Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[bbymc]

Lol, that's good then! SPD sounds agony! My sis in law had it and was on crunches in the end! I hope it doesn't get that bad for you!

For all the moaning about aches and pains I'm doing, baby is doing great so that's all that really matters to me!

Sounds like you need a break Laura! It'll be awesome! We still haven't booked anything yet. Ryan's mum is trained in pregnancy massage so I'm hopefully gona get a few soon. I need them! Lol x

 

[lj2245]

Oooh massage sounds awesome. I might book myself in for one

I have crutches and a wheelchair from when my arthritis was really bad so I'll use them when I need to. I had to use crutches towards the end with Shaun but it feels different this time, it's not pressure from the baby on my pelvis that's making me sore, it's the overlapping and grinding! I'm not sure how much crutches will help. There's no pain at all in my pelvis when I'm walking, just when I'm lying down.

I've been able to turn my belly button inside out for the past couple of weeks and Shaun thinks it's the funnies thing ever!

 

[Kaybee]

Am back to work today. Should of been yesterday but was still feeling rubbish so didn't come in. Still feeling crappy today really but I just feel so guilty when I'm off.

I need your opinion ladies. My DH was away for the weekend between Xmas and New Year for some remote control racing event in Preston. A day or two after he gets home he tells me he's been invited to their next event at Easter. I ask when Easter is and he says its the 30-31 March. My due date is 29 March and am having an elective c section so likely will have been in hospital during that week to have DS2. I've said I don't want him to go and I wouldn't normally tell him not to do something but he doesn't seem to see why I would think its totally unreasonable. I can just see this turning into a massive argument. Its his 40th on 5 April so I can see him saying he wants to do it for his birthday and as he is the committee chairperson for his club he should go blah blah blah.

 

[bbymc]

I'd be demanding he doesn't go lol. Surely he can see why you don't want him to go? If he doesn't, have you pointed it out? Xx

 

[CherylC3]

I'd say no way my hubby wanted to go out to a gig on April 12th I'm due the 16th so I told him he cudnt go to it but he was fine about it... Men just don't get it tht they need to be there around our baby's being born especially when u already hav wee Kaiden. Xxx

 

[Kaybee]

I'd be demanding he doesn't go lol. Surely he can see why you don't want him to go? If he doesn't, have you pointed it out? Xx

When he first mentioned it I just said 'I dont think so!' and it wasnt really spoken about. His mum was round the other day and asked how he had got on when he was away and it was mentioned again and I said I thought it was unreasonble to expect to go and she agreed with me but said she wasn't getting involved. Its not been spoken about since. I think I will wait and see if he brings it up again.

 

[lj2245]

Men!! My ex went to Cyprus for 2 weeks for his cousins wedding when Shaun was 2 weeks old. Why do they think its acceptable to just up and leave? If you wanted to disappear that weekend he'd probably say eh no, you're having a baby!! Funny how its different for them. Stick to your guns, you will need help with the baby and kaiden!

I got all my baby shopping finished today. My brother works in toys r us and gets a 20% discount across their baby range so I thought I'd go and take advantage of the sales. His colleague gave me a voucher for an additional 20% off babies r us so I got £800 worth of stuff for £475. That's not including the jan sales discounts. I've got a code for babies r us online, 20% off until Sunday. 20JANS if any of you want to use it

 

[arlene]

Laura, that's great you got everything so cheap!! If you hear of any other discount codes, let us know!! Lol.

Kaybee, I really think your OH should be staying with you. If it had been that he was going the week before your due date then it might have been ok but considering it's 2 days after your date and you're going for an elective section, surely he doesn't think it's ok to go when you have a 2 day old baby and are recovering from the section??

I have a kinda similar issue in that we normally spend the first weekend in April in Nottingham watching ice hockey. It's the culmination of the season and is always a great weekend. Problem is it works out 2 weeks before my due date and I'm trying to decide whether or not I should go, especially since there's a chance the Edinburgh team will make it to the semi finals which are played on the Saturday. OH has said he's going with or without me lol and is taking my stepson which I don't mind as I know he could be back up here in about 4 hours should anything happen. The hotel has been booked and I need to have my ticket for the event booked and paid by the end of February whic is £70. I'm thinking I'll book the ticket for me anyway and if I don't feel up to going when it comes to it, I can try and sell it to someone else or just take the hit.

Slightly off topic as well but I just found out my dogs sister was hit by a car today and didn't make it, she was only 2 and the most beautiful spaniel, the spitting image of her brother. I've known her owners since I was 13 and they're absolutely devastated. I'm so upset for them, keep looking at Moby (my mutt) and getting very teary xx

 

[Cherrybump]

hey ladies sorry i aint been posting much lately. Ive hit a cleaning streak in my house were i hate to be sitting still for so long and start cleaning lol anything to keep me busy.

