Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[Kaybee]

Aww Laura what a wee monkey he is. Perhaps you could leave it a couple of days and try again. Maybe get someone else to feed him? Do you have a follow up appointment with the dietitian or are you able to contact them if you need to?

 

[lj2245]

I know if I give in and give him the boob he'll never take the milk. I can't blame him, stephen tasted it and almost threw up.

 

[Kaybee]

aw no. How about less formula and more BM mix?

 

[lj2245]

He's taking it 75bm/25f. It's a start

 

[Kaybee]

Thats good. Looks like it may be a slow process then.

 

[arlene]

Don't give up Laura, you've done so well with Alex!! I've been feeding James 6ozs feeds today, he's been going about 3 hours between feeds so I don't know if I've just maybe been over feeding him if that makes sense? I bought a bowl, spoons and some Ella's Kitchen Baby Porridge. I had a look at the Cow & Gate one but the calories and fat content were so much higher! I think the Ella's Kitchen stuff is much healthier in general, my friend swear by it for her 14 month old. xx

 

[bbymc]

Laura that's great Alex is taking 75/25 mix. It will be a slow process. You and Alex are doing great. He might not like the taste but I'm ure he'll get used to it. It's fab he can tolerate it at all though! Maybe it would be easier to remove yourself from some feeds, just so its less stressful fo.r you. Cos Alex will sense it. To be fair though, I'd find that tough. So i totally understand if you didn't want to do that.

Karen, I don't sterilise anything. I used to but then I figured he gets so many germs off my nieces and nephew, the dogs and strangers that insist on touching him, that I didn't see the point lol.

Arlene, I give Lewis Ella's kitchen porridge. He loves it!

Well Ryan and I went to see Ed Byrne. He was utter gash! I thought I was gona fall asleep in the middle of it lol. We went for one drink after but I was so tired, I just wanted my bed lol. Think we'll need to wait til Lewis is STTN before we go out again or go out during the day so I'm not so exhausted!!

Btw, bit personal, don't answer if you don't want to, but what are your sex lives like since baby came? I can't say we have much of one these days lol. I'm always exhausted. Lol.

 

[Kaybee]

This is a rareity for me. Both boys are sleeping and me and dave are actually both in the living room together! Although he is using the laptop and me using the tablet Normally i am upstairs trying to get one or both boys to sleep and usually just stay up there reading my book!

What is this sex thing you speak of? we have hardly done it at all. I feel bad cause we didnt have much action when i was pg either and the last 2 maybe 3 times he has tried it on i have knocked him back. Just too tired and tbh was feeling a wee bit neglected outside of the bedroom too. It was the same after having kaiden.

 

[lj2245]

Sex? Once since Alex was born. Lol. When I'm not with Alex, Stephen is. I'm still wearing the pants I bought to wear when I was bleeding. I bought them instead of disposables with the intention of throwing them out but tbh, they are just to comfy to throw away! They are massive though so between that and the fact Alex was constantly glued to my boob, I don't feel particularly sexy lol! I'm exhausted too. Plus...I haven't been able to have an alcoholic drink in over a year I'm sure when I start drinking again my sex life will pick up. I seem to drop to the same wavelength as Stephen when I'm drunk lol. Sober, I just want to strangle him half the time.

I can't even say I've knocked Stephen back because he doesn't seem to be interested either! LOL!

 

[bbymc]

I feel so much better after asking that! ! I was worried id be the only one with next to no sex life lol. I have spoke to ryan about it as I figured he should know whats going on in my head. He says hes not bothered. Duno if thats true but at least its no big deal. Im just way too exhausted and even though it was a while ago now, the whole induction process left me in pain so I'm always scared its gonna hurt. Thats a definite passion killer!

Once I start drinking again things will probably pick up though lol! I think I have knocked Ryan back a few times. Every time was cos I was exhausted so one time he decided to wake me in the early hours before lewis woke up and after id slept a bit lol.

How come you're feeling neglected Karen? Have you guys had any time without the boys yet?

