has good news for you! I would suggest having your partner checked right away also. I went on for years thinking it was just me and my PCOS and we recently learned that my husband has very low sperm count and other problems with morphology and such. I think I might have done things differently over the last year if I had known it wasnt just me. Good luck at the doctor and let me know how it went

 

[magic_angel]

Thank you! I hope the doctor has good news for you! I would suggest having your partner checked right away also. I went on for years thinking it was just me and my PCOS and we recently learned that my husband has very low sperm count and other problems with morphology and such. I think I might have done things differently over the last year if I had known it wasnt just me. Good luck at the doctor and let me know how it went [/QUOTE]




thank you, will do

 

[Maureen1222]

I think sometimes people don't know how blessed they are when they conceive. They can just roll over and get pregnant but sometimes when you have to work for it really hard, it makes you realize how much more precious it is.

Right now I'm struggling to get pregnant and I feel like it's never going to happen. I'm a bigger girl and my husband is slightly overweigh too but we aren't sickly overweight.

I just keep telling myself that it's going to happen because there is nothing right now saying that it can't happen. Hubby hasn't been tested yet because right now it seems like everything is with me at the moment. I have PCOS and I'm the one not ovulating.

I just think when it does happen for us that it's going to be so amazing.

Your post almost made me cry, bc I feel the same way. You are not alone! Its hard to tell other people it will be ok, when you don't even know for yourself. But I totally agree that when it does happen, every moment will be just that much more precious! I assumed that I was the only one who had a fertility problem, but when my husband was checked we found out he has very low sperm count! I went for years not knowing And as far as how easy everyone else gets pregnant, my friend has triplets who were conceived naturally, without trying, and half the time I think she wishes it never happened!

 

[magic_angel]

I think sometimes people don't know how blessed they are when they conceive. They can just roll over and get pregnant but sometimes when you have to work for it really hard, it makes you realize how much more precious it is.

Right now I'm struggling to get pregnant and I feel like it's never going to happen. I'm a bigger girl and my husband is slightly overweigh too but we aren't sickly overweight.

I just keep telling myself that it's going to happen because there is nothing right now saying that it can't happen. Hubby hasn't been tested yet because right now it seems like everything is with me at the moment. I have PCOS and I'm the one not ovulating.

I just think when it does happen for us that it's going to be so amazing.

Your post almost made me cry, bc I feel the same way. You are not alone! Its hard to tell other people it will be ok, when you don't even know for yourself. But I totally agree that when it does happen, every moment will be just that much more precious! I assumed that I was the only one who had a fertility problem, but when my husband was checked we found out he has very low sperm count! I went for years not knowing And as far as how easy everyone else gets pregnant, my friend has triplets who were conceived naturally, without trying, and half the time I think she wishes it never happened!

i too have had to deal with 3 more friends tell me they are pregnant and one of them is on baby number 5 and all shes talking about at the moment is shes not sure if shes keeping the baby... i just want to scream at her and shake her but i know it will make no difference and will ruin a friendship... i cant talk to anyone about all my feelings thats why i take great comfort coming on here and knowing that we are all in the same boat, i dont feel so lonely anymore. to be honest with you, this month i stopped thinking about getting pregnant and just needed some time to breathe as its so frustrating and im kicking myself every month so i decided not to try this month.
then my body did what its never done and thats have a one day bleed 2 weeks after af and its sent me into a spiral of feelings, and low and behold im back on the obsession bus...

I heard a perfect saying from somewhere and that was "We will have a baby when the baby is ready to have us as parents not when we want to be parents"
and i felt a little better, i guess if we all just put candles out, run a hot bubble bath, pour a glass of wine and relax and enjoy our partners instead of beating ourselves up for being faulty miracles happen, when you forget and stop trying, things happen, easier said than done but its better than having a headache all the time and stressing about things, i got bags full of baby dust and extra sticky glue for everyone xx

 

[Maureen1222]

i too have had to deal with 3 more friends tell me they are pregnant and one of them is on baby number 5 and all shes talking about at the moment is shes not sure if shes keeping the baby... i just want to scream at her and shake her but i know it will make no difference and will ruin a friendship... i cant talk to anyone about all my feelings thats why i take great comfort coming on here and knowing that we are all in the same boat, i dont feel so lonely anymore. to be honest with you, this month i stopped thinking about getting pregnant and just needed some time to breathe as its so frustrating and im kicking myself every month so i decided not to try this month.
then my body did what its never done and thats have a one day bleed 2 weeks after af and its sent me into a spiral of feelings, and low and behold im back on the obsession bus...

I heard a perfect saying from somewhere and that was "We will have a baby when the baby is ready to have us as parents not when we want to be parents"
and i felt a little better, i guess if we all just put candles out, run a hot bubble bath, pour a glass of wine and relax and enjoy our partners instead of beating ourselves up for being faulty miracles happen, when you forget and stop trying, things happen, easier said than done but its better than having a headache all the time and stressing about things, i got bags full of baby dust and extra sticky glue for everyone xx[/QUOTE]

Oh, its so easy to get back on the bus! I think that I will relax and not worry about whatever and then I find something to obsess about. Such as, my doctor did not have me scheduled for an u/s to check my follicles, she just said "call me when you get a +opk and we will schedule the IUI". So I obsessed and called her and had my first one tuesday. Going tomorrow for another to see if any follicles have grown. I can't believe that so far there is nothing but cysts, I am having what I think is pain in my ovaries mostly on the left. Maybe its just pain from cysts. I think that maybe I should take a break if nothing happens, but time is flying fast. I'm 32 and the clock is ticking. BTW, that saying is so sweet! My parents are not supportive about fertility meds. My mom thinks it will just "happen". She went as far as telling me old wives tales about leaving a wet diaper under your bed, etc I dont really tell anyone about what is going on with ttc because its hard to explain everything. No one knows how hard this is unless you go through it. I am so happy that I found this website to let it all out Thanks for chatting! I wish you the best!