Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[bbymc]

God that sounds horrendous Laura. I guess it's easy to get into that situation though, especially if you dont know anyone who bfs as well as the social pressure to bf that there seems to be.

My mum managed to bf no problem so I'm hoping I'm the same. But I have a few friends who haven't managed or some that have and have told me it took ages before it became comfortable and natural. So I'm fully expecting it to hurt, but I won't give up. Not unless I'm exhausted, its just too sore, or baby isn't feeding. Anyone I know who has managed to do it, never said it was agony so if it is, I'll stop.

I had a friend who did the 3am dash to tesco for bottles and formula like you Laura so I'm gona stock up just incase lol.

 

[CherylC3]

Aw Laura tt sounds awful.. I've ordered a steriliser and going to buy in formula just incase. Xx

 

[Cherrybump]

Im hoping to be breastfeeding i have bought sterilizer and bottles need to get a pump to as i dont wanna breastfeed infront of FOB's family nor mines or in public lol ill happly do it at home but im not wanting peope seeing my boob lol or me trying to cover it up lol I know it was going to be sore to start with but im still going to try my best a bf her lol xxx

 

[bbymc]

As we're discussing feeding option...On offer in tesco...

https://www.tesco.com/groceries/Product/Details/?id=261312560

 

[lj2245]

Shaun's Dad wasn't the best person to send! Shaun was in my arms screaming, I was crying my eyes out and he was on the phone going 'there's about 50 different types of formula...which one??' then 5 mins later 'Which bottles?, which steriliser??'.

Who knew there was so much choice! We are all SMA babies but Shaun was Cow and Gate, which is the exact same thing as Aptamil but cheaper and with a different name

 

[lj2245]

As we're discussing feeding option...On offer in tesco...

https://www.tesco.com/groceries/Product/Details/?id=261312560

They have tommee tippee pumps reduced to £14 just now Also packs of 6 250ml bottles half price at £12.99

 

[Cherrybump]

woo i wanna get one of those pumps lol

 

[arlene]

Thanks for the feedback girls. I'm just not sire I'll be comfortable with it. I'm really funny about even OH touching my boobs as they're normally really sensitive and even more now I'm pregnant. I'm also totally against doing it in front of friends/family or in public. I just feel so bad cos I know it's what's best for our boy but I just don't think I'm going to feel comfortable enough doing it. I've bought a steriliser and am going to order some bottles and stuff when I get paid. I thought about getting a pump and just expressing, I know that's harder than bf but I just think it might be an option.

Also I'm kinda scared of talking to OH about it cos it was one of the first things he mentioned when I got pregnant and we were talking about baba xx

 

[lj2245]

What's his opinion?

When I came home the other day with all the bottles and baby milk my husband was an arse about it, he was all 'oh so you're not even going to try BF then?' and even had the cheek to suggest that I love Shaun more than our new baby because I BF him. It took all my willpower not to punch him lol. I've explained it all to him aswell! He's obviously dense...I definitely wouldn't trust him to go to Tesco at 3am for all the things we need if the BF doesn't work out...the man is an idiot!

 

[arlene]

He thinks I should do it cos it's what's best for baby and I agree. I just don't really know how to tell him I'm uncomfortable about it. He knows we got the steriliser and that I'm gonna buy some bottles. My SIL didn't BF so I might have a chat to her about it.

 

[lj2245]

You would probably be better telling him you really want to give it a go but you're not sure you are going to be able to and would appreciate it if he could be supportive no matter what you decide.

 

[bbymc]

I think guys just assume all women will bf and that they actually want to. I've actually never discussed it with Ryan. But as far as I know, he'd be happy with whatever I chose to do. I must ask him tonight lol.

I've just been looking at bottles and stuff. Never realised there was so much choice! Not a clue how to choose!

 

[lj2245]

I used Avent with Shaun but he suffered terrible colic so I've decided to go with Tommee Tippee this time as they are supposed to be better for that. Plus they are cheaper lol.

I got 2 packs of these but the bottles are blue (I'm in trouble if this baby is a girl)-

https://www.tesco.com/direct/tommee...6-pack/215-1344.prd?pageLevel=&skuId=215-1344

 

[arlene]

Laura, I found amazon was the best price wise. Tesco have a 2 pack of the tommee tippee anti colic bottles for about £13, amazon have a 4 pack for £18. Xx

 

[bbymc]

Yeah, I think that's the ones I'll go for. They will fit my pump too so prob easiest.

Arlene, I reckon you should just tell him how you feel. Surely he will understand. He might support you in feeling more positive about it once he knows how you feel. At the end of the day, you have to do what feels most comfortable. I think if you force yourself to bf when you're not keen, it won't be a positive experience for baby or you and it will probably hurt more too since you won't be relaxed.

 

[arlene]

I know. It's stupid cos I know he'll support me in whatever I decide but I just know I'm gonna get emotional lol. I'm just scared I'll disappoint him more than anyone xx

 

[Kaybee]

Hi girls. I am planning on BF this baby. I BF Kaiden too. Arlene I understand how you feel as I can remember being really unsure about having a baby latched onto to me to feed. I wasnt sure that i was comfortable with it even after the bf class i went to. DH kept saying that I should at least give it a go (think he was so keen so he wouldnt have to do night feeds) and my mum BF me and my sis and my sis BF her son. Neither of them mentioned how tough it can be in the early days. I was lucky that K seemed to know what to do before I did although there was a time in the early days i was so tired and sore (me holding k wrong meant he wasnt latching right) that i tried both expressed BM and formula in a bottle but K just would not take it from me or anyone else so had to persevere. Having said that though a few weeks in and it just clicked and it was so easy and I was quite glad to not have to wash and sterelise bottles as I can be a bit of a germaphobe as it is

As far feeding in public I waited a couple of weeks before going out during a time i knew he'd wake and want a feed and after doing that first one it got easier. I didnt really notice anyone noticing me and nobody said anything. I did get a cover that went over me and K like a shawl which kept everything hidden until K got that bit older and would just swat it out the way so he could see what was going on

 

[bbymc]

Well I asked Ryan about his views on BF. Was pretty shocked by his response! He believes that the 'right' way to feed a baby is by breastfeeding but realises I might not manage so would accept bottlefeeding if I needed to. That's not too bad, but then I asked what he'd have said if I told him I didn't want to breastfeed. He said, 'oh, well, that's not an option cos I always knew you wanted to breastfeed and if you'd have told me you didn't wana breastfeed, we would never have stayed together cos I'd wana do things the 'right and the natural way'!' I was just like 'eh, what?!' Is it me or is that pretty shocking?

 

[lj2245]

Men are so stupid when it comes to wording things. His views are a bit shocking but maybe all he means is he knows you would want to try and if you didn't, he'd know you weren't the woman he thought you were. It's alright him saying he'd get shot of you when he knows you ARE going to Bf but I wonder if he'd actually have wanted to get rid if you had initially said you didn't want to lol.

 

[bbymc]

I know, i doubt he'd actually have ever got shot of me if I was not up for breastfeeding lol! Still, lovely thing to say eh?! Lol. Idiot!

I'm sooooo tired today. That massage has totally made me spaced out and sleepy!

Is anyone else wobbly on their feet btw? Ive fallen down the stairs twice in the last 2 days and keep losing my balance when I'm standing totally still. It's starting to worry me cos I'm scared I'll fall and do myself some damage!