Yeah it's my Dad. Bloody nightmare. Remember I said he would be giving me money to pay for everything for the baby? Well he told me in Jan to get it on my credit card as it was interest free and he would pay it off over Jan, Feb and March. He paid some in Jan then in Feb he said he was saving up to buy some things. Stephen had to take him shopping for his messages as I was having a sore day and he told Stephen he had spent £700 on some new things. He was due to give me money towards the credit card that day so I phoned him and said I take it you're not giving me that money any more? He said no so I went nuts and asked him when he was planning on telling me? He just kept saying 'oh' like he was shocked so I said there was no point in talking to him and hung up on him. This was 2 weeks ago on Weds. Since then he has sent me messages but they are all about him and he has yet to apologise. He's said things like 'Laura I miss you, I need you to pay my rent' and 'Laura I miss you, I need bread'. I have told him I'm not speaking to him until he apologises and comes up with a solution as he has left me with £1200 of debt that he promised to pay (we were going to get everything 2nd hand until he said he would pay for it all as he didnt want baby to have 2nd hand). What makes it worse is he has me driving him everywhere all the time and never gives me petrol money but 3 weeks ago my sister agreed to run him to Glasgow to visit his brother (who is dying) as I couldn't due to my pelvis. It's the only time she's ever run him anywhere in the 2 years since he moved to me and he gave her £50 for petrol. Then he gave my other sister £50 for nothing. She didn't even have to do anything, he just transferred it to her bank.
So because I haven't been speaking to him he's been bombarding my sister Carol and his sister, my Auntie Ann, with phone calls and voicemails every day saying things like 'You need to get Laura to speak to me, I need my rent paid'. So they came through to visit him yesterday (the first time since he moved here for my Auntie Ann). My sister came across to see me and told me that they are arranging for him to move back to Glasgow into sheltered accommodation. The problem is neither of them actually care about him and when he moves back to Glasgow (my sister lives in East Kilbride) I know she will visit him as infrequently as she does now and will continue to ignore his phone calls (like my other sister does). Ann won't bother with him at all. Sheltered accommodation means he will have an alarm and someone who phones him once a day to make sure he's alive. He won't be getting any kind of help or care. WHo is going to do his shopping or housework? He refuses to do anything for himself and for the past 20 years has put everything on me. He refuses to burden anyone else and to be honest, they don't care enough about him to allow themselves to be burdened anyway. He is going to be stuck in a flat with noone near him and he is going to then decide to try and make amends with me...and will then expect me to travel to Glasgow every day or will bombard me with constant phone calls. I'm not going to do that but short of changing my phone number I know he won't give me a choice.
It makes me so angry that my sister and aunt can't take 5 minutes to actually do what's best for him and speak to him about why what he's done is wrong, why he can't expect me to do everything for him, how he has to make an effort to do things for himself and how leaving me with that debt is unacceptable. I have been telling him this for years but he doesnt listen to me...he only listens if other people tell him (for some reason). It's incredibly frustrating to me. He's now going to miss out on his Grandchild being born and won't ever meet him and won't see Shaun again. All because the rest of his family are too selfish to give a crap about what's best for him. They think they can palm him off on social workers and they won't have to bother about him any more.
Stephen suggested I speak to him but I know he won't apologise. In his head he hasn't done anything wrong. If I go over to his house he will act like nothing has happened, will refuse to discuss it and will just expect things to carry on as normal. I can't let that happen. I have a house, a husband who works full time ( and is now having to do overtime to pay off credit card), a 7 year old, arthritis, SPD, I'm pregnant and I'll soon have a new baby to care for. I can't let things go back to the way they were and I can't let him think his behaviour is acceptable.
I have no idea what to do. Noone cares about him and he refuses to see it. He thinks my sisters are wonderful. He thinks his family are wonderful. Even when they constantly ignore his phone calls and only see him twice a year. I have to put up with doing everything for him then having him tell my aunt he sits in his house alone all the time. Then she's on the phone shouting at me like I'm a child.
I've had enough of the lot of them. I honestly feel like getting shot of the lot of them. As selfish as they all are though, Shaun loves them and he has little family on my side as it is as I don't have a relationship with my Mum.
Sorry for the long rant. I have absolutely no one to talk to. Stephen is doing a 7am until 10pm shift today to try and bring in money for the credit card. I don't want to be this stressed! It's not good for the baby.
. But he is kinda right. Would have been nice though lol x
Basically they have a list of baby items and you put your name next to the thing you want to buy for the person going on mat leave. So excited! Xx
thank goodness he changed his mind and asked me in the bedroom, just the two of us before we left. My mum and my sister both knew for weeks before and never let on 
When he got down on his knee I was like what the heck are you doing get up 
We have LOADS to do the next few weeks. Although top of my agenda this week is popping up to MIL one morning to have a bath. Dave going to come with me cause its one of those old fashioned massive baths and I think I might struggle getting in and out 
