Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[lj2245]

Merry Christmas hope you all had a great time xx

 

[Kaybee]

Hi ladies

Hope y'all have had a lovely christmas

Laura your pics are gorgeous. Those scans are amazing huh! Gutted we have to wait until baby is born now until we see them again

Had to take kaiden to docs this morning. We were going anyway as he was meant to see HV to get a booster shot but he was up during the night and then this morning with his eyes gunged shut. Bless him. Anyway, doc reckons its viral conjunctivitis and its doing the rounds and he thinks i have a bit of a viral infection too as my voice is going. Again! Im actually feeling like i have a bit more energy today. The last 5 days have been a real struggle as been aching all over and just feeling pretty shit really. Anyway here's hoping im on the mend. Oh, also not been sick today kaiden going to get his jag next week now as didnt have the heart to get it today if he feeling a bit under the weather.

Whats everyones plans for new years? Im having a quiet one.

 

[lj2245]

Sorry to hear you are both unwell hope you're both better soon!

My plans for new year were to go to bed but we got guilted into inviting Stephens aunt over. Her husband died this year and her only child is working in South Korea. She came for Xmas dinner and was saying shed be on her own as her sisters live in England and Stephens mum ( her only sister nearby) has plans to visit one of them. So she's coming here. And she doesn't drive and is refusing to stay over so I'll have to go the 20 mile round trip to get her then the same again in the wee hours (when she decides to go home) to take her back. Why are people so inconsiderate? Stephen has rubbish shifts at work. After doing a 1pm til 10pm shift on Xmas eve, Xmas day, Boxing Day and today he has 2 days off before starting 4 early shifts which means a 7am til 2pm shift on New Year's Eve and New Year's Day. Which is why I'll have to drive her royal highness about. As no one will be drinking, I have also offered to do a meal of homemade steak pie with roast potatoes and veg. I'll be knackered! If I'd known I'd have to chauffeur her around I wouldn't have bothered but now my dad is all excited.

 

[Kaybee]

Oh jeez thats a bit of a pain. Why wont she stay over? Some HM steak pie and roasties will be good though nomnom.

I just noticed I'm into third tri tomorrow. Although i have been feeling pretty miserable for most of this pregnancy (again!) it is passing quick.

 

[lj2245]

I was thinking about you going into 3rd tri earlier, was going to post on your wall

Steak pie does sound awesome but I totally can't be arsed with the 8 hours it takes to cook the damn thing when I'm being a skivvy to his aunt. I have no idea why she won't just stay over other than she just wants to be awkward. It was the same on Xmas day, they hung about until 5pm when I was just starting to doze off then announced they were ready for their lifts home. They being stephen's mum and aunt. Stephen Was at work so of course I had to take them. They do my head in. If you live in a rural area, learn to drive or take a taxi!

 

[Kaybee]

Aw were you? It just popped into my head that it must be coming up to third tri soon and i had to look it up.

8 hours I made jamie oliver beef and ale stew the other day and that took 3 hours to cook Dh was about demented with the aromas waiting for it to cook lol. You know the more i think about it the more i think its a wee bit cheeky to be expecting you to pick her up, feed her and then take her home when she's ready. She Should surely be trying to make it easier for you and stay the night or taxi home. Hope the weather doesnt turn crap. Mind you my mum or her OH do the same for my gran.

Speaking of thoughtlessness - we were at my SIL for xmas with her DH and two girls and her inlaws, her BIL and my MIL. DH cousin and her DH were there too. Anyway we were speaking about how SIL had just recenlty had kaiden for a sleepover and it was his first one and DH cousin was saying how impressed she is with k behavious etc (she works with kids) and how he did will for his first time staying over when MIL pipes up that she once had k in an emergency when I had to go into hospital when i lost the baby. I couldnt believe that she just announced it to everyone at the dinner table. As far as i know none of them knew i had had a mc and even if they did i certainly didnt want it metioned at xmas dinner think she just wanted to tell the story about him falling out the bed, landing on the huge scoobydoo teddy and rolling under the bed and still sleeping!

 

[lj2245]

That must have been so awkward what was she thinking? Did she apologise to you?

There is something wrong with Stephens mum and her sisters. They just expect Stephen to run about after them. None of them drive and they are constantly phoning us to take them places. I wouldn't have minded if she'd at least asked if I would be ok to drive her home but she didn't. I had assumed she would be staying and asked Stephens mum in passing if she thought aunt would be ok in the bottom bunk of Shaun's bunk beds and she said oh she won't stay, you will have to run her home. I asked the aunt to clarify and she said 'of course I want a run home' as if it was ridiculous to assume otherwise. I wouldn't have invited her if I'd known. They sat on their arses on Xmas day and got drunk and didn't offer me any help at all with dinner or the dishes. Thank god my sister was there to peel some veg while I was driving to pick them up. No wonder I've done nothing but sleep since they left!

 

[Kaybee]

No apology thankfully nobody mentioned it. They were probably all as horrified as me that she had even blurted it out the way she did.

Bloomin heck. Some peoples expectations really astound me at times! I just wouldnt feel right having someone do that much running around for me.

 

[lj2245]

I know right!? I hate putting people out but some folk just seem to think the world owes them.

Awkward awkward! Do you think it was an accident and she at least seemed embarrassed?

 

[Kaybee]

They sure do. I feel bad for my mum as she is always running around after my gran. She is in her 80s and did pass her driving test in her later years but would not be safe driving. I know she isnt able to get about herself now but even when her sister and BIL visit for the weekend she will still expect my mum to go out on the sat and pick up a few bits from the shops for her. Even though the BIL drove there! Poor mumsy is run ragged as she works full time plus does a few peoples books so is very busy.