Me and baby are both well and i cant believe just how far along i am now. Hope yor all keeping well to xx

 

[bbymc]

Hey ladies. Welcome back cherry bump. I was beginning to wonder where you'd got to. Lol. I see your little lady has a name now . Paige is lovely!

Thanks for the discount code Laura. Think we'll use it to buy our cot mattress. That's great you've got everything now! Just the nursery left to decorate eh? Will you manage, what with your spd being so sore?

Karen, you any further forward with hubby?? Maybe his mum could make him see sense since she agrees with you lol. Surely it's worth a try if he is so set on going?

Arlene, I'd just book your ticket and sell it if need be. 2 weeks before your due date isn't long but who knows, you might go to 42 weeks, and kick yourself for not going if you don't chance it.

So I'm just in from going to the hospital. I've had to phone the midwife for the last 3 days due to agonising pains on my right side. Phoned again tonight to find out if there was anything else I could do at home to help it as I was already doing all they'd told me to and was still in agony but they insisted I went in to get checked. An hour later and the same conclusion was reached. Severe ligament pain and spasms. She gave me dyhydracodine to take if I need to but then basically told me not to take it and even though she could see I was in agony, she suggested I should just put up with it! I feel a right idiot for going in now, but it is soooooo sore! Nothing is helping... Rest, heat, a bath, paracetamol... Nothing! 4 days this has been going on, on and off, thank god! But it better end soon! Thankfully my doc signed me off another week though! God knows how I'd have managed at work!

 

[bbymc]

On a lighter note, we booked our 3d scan for 18th Jan. I cannot actually wait lol! We're allowed folk in with us too so we've invited my parents, Ryan's parents and his step mum

 

[lj2245]

Yay for the scan Where are you going for that? Is that the Groupon you bought?

It's been all drama tonight! My friend who's due on the same date as you has spent tonight in hospital too as she hasn't felt baby move all day. Thankfully everything is ok but I think it's been one of those days! I hope you feel better soon, there's nothing worse than being in constant pain and not being able to get a decent sleep. I've resigned myself to the fact it's going to be a painful 3 months but it seems to be flying by. Do you think a support belt might help you? Mothercare and Babies R Us sell them for about £20...it would take some pressure off your ligaments.

The decorating should be fairly easy. The wallpaper scraping has been done already apart from the top bits so when Stephen has done that I can sit on my maternity ball and leisurely paint the woodwork. Then I'll hang some paper. It should only take me 2-3 hours, going by how long the living room took to paper. Then I just need to paint, which (with a decent one coat paint) should take me another couple of hours. Once it's all done I can get a carpet fitted and start to put in the furniture and lovely accessories I spent a fortune on We have went with the Babies R Us boy's Pirate theme It's so cute!!! I bought the entire range lol.

 

[bbymc]

Aw I'm glad your friend's baby is ok. The midwife had me all worried just by asking me about baby's movements. Made me suddenly doubt myself but its all good. Heard the heartbeat at the hospital after hearing it move all over the place for 5 mins or so first lol.

Yeah, I bought a support belt. I wore it once and it felt great for a few hours but then my pain was 10x worse so I took it off and have been worried that'll happen if I wear it again. Think I'll try it again today though cos I need some relief. I never thought constant pain could be this exhausting!

Sounds like you've got the decorating in hand. Great you know how to wallpaper! That'll save loads of time I reckon. It's way quicker than painting! What's the paper like? I looked at the ranges in babies r us. We almost bought the jungle one, didn't in the end due to a sale in mamas and papas though. I'd have bought everything like you if I had have bought it though. It's not too badly priced in there too. Still, with your discounts, you'll have saved a fortune!

My scan is booked with 'peek a view'. It's the group on I got. I'm mad though cos all advertising says I have to attend the Edinburgh clinic and they answer the phone calling themselves the Edinburgh clinic but they are actually out next to St Johns hospital in Livingston! And they say they've been based there for 2 years too! Sooo annoying! I would have gone elsewhere if I'd known that!

 

[lj2245]

It's just lining paper to give the wall a decent finish before I paint it blue and cream. I got a border in the pirate theme to stick up I liked the Jungle theme one but it has green so it's not allowed Stupid man! I think our one is called Little Treasures. The cot set with the bumper was £100 reduced to £80 but i got it for £48 with my discounts Then I got the curtains, uplighter, mobile, cuddle robe, padded wall hangings and the border lol. I can't wait to see it all finished. I ordered one of those gliding rocker chairs with the foot stool (Tutti Bambini?) yesterday online so I can sit on that and enjoy the room when it's done hehe

 

[Cherrybump]

Yeah hun little Paige.

