Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[arlene]

Hi girls. James ia better, I had him on infacol to try and stopped 2 days ago cos I didn't think it was helping but he"s been really farty since and it ties in with the constipation. I've started it again to see if it makes a difference. James slept for 7hrs last night! 9pm-4am, he woke twice but went back down with his dummy.

How are the babies? Xx

 

[bbymc]

Aww that's great. Well done james!!

Lewis had a much better night last night although I just put him down again and he's really struggling with his breathing thanks to a blocked nose again. I really wish it would go away and stay away! He's only not struggled with a blocked nose for about 2 weeks since he's been born!

 

[arlene]

Morning girls.

How is everyone? And how are the boys doing in this heat?? James went from sleeping for 7hrs to 4hrs last night and just wouldn't settle, think he was just far too hot! I've just put him down for a nap on the couch in nothing but a nappy. Poor wee guy is shattered! Xx

 

[bbymc]

Lewis is doing ok but I have only been putting him in a vest. I think I'm gona take him to the doc tho cos he keeps spewing up loads after a feed again and is screaming and really arching his back like he's in agony. His sleeping is still not great either. He seems exhausted all the time but unable to sleep. Yesterday he had 2 feeds where he only fed for 5 mins before falling asleep. He usually feeds for at least 20 mins. I dunno what up with him cos I've been giving the gaviscon and colocynth crystals religiously and its still happening. My gut is telling me something isn't right, but I'm pretty sure if I go to the docs they will say its just his reflux and wind. Babies don't generally wake themselves up screaming. Its mega stressful!!

And on top of that I've got a stinking cold and feel terrible!

What you girls gona do while the weather is so lovely? Ryan's just taken the dogs and Lewis out for a walk to give me a break. I'm shattered!

 

[lj2245]

They might say it's just reflux and wind but they can give you meds for it. Even though Alex's reflux is caused by allergies, the Omeprazole does seem to help. Domperidone didn't work for Alex but it might help Lewis.

It's been warm here but inside my house is always cold so Alex is still sleeping in a babygro with a blanket! Right now he has joggers and a take that t-shirt on hehe.

 

[bbymc]

Lol. Where'd you get the take that tshirt??

I'm gona have to just go and see what they say. Its weird though cos a few weeks ago he was having no meds and I thought he was outgrowing it. Not sure what would make it come back so bad :-/

 

[lj2245]

Next, lol.

Is there definitely nothing you have been eating or drinking lately that you don't normally? Even something you normally have a little of but have been having lots of lately. It's amazing how much Alex is affected by everything I eat. Even the tiniest wee thing sets him off! The biggest culprits tend to be oats, wheat and dairy. Have you been having lots of ice cream maybe?

 

[arlene]

Emma just be firm with the docs and tell them you want something for it.

My brothers stepdaughter got James a t-shirt from Next with Jay-Z on it lol.

We've had my stepson staying for the last week and have him til next saturday. John's been working all week and I have to admit I've found it tough! It was the gala day at my mums last sunday and I've since found out that cameron (stepson) was being quite mean to the dogs. My brothers Belgian Collie cam be really timid due to mistreatment from his last owner and it rurns out cameron was wrapping the leash round his muzzle and stuff. That aside my nephew is 4 and practically idolises cameron when he's around and to be honest I think cameron plays on that if you know what I mean? Like he does atuff knowing Dara will copy him and get into trouble for it. And it drives me mental that I need to tell him to stop doing something before he stops or is dead sneaky and does it behind your back! We had a bbq at mum's yesterday and she took him aside without john knowing and gave him a pretty good warning. I just don't know whether I should tell John about it cos I know he'll be raging but the more I think about it the more I kind of resent cameron if you know what I mean? That sounds horrible but it's just hard.

Also felt crap yesterday cos John was taking the kickey out of me re dishes, cleaning etc which he does a lot and I know he's only joking cos I'm not the most domesticated but it got to me. Don't think it helps that I'm on day 21 of my first post baby period either

Sorry this has turned into a bit of a rant. Need to get it off my chest and get sone advice!! Xx

 

[lj2245]

It must be hard for all of you. Cameron isn't his Dad's baby any more and having seen how jealous Shaun can be, I feel for him a bit. That's no excuse for bad behaviour though and John needs to be firm with him, not raging if someone else is! I do get annoyed if Stephen's Mum attempts to tell Shaun off though but that's because she does it when I'm there and I'm perfectly capable of disciplining my own child and do so adequately. I have no problem telling her that though and she hasn't done it since I pulled her up about it. It's a tricky situation for you to be in. It does seem like Cameron is acting up to get attention and is maybe secretly punishing the dogs for how he's feeling. When Shaun gets jealous I tend to make a fuss of him and tell him what a great brother he is. I also try to make him understand that the baby needs me more than he does just now and he needs to try and be patient. Have you maybe tried to get Cameron involved in helping you with his brother?