 

[arlene]

Well, James was 6 weeks when we first dtd then I got my first period for 4 weeks and that killed it. Then we moved and John went away for 2 weeks. While he was away I went and bought new bras and undies cos I was sick of wearing big pants and maternity bras, I wanted to feel feminine and girly. We had a bit of a dirty weekend when we went to Glasgow (sorry if tmi) but not much since! James still wakes 3-4 times for his dummy so sleep is always interrupted. Do you think it's different cos you guys are bf? Why are you feeling neglected Karen? Xx

 

[bbymc]

If I wasnt bf it probably would be a bit different cos up until about 2 weeks ago my boobs were still sore quite a lot and would leak. Major passion killer!! But also, breastfeeding means I do all the night feeding so I'm always exhausted. With bottle feeding you and john can split it.

I'm glad one of us is getting some action lol! Its funny to think Ryan and I talked about TTC #2 but the reality is, even if we were super keen, it still wouldnt happen for ages since we rarely dtd lol.

 

[arlene]

James doesn't feed through the night but he does wake up to 4 times. John always snores away! In fact the other night I slept with James in the spare room cos he was really restless. The dogs have a bug and were whining to get out at 3am so I went downstairs. Heard James crying from the kitchen then he stopped so I assumed John had gone to him. Nope! He was still snoring away in bed!! Xx

 

[Kaybee]

I guess we are both just really busy with the 2 boys and then dave has his loads of club stuff to do. He is meant to be giving it up after this season whenever that ends. For a while I was worried about the whole work thing and felt that he wasn't making much effort to get another job but after a chat he has gone out and got another job which he starts today. Its only thurs & fri just now plus his weekend job. We are hoping that after I get busy january out the way at my work i can just work mon-wed and that way we wont need childcare. Just have to see how that will work out financially. He doesn't worry about money the same as me.

I think I will see if maybe my mum or SIL will take Kaiden overnight one weekend soon and try spend some time together. I will probably keep Dylan here but he is not any bother really. The wee star slept last night from 8.45 until 4.15 and then until 6.45. Kaiden waking us both times although I wasn't sleeping very well as kept waking to check Dylan since he decided to sleep on his tummy and kept putting his face flat on the mattress!

With the BF affecting sexy time I think it does in that sometimes I feel a bit overtouched if that makes sense.

 

[lj2245]

Nothing affects sexy time quite like bed sharing lol.

 

[Kaybee]

so true!

 

[bbymc]

Lewis is starting to wake up and go back down with the dummy but I'm worried he's going to start to need it to fall asleep and end up getting up more often. I have no idea how to settle him without it though as I'd probably need to pick him up and he'd get pissed off if I did that and didn't feed him lol.

That's great James isn't feeding through the night! I totally understand the snoring thing. Ryan is terrible. I used to turf him out into the spare room until my cousin broke the bed.

Karen that's awesome Dylan slept better last night! Here's hoping that's the start of him going back to normal!

I'm glad you're feeling better about the work situation. I'm a worrier too. Ryan's attitude is sooo much more laid back. He's been right so far though, its always been ok lol. I hope Dave gets on ok at his new job today! We are thinking about doing opposite days when I go back to work too. Definitely a good idea to cut child are costs but I worry that it might affect our relationship if we are always working opposite days cos we would be like ships passing in the night. I don't think we will have much choice though.

You should definitely get family to watch Kaiden overnight. You could even get someone to watch Kaiden overnight and someone else to watch Dylan for a few hours. Then you'd at least be able to get a few child free hours in. Maybe go out for tea or something?

Lewis has only woke up once for a feed for the last 2 nights but last night he woke twice. The first time was at 12, when I usually just put his dummy in. Last night though he got himself into a terrible state. It was a wee shame!

 

[bbymc]

Haha that's true!

 

[lj2245]

It won't be long before he can pick up his own dummy and put it in Emma I'm trying to settle Alex with a dummy but he's not interested lol! Alex has a Sleepytot, which is supposed to help them find their dummy in the dark

 

[bbymc]

Never heard of a sleepytot. Will it help me find it in the dark too? Lol