Just couldnt get myself on here long enough to read anything i got bit bored of it lol so i started to get myself in to cleaning and getting the flat together for baby coming along But Ryan always seems to leave another bloody mess for me to tidy up men are useless at times. i already told him that with this baby on the way i dont wanna be picking up things after him. im not his mum and he should know where the bin is by now and when it comes to hanging his jacket up he dumps in the the living room floor Grrr. Need to kick him up the behind.

apart from that xmas was mad at work and once i got home after i was Ko'd lol crashing out. but im hoping ill be managing to get my butt back on here to actively again xx

 

[arlene]

Glad to see you back Cheryl!

Got a question for you ladies and I know it's a sensitive subject for a lot of peeps so bear with! I was wondering if any of you had made a decision or what your thoughts are re breast feeding? I know it's best for the baby and at my last appointment I told my midwife I was going to try but the more I think about it, the more I wonder whether I said that because it's what's expected if you know what I mean? I'm just not sure I'm 100% comfortable with it. Just looking for some thoughts and support!! Xx

 

[lj2245]

I think it's a decision you have to make based on what's best for you and your baby and you have to be determined not to let anyone bully or guilt you into doing what you don't want. There are people who still complain about ladies BF in public and there are a lot of people with a superiority complex who insist that there is no reason why a woman shouldn't BF. They should all keep their noses out lol!

Personally, I had such a traumatic and painful time BF my son that I am loathe to do it again. I BF him for 3 painful months (I have flat nipples and massive boobs so it was difficult for him to latch on) before developing severe mastitis in both breasts. I had to stop BF until the infection cleared and my son thrived taking milk from a bottle. I expressed to try and keep my supply up but my son wasn't interested when I tried to BF again, he just wanted the bottle! I tried to keep up a supply with expressing but i felt like I was attached to the pump 24/7 and was getting less and less each time. The guilt was completely overwhelming and I felt like a useless mother who had badly let her son down. When I was feeling a bit better about it mentally, I swore I would FF any other children I'd had as I didn't want to put myself through that again.

Time is good at making you forget how bad things are though and I have decided to attempt BF again. I am going to be much more open minded about it this time though and have already bought bottles and formula incase it doesn't work out. The last thing I want is a hungry, screaming baby and me pulling my hair out with frustration and having nothing prepared! I have bought a pump too and will use that for as long as I can if I do decide to switch to bottles. One thing I won't be doing is beating myself up this time though. If it doesn't work out it doesn't work out and anyone who wants to look down on me or make me feel bad about that can shove it lol.

 

[bbymc]

I plan to bf but I'm well aware that it may not work out as I imagine. I've been well warned by lots of people that it takes time and can really really hurt. I've got a pump but I plan to buy bottles and formula so that I can move to that if I'm struggling. I know if I can't do it I'll probably feel like I've failed, but then, as long as I try I'll probably not feel as bad. I think it'll just be a case of taking each day as it comes. As long as baby is feeding well, I won't be too bothered which method I end up using tbh.

 

[CherylC3]

Hey I'm going to give it a go I've ordered my breast pump but I think I'm planning to breast feed and do a bottle on the last feed at night been reading a book and it advises u to do tht but we'll see wot happens when the baby comes and I'm in agony lol..cx

 

[lj2245]

I plan to bf but I'm well aware that it may not work out as I imagine. I've been well warned by lots of people that it takes time and can really really hurt. I've got a pump but I plan to buy bottles and formula so that I can move to that if I'm struggling. I know if I can't do it I'll probably feel like I've failed, but then, as long as I try I'll probably not feel as bad. I think it'll just be a case of taking each day as it comes. As long as baby is feeding well, I won't be too bothered which method I end up using tbh.

I wish I'd had your attitude when I had my son. I didn't know anyone who had BF though so was unable to get any advice. I assumed it would be fine and we would be naturals at it! I had no bottles and no steriliser to begin with and when I developed the infection I had to send Oh out at 3am to get the lot from a 24 hour Tesco! Shaun was screaming with hunger. I had to get the midwife to come out the next morning and she said it was just as well I had stopped trying to BF that night as my ducts were full of infection and I would only have made my son ill. I had to take antibiotics to clear it and it was excruciating trying to express for the week I was told to stop BF for. I was so adamant that it was only a wee hitch and we would be fine again so I was devastated when he refused to BF! Talk about naive! I'm so glad I know what to expect this time around and it's good you know people who can give you advice. Chances are it will be great and you will manage no problem but you definitely have a good, open minded attitude