Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[lj2245]

Dietician was good. We've been given a prescription for neocate milk, which (if he can tolerate it) I've to use in his food so he's getting extra vitamins. We've been told to carry on giving him solids as my iron and calcium supplies will be low and my body will soon stop taking what it needs for Alex in my milk. She says I'm doing brilliant, especially as I've been left on my own to deal with it. Alex weighs 19lbs exactly now and is 68cm so is 98th centile for both. We have been referred to an allergy specialist for allergy management. We are going to be given piriton and Epi pens incase he ever has a serious reaction.

Got no advice on upping my supply. She said if we can find a formula that works its in his best interest to wean slowly off the breast and onto that so he can get the nutrients he will be missing from food.

Alex doesn't babble when he wakes. He's still very clingy, which is understandable, and gets upset quickly when he wakes up and I'm not there. If he's in bed with me he's happy to cuddle in and slap my face lots but when he's alone he starts crying and doesn't stop until I'm there. Thankfully I seem to have endless patience for him and don't mind in the slightest. I'm glad Shaun was an easy baby as I don't think id have coped as well back then.

 

[bbymc]

Sounds like a great appointment laura! Gold star for you. You've done amazing! How you feeling about giving up bf? I know you weren't keen. Might be easier now a professional has said its whats best. I wonder if he will tolerate the formula. Whats in it?

I measured lewis last week. Hes only 63cm. He does need 6-9 month vests tho so it must just be his body thats long. It must feel amazing to know that alex is on the 98th percentile despite the difficulties you've both had. Thats awesome! x

 

[arlene]

Sounds like the appointment went well Laura. You've done great with him so far.

She had her scan today. They've said there's a sac pf fluid that shouldn't be there, the heartbeat is quite weak and they've said it will have Downs Syndrome at least, more than likely it would have serious health issues and learning disabilities. She's to go for another scan next Tuesday and they'll lnow better then. If she doesn't terminate then they think she'll.miscarry anyway. It's not good but it's better that they know about it now rather than her being 20 weeks, or worse, going full term and going through labour to have a still birth or a baby that will only survive a few hours. It:s hard for them but it looks like it'll be an ethical termination. xx

 

[lj2245]

Well...I'm looking at my big strong boy and wondering how they can think fake milk is going to be better for him than my milk! He's thriving and I LOVE breast feeding him. I don't want to switch to formula. I guess I'll do it though if he can tolerate it. I'll need to be careful though because I don't want to end up with PND I just need to focus on the positives. He'll have had 6 month breast feeding, he will be getting the vitamins and minerals he needs, he won't be having any more reactions from me accidentally eating something he's allergic to, I can start to eat again and I can maybe go out for a wee drink! Lol!

When are we meeting up then? Lets get something arranged lol!

 

[lj2245]

Oh no they must be heartbroken. I know a couple who had a baby who they knew would die shortly after birth and they are still devastated 15 years later. Their wee girl only lived minutes. How far along are they?

Having had an ectopic pregnancy and a missed miscarriage myself...it does get easier. It's good that they have a good, supportive family x

 

[arlene]

She only just found out she was pregnant last week so she's only 6-8 weeks. The docs think she'll miscarry if they don't terminate so either way it's a very hard loss for them. xx

 

[bbymc]

Aww thats terrible Arlene! Much better to know now but it probably won't make it any easier for them It'll be tough but like laura said, theyve got a supportive family to help get them through.

Laura its seems youve got your eye on the positives already! Lol. Could you not bf abd take supplements so alex gets what he needs?

Im up for meeting whenever. Cant do Tuesdays but most other days are ok. Week days probably best too x

 

[lj2245]

Well the problem is that babies are weaned at 6 months and get nutrients from the food and from the milk. Lots of babies are put on follow on milk to get extra nutrients. Alex can't have that and no matter how many supplements I take, it won't make up for a balanced diet. He will be living on a very bland diet and won't be getting a broad range of foods. The hypoallergenic milk is also designed to do until he's 5 and can have rice milk. I doubt I can BF that long lol. I plan to string it out as long as I can but she's talking about having the switch completed by the time he's 6 months old.

If I didn't focus on the positives I think I'd want to kill myself. It's heartbreaking that the BF isn't working out like I'd hoped! I've tried so hard too! I had to write a wee list of positives to read when I start feeling down about it lol.

 

[bbymc]

You've done amazing to get this far. I know it must be hard to keep positive but you really should be proud of yourself. I would be lol. Wee Alex is thriving and its all because of you. Just look at it as moving forward and the next stage for him. He won't mind. I'm sure he'll be just as keen for his mummy cuddles as you are even though he won't be getting fed.