My MIL paused before she said it, as though she didnt know what to say, and I was about to say I had to go to the emergency doctors but she just blurted it out 'when she lost the baby'. Very awkward. She never mentioned it again not even to take me aside and say it slipped out but then I'm hoping thats just because she was embarrassed that she had already brought it up once at the most inappropriate time. Ever!

 

[lj2245]

She was probably hoping it had gone unnoticed. As if!

My dad is the same. He doesn't feel safe driving now so expects me to go to tesco 3x a week for bananas and a loaf. He also expects me to do all his housework and run him everywhere he needs to go. He has 2 other daughters and won't ask them to do anything. If they visit they will ask if he needs his bedding changed or whatever and hell say no then he'll be on the phone to me as soon as they leave saying 'you need to change my bedding, carol mentioned it was dirty.' WTF? Lol. I told him I wasn't doing anything for him after Xmas and to pay for a carer (I get nothing for caring for him) but he clearly has ignored me as he's phoned me 3 times today asking me to do things for him.

My life would be so easy if it weren't for family! Lol!!

 

[Kaybee]

Family huh! Your Dad getting a carer to start helping out now sounds like a good idea as once your baby comes along its not going to be so easy for you to help out any more.

I woke up with an eye stuck together this morning. It must of been when Kaiden poked me in the eye on boxing night he gave me his germs of all the times for him to stick a finger in my eye he does it when he is conjunctivitis.

 

[lj2245]

Nasty! Has kaidens eye cleared yet? Hopefully your eye will be better soon!

Happy 3rd tri!!

 

[Kaybee]

Thanks. Kaiden's eyes almost back to normal today. Hope mine clears as quick.

 

[arlene]

Happy third tri Kaybee! That's awful what your MIL said!! Must've been tough for it to be brought up again, especially at xmas. Sending hugs!

We took advantage of the sales today and bought our pram! Ended up going for the Graco Fusio as it worked out cheaper and my mum gave us £150 towards it. Xx

 

[bbymc]

Hey girls,
Happy third tri Karen! Can't believe one of us is there already!! Exciting!!

It sounds like you had a not so nice experience on Xmas Karen! I think I'd probably have had to say something to her to let her know I was upset at her mentioning it like that! You'd think she'd at least have said sorry though!

Laura, I think if I were you I would politely say that you would prefer if Stephens aunt got a taxi home. Surely if you did that she would take the hint and not expect you to run her home? I'm pretty surprised that she's expecting that at all tbh. It's pretty inconsiderate and selfish! As for your dad, have you gave in and helped him since Xmas? Maybe you could support him in getting a carer in place? And stop helping when they can take over?

Glad you got your pram Arlene! You got much else to get now?

Well, I had a lovely Xmas was very busy and pretty exhausting! And I didn't even cook lol. I was chief dish washer though lol. It's Ryan's bday 2moro so we've got his dad, step mum and grandparents coming through from Glasgow or the afternoon to have lunch and see the house. Been busy tidying, painting and doing odd jobs all day today in preparation lol. I'm totally exhausted now!

I've been having sooo many sleepless nights recently. Mostly thanks to really vivid dreams and nightmares! I woke myself up in a right state the other night after dreaming that Ryan had decided to abandon me and the baby. Doesn't sound that bad but in my dream it was horrific! God knows how I'll cope if I keep having nightmares like that!

On a happier note, Ryan's been looking into us having a weekend away and it looks like he's found a place in Peebles. An old castle apparently. So I think we're gona go at the end of February. Can't wait already!! Anyone else got holiday plans before baby comes?

 

[Kaybee]

Thanks girls. I was hoping that third tri would be good for me but bleh still throwing up, bleeding nose, no energy whatsoever and DH is away until late tomorrow night. Thankfully my mum has duke so dont need to worry about walking him...just need to entertain kaiden. Thankfully he has been quite happy playing with his toys so far. Feel like a crap mum that we are not out and about like i would like to though.

I am impressed at you first time mums being so organised getting your prams already. We were about 3 weeks before kaiden due date before we went to mothercare in a panic lol.
we still have his travel system so are just going to use that and dont really need to get much this time. Am thinking of getting a sling to babywear but never realised there is so much choice

Emma your weekend away sounds brill. Don't think we will manage to afford a wee break. My SIL recently bought a huge caravan and said we can use it so maybe see what the weather is like at the start of march and go then as i will be on mat leave

 

[lj2245]

We have been trying to find a wee weekend away somewhere for the 1st weekend in feb but having no luck so far. I'd love a spa break but theyre just so expensive.

I had planned to do something nice with Shaun today as its the first Saturday I've had him in a long time but I'm exhausted and my pelvis is in agony. Thankfully he's happy to have a board game day. Our kids are wee stars

I've been having vivid dreams again too Emma. Had one the other night about Shaun's school being on fire and having to get all the kids out. For some reason the school was a multi storey carpark though lol. It was scary, I had to put Shaun down a bin chute at one point!

 

[Kaybee]

They are wee superstars

A spa break would be brill. I could so do with a nice massage. Only my head or back though cause every time I try to shave my legs, not very often, I seem to miss loads and they are a state

I had some vivid dreams a while ago but just lately been suffering from just crappy sleep waking up not getting comfy, kaiden waking me etc.

 

[arlene]

Hi ladies. I've been having weird dreams too. Woke up this am after dreaming that I had been in hand to hand combat with Alan Cumming (the actor) and then escaped on a dirt bike! Been waking five or six times a night lately though.

have you checked groupon? They're usually quite good for a wee night away. My brother and his gf gave me money for a spa treatment for xmas so gonna go for the mum to be massage at the Dalmahoy for £45. Xx