Regarding your period...21 days? Flipping hell. I can't remember what mine was like after I had Shaun and I haven't had a period yet since I had Alex so I'm pretty useless on that matter Is that even normal? No wonder you feel rubbish.

 

[arlene]

That's the thing, he does get involved, he feeds him sometimes and sits him on his knee when he gets gripey. We always make sure John and Cam get some time just the two of them when he's here. Plus he's 13 so he should know better than to take any frustration out on any of the dogs. My mum spoke to Cam because she didn't want to upset John because she knows he feels guilty about leaving cameron when he left his ex. That's what's so difficult. I just don't know whether to tell John about it in case Cameron mentions it. Cam has been like that with my nephew for the last 18months or so. Like, he'll crash Dara's cars or trains together knowing Dara will copy him and get into trouble for it. For example, my mum's downstairs bedroom has a sofa bed in and is full of Dara's toys. One day we were all there and Cam came through to the kitchen, then Dara shouts "Gran come help me". He was stuck on the couch and couldn't get down cos of all the toys piled up and Cam had put him up there and left him! I think it's maybe different to your situation with shaun because your his mum and alex is obviously bf and has all his reflux and allergy issues. It's not like Cameron doesn't get quality time with his dad.

As for my period, I started my pill on day 1 of bleeding and finished it today, still bleeding. It's not heavy but I think it's beginning to take its toll xx

 

[lj2245]

I thought he was younger than that...no idea why lol!! The thing with telling John about your Mum having a word is it makes it seem like it's an issue, if you follow me... like your Mum possibly did something wrong. If you don't mention it and Cameron tells him, you could say you didn't tell him because it wasn't a big deal and it didn't occur to you to tell him.

He's probably acting up because he knows he's getting away with it. I went to live with my Dad after the divorce and my sisters stayed with my Mum and when they visited my Dad let them away with murder because he felt guilty. Now look at them, no respect for him at all and are the 2 most selfish people I have met.

I don't know how I'd feel in your shoes Arlene. It must be so difficult If Stephen had a kid and he was acting like a brat I'd definitely resent him. I'm quite vocal though so I'd have told Stephen to sort it out long ago.

If you're expected to look after him while John is at work then he definitely needs to make sure Cameron is behaving himself. You have enough to deal with with a new baby!

 

[arlene]

Yeah I see what you mean about my mum talking to him. I do feel like I'm starting to resent him and I don't like it, and I know it'd hurt John so much if I said that. I'm also a bit resentful cos we have him for two weeks, then John is going away to annual camp with cadets for two weeks, comes back on the friday and we get cameron for the weekend again. And we can't change weekends cos cameron's mum is a total banshee. I'm not one for sitting quietly either but I feel John might get pissed off if I'm constantly telling Cameron off if you know what I mean. I'll see how things go xx

 

[lj2245]

Someone has to! If John won't tell him to behave and Cameron knows he won't and knows you won't either then he's got it made! John will have to accept that the boy needs discipline. All children do. It's for his own good.

 

[arlene]

I don't mean that John doesn't discipline him, he does. Cameron is just sneaky in that he does it where/when his dad can't see him. xx

 

[lj2245]

I'm not looking forward to the teenage years Sneaky wee beggars! I remember what I was like as a 13 year old...scary stuff!!

 

[bbymc]

It's a tough situation you're in Arlene. I dont think you should mention your mum telling Cameron off cos that makes it seem like a big deal. But I suppose, if you did mention it, that will open up the chance to have a conversation with John about it. Cos if you discuss it and he agrees not to get mad if you ( or anyone else) disciplines Cameron when he isn't there, ( or if its you, when he is there), Cameron might realise you're a united front and be less likely to misbehave.

I regularly tell my nieces and nephew off if they misbehave. If my brother or sis in law are there I only really do it if they did something when my bro or sis in law didn't see. Then my bro or sis in law back me up so they have learnt that, we are united and don't misbehave (much) if its just me with them.

I dunno if I've had anything more than normal Laura. I have had a lot of ice cream but I stopped having cereal with milk so I wasn't overdoing it. I think I'll keep a food diary and see if that shows up anything.

 

[lj2245]

Yeah definitely. That's how I've managed to pinpoint what causes pain and sickness in Alex.

My hayfever is so bad right now. Can you take antihistamines when BF?

 

[bbymc]

I was reading up on what you can and cant take today cos ive felt so ill. There were some antihistamines you can take. Im pretty sure zirtec was one of them.

 

[lj2245]

Think I'll head to the chemist tomorrow and raid the minor ailments service lol. They are going to be sick of the sight of me!

 

[bbymc]

Laura, if I'm going to go dairy free, I can have soya milk can't I?