Could you not use the formula but still bf, even just once a day? It would mean you staying off the food he can't tolerate though that's the only thing.

 

[lj2245]

My supply is waning already and I doubt I'd be able to keep BF if I fed him any less than I do now

 

[Kaybee]

Oh, Arlene sorry to hear your brother and sil are going through a rough time. Sad news indeed.

Laura, wowsers at Alex weight. That is awesome and you should be so pleased with yourself i would probably try go with still doing a bf at least once a day if you are not ready to stop. Even if your BM is not at its max potential it would still have loads of good stuff in it. Like emma says though try think of it as another stage for you both. When i stop BF I am treating myself to a nice shiney new tattoo & a large glass of rose

Mondays and wednesdays are probably best days for me to meet, but not next week as Kaiden's bday is on the wed and i will probably be trying to sort his minion cake out on the mon-tues

 

[Kaybee]

Oh, just read your diminishing supply comment.

Considering how difficult it has been for you, you have done bloody amazing so dont feel bad

 

[lj2245]

She said I can keep bf until 6 months if I really want to but ideally should have made the transition by then. She said calcium and iron stores in bm naturally decline after that point. Gives me 2 months!! If the formula works ok il prob move over gradually... Maybe express and start off bf with one formula feed mixed with bm a day then aim for being fully on the formula by 6 months.

What's your plans for the minion cake? I have 2 minion cake orders and I've been saying for weeks that I need to do a practice run so you will likely see one from me too soon! Lol. I need to decide what size pans to use first!! Decisions!

Arlene, I signed up for that fayre on the 1st dec going to sell Xmas cupcakes!

 

[bbymc]

It's awesome how well jappacakes is going for you laura. If the cakes taste as good as they look its no wonder Every time you put pictures up of the cupcakes I'm tempted to order some. I would have by now if I wasn't trying to be healthy lol.

Well we put up blackout curtain liners up over lewis' black out blind and under his curtains last night cos there were wee spaces round the edge of the frame letting in light. I also mixed his porridge with formula last night as we have some cartons left over from the cup feeding when he was a baby. Duno if was eitherof them but lewis slept 7.30-5 then 5.15 til now (7.50) with a wee feed at 5. Amazing! ! I woke up at 4 in a panic though cos he was still sleeping and was awake ages. So uncomfy too as my bra was soaked and the bed was soaked thanks to my leakage. Lol. When he woke at 5 I practically sprang oit of bed to get myself sorted lol!!

 

[lj2245]

Hehe long may it continue!! I have a blackout blind and curtains in my room for the same reason but in Alex's room I bought a travel blackout blind to go under the wooden one that's already there. Because it sticks to the window with suction cups it lets no light in at all. It will also be handy for holidays and overnight stays with his nana

Things are a bit slow this month for Jappacakes but from next month I'm going to be busy!! This month I'm concentrating on building a stock of photos. I'm going to buy some cake dummies and decorate them lol

 

[lj2245]

Ps - I have plans to bring cake when we meet

 

[bbymc]

Good good. I love cake!!! :-D

I was gona buy a 'gro anywhere blind' for the caravan but they are expensive. We just use thick towels atm lol. Cheapskates! Lol

 

[arlene]

Glad you got a stall booked Laura! I've booked a table for each event up til christmas. Avon do loada of lovely christmassy things! Xx

 

[lj2245]

It's a Gro anywhere I have but Argos do ones for £20 with free delivery (you can't get them in the shop) I paid £30 for mine in toys r us because I was too impatient to wait for delivery

I'm still in 2 minds about whether to book for sept and august. Madeira cakes need 12 hours to 'moisten' after baking and can be baked a week before sale and still have a whole week to be eaten so I could, technically, make the cakes and still do the stall but if I'm going to be selling cupcakes I'd need to bake and decorate them too! Not easy with a baby. I figure I'll go and do the xmas one and sell xmassy cupcakes

 

[lj2245]

Well that My Fayre Lady thing is run by a bunch of idiots! I asked if they had a cupcake stand for Dec and was told no and that I could have the place. I said thank you and they said I needed to pay the fee, which I said I would. Then I got a message telling me someone else had got in first and paid them £15 so I would no longer be allowed to have my stand! Very unprofessional. They said I could have first reserve, I told them politely where to stick it lol. Imagine asking people for money when they are asking someone else for money for the same thing!