Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[bbymc]

Oh that's good to know. As far as I know, my work pays me full pay for 14 weeks then I get the remaining stat mat pay over 25 weeks. Then unpaid for the rest. I can take up to 63 weeks off in total though. But no more than 52 after the baby is born. I need the max amount of cash I can get so I'm praying that once I'm over this, I'll be able to work full time for the rest. Who knows though. I'm thinking I might need to go back with reduced hours to begin with. I don't think I'd cope with a f/t 9-5 job at the moment. Cos even though I'm not as sick as I was a few weeks ago, I'm still unable to do every day stuff without needing to rest for hours afterwards. Not sure i can go from that to focusing on writing reports or attending meetings or supporting families who aren't coping for 9 hours a day. Not to mention all the travelling I need to do. I'm green just thinking bout it lol! Xx

 

[lj2245]

I'm still bad with the ms and still in the evenings. I feel terrible right now. Tried to use my Doppler earlier to take my mind off it and I couldn't hear a thing for the amplified gurgling noises coming from my tummy through it!

I hope wel hit 12 weeks and will start to get 2nd tri glow! I remember feeling awesome from about 12 weeks 'til about 30 with Shaun. So much energy!! We just need to get through the next few weeks any way we can lol.

 

[bbymc]

I'm with you on that! I'm sick of feeling terrible! It's depressing! we're going to a wedding reception for Ryan's brother tonight. It's a ceilidh in Edinburgh Castle. We both love ceilidhs but I'm feeling terrible so I'm dreading it! Another night of faking a bad virus. Quite gutted cos we've been looking forward to it. Not sure I'll make it at all.

The only thing that's keeping me going at the mo is the fact that it's not long til I'm 12 weeks and we can start telling people. That will cheer me up for a while lol. If I'm still ill after 12 weeks though, I'll probably feel even worse! I've been banking on it easing off around then. Xx

 

[lj2245]

I couldn't do a social event just now. We had a 25th anniversary party last night and an engagement party tonight and are missing both. I feel ok in the mornings but get steadily worse as the day goes on. I don't remember it being this bad with Shaun, maybe I am having a girl!!

Maybe you can hide in a corner and drink Irn Bru.

 

[bbymc]

Well cos it's Ryan's brother its difficult for us to hide away lol. Luckily Ryan's agreed we can leave whenever. That makes me feel a bit better cos if I thought I had to struggle on all night, I wouldn't be going.

Maybe you are having a girl. That'd be nice! One of each Have you not found anything that eases it? Fizzy juice seems to work a bit for me but that's with still taking meds lol. I just ate a burger king. Feel like such a fatty, but thankfully, I don't feel sick anymore. I give it until the start of the reception tonight before it comes back twice as bad lol.

I think I would be not too bad if my sense of smell wasn't outrageous lol. Everything stinks. Even nice smells smell bad to me. Like flowers, and fabric softener lol. Ryan bought me flowers the other day and as soon asi was near them I started to boke at the smell lol. I felt sooo bad! Xx

 

[lj2245]

I thought Lucozade was helping for a day or two but I think I was just having a good couple of days because it certainly isn't helping now. The only thing that helps is sleeping, which thankfully I am doing a lot of.

It's good you can leave whenever you feel like it. It's also good it's only the reception and not the whole thing. Can you imagine having to sit through a whole wedding, 3 course meal then the reception? We have a reception to go to next month in Edinburgh but for some reason they are getting married midweek, so it will be difficult for us as Stephen works shifts and we have Shaun and no one near by to babysit.

My friends have asked me over to one of their houses for a drunken girls night 2 weeks today. It will be before my 12 week scan so they won't know I'm pregnant but I don't know how I can explain I'm not drinking. I live 35 miles away (they are all in Glasgow) so would usually stay over but I'm thinking about saying Stephen has a night out that night and I need to pick him up, or something that doesn't involve anti-biotics. Lol. I just hope I feel up to it because it's been months since I saw anyone so I do need to get out the house!

 

[bbymc]

We had the full wedding last week. In London. It was horrendous. I had to get up and be sick between each course lol. Not to mention travel there and back on the train for 5 hours sitting backwards!!

Sounds like you'll have a valid excuse for the midweek wedding if you needed one! As for your night out with mates, the easiest thing would be to say you need to drive somewhere. I'd go with saying you need to pick Stephen up somewhere. If you say you're on a diet or something, they might think they can persuade you to drink, but also, you have no reason then why you can't stay over.

I honestly thought I wouldn't mind keeping this a secret until 12 weeks but I honestly hate it. I feel so dishonest! I know people will understand once it's all in the open, but for now, I feel horrible. I mean Ryan's mum has been asking how I am loads as we told her I had a really bad virus ( mainly encase I couldn't make the wedding last week). And god knows what my flat mate thinks is going on lol! Xx

 

[lj2245]

Have you not told anyone at all? I'm carer for my disabled Dad and have been so ill I had to tell him. I also told my sister as I'm very close to her and would want her support if we lost the baby. Plus she's just moved into her first house and I made plan 3 weekends running to take my Dad to see her house and had to keep cancelling. I felt I owed her an explanation.

Stephen's uncle died and his Dad was really upset. I couldn't go to the funeral (I was 6w and it was the worst week of MS) and Stephen ended up telling his Dad about the baby, to 'cheer him up'.

He then told his Mum, who was the last person I wanted to know. Then she started all that nonsense about telling his brother, but since I told her it was none of her bloody business she hasn't mentioned it again.

I came back from our Wedding/honeymoon with Cholera, so I have been able to explain the hiding away at home with that but it's 2 months since we got home so it's beginning to sound ridiculous lol. Cholera is serious but not that bad. I have also used the redundancy and lack of funds as an excuse to not do things I normally would, like go to gigs with friends.

We had planned to tell everyone after the 12 week scan but I'm not sure now lol.

 

[bbymc]

We had planned to tell no one but a bit like you, there were a few we couldn't keep it from.

My brother rumbled me 3 days after I found out. I was only 3+6 when that happened and really pissed off at him for forcing it out of me. He went on and on until I caved. I knew he wouldn't drop it so I told him so that he would know to keep it a secret. Naturally that meant his wife also knows. I didn't mind that so much as she was good support in the early days.

We then told my parents when I was 5 weeks because I knew they would guess otherwise. My dad claims he already 'knew' lol. I see them every day as well though so I knew they would figure it out. I wanted their support if anything went wrong too. With how Ill I've been though, there is no way we could have kept it from them.

I suggested we tell Ryan's family before the wedding in London last week but I think because I've been so ill Ryan wasnt keen encase anything happens. We plan on telling his family the weekend following the scan. I think they should have been told sooner, but I left it up to Ryan.

I had been keen to tell everyone as soon as I got to 12 weeks, but now I'm not sure either lol. I think we will just tell people as we see them rather than go out our way to announce it to everyone. There is a good chance some people wont know for quite a while that way.

We have a wedding when I'll be 16 weeks and dont plan on telling anyone that's going before then. I'm hoping I have an obvious bump by then otherwise people will just think I've got fat lol xx

 

[lj2245]

Hahah, noone will know by looking at me until I am at least 4 or 5 months.

How did your brother know? That's spooky lol.

I stupidly left the NHS scotland pregnancy book my midwife gave me out in the living room. Didn't even think about it. My other sister came to visit and it was sitting there the whole time. If she saw it, she hasn't said anything! I'll deffo tell her at 12 weeks.

 

[bbymc]

Lol, surely she would have said something if she noticed it??

My brother knew because I went to a hen night with my mum and sis in law the night before and I didn't drink. I told them all I wasn't feeling well but my bro didn't buy it. As soon as I saw him he said 'that sounds like pregnancy talk' lol. I denied it but he kept on at me until I told him. Which I only did because my mum was in the next room and I didn't want her to find out by overhearing it. I was mad at him about it cos I obviously didn't want to tell him but he forced me to, just to shut him up.

Well I managed the wedding reception. Kind of felt a bit of a bore though since I just sat there. I never danced or anything. People clearly thought I was being boring lol. Oh well, I wasn't sick lol. So I'm happy. Xx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey ladies :wave:

Bbymc glad the wedding was ok Hun...x

Lj how u doin? Ive told my parents my brother and a few of my customers just because of how sick I hav been...x

Cos I'm self employed I'm only entiteled to 6 months government stat pay Which is pants and the most il be able to take off is 4 months cos if I'm off any longer my customers will forget about me

Well I'm still sick its awful got my friends today for afternoon tea she's due next wk..x

 

[lj2245]

Glad you survived the wedding! I was in bed by 9pm again lol. I made it to Tesco yesterday morning though, which is a first since MS began! I even made a Thai Green Curry for dinner and managed to eat loads of it, which is another first!

Will you be able to take the baby with you when you go back to work Cheryl?

 

[CherylC3]

Go u for getting to tesco and the curry..

Im going to work 3 days a wk so between my mum and hubby I hav it covered...x

 

[lj2245]

That's not so bad. My Dad can watch Shaun for a few hours after school or for an hour before school if I need him to but he won't be able to manage a baby and there isn't anyone else who could watch him/her. Other than Stephen's evil witch of a mum who is too busy enjoying her retirement at the grand old age of 50 to want to watch her grandchild. Looks like it will be a childminder!!

 

[CherylC3]

Aw Hun thts a nightmare, my mum and dad are desperate to hav a gran child here just because my niece is in brazil. Hav u did the Chinese gender thing? I'm predicted a girl and for my 2mcs it was a boy both times I checked back my mum and Colin's mum and other friends I kno who hav had baby's and it's never been wrong. X

 

[lj2245]

No...where do you do that?

 

[CherylC3]

Online it's ur age and month u conceive I googled it. X

 

[lj2245]

Says it's a boy. Hmm. I'm thinking girl this time though!!

 

[bbymc]

Well done for makin it to tesco. I've not been to any shops since MS began. I think I would be sick everywhere!

Cheryl, that's a shame you'll have to go back to work so soon. It's great to be self employed though, it'll give you real flexibility if you need alter your day around baby.

Lj, would you mind using a childminder? If stephen's mum offered, would you be happy for her to watch the baby?

I have no idea what Im gona do. I think I'll end up going back full time. I would rather not work at all if I could, but that's probably unrealistic. My mum is keen to watch this baby as she didn't get much input with my brother's kids but she still works full time. I think she plans to use the baby as an excuse to retire lol. Ryan's mum is retired too and would probably watch the baby some days if we needed it. Ryan currently works in a bar though so he is often off during the day and working at night. Good for looking after baby but crap for us to have time together or as a family. Xx