So that is my theory, its not so much not trying as "getting on with living" in the present moment, letting go of the ups and downs of testing 100 times and wanting to fast forward 2 weeks of our lifes every month.
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I think I would always BD at some time around OV even if I didn't try, because I get horny come that time of the month, I actually know when I am going to ovulate because I get sex dreams the night before. So I am going to try and be sensible and aid my TTCing, but let go at the same time, just keep that balance some how! (will report back if it works!) Baby dust all around!
very eloquently said. i think i'll try next cycle to leave the hpt's in the cabinet, focus on other things, including my old friend exercise.. i ditched any semblance of hard exercise when we started trying. the most i do now is a short, wussy workout on the bike machine at the gym and/or walk my dog. i wanted to run a half marathon last year but i thought making any major changes to my physical health could prevent ovulation, etc. i still won't do anything crazy, but i think i should let myself exercise, at least somewhat hard, sweat, get my heart rate up, that would be my own special way of giving the finger to TTC because i'm always so conscious "could this prevent ovulation, could this prevent conception," etc... plus i realize exercise makes you healthier which is definitely a good thing when it comes to TTC.
i think i have sex dreams when i'm fertile too! that's sooo weird. i know i have them a lot, and now that i think about it, i'm pretty sure they come around near that time.. i will have to pay close attention next month.
I'm starting to think that I may be trying too hard. I'm stressing out and I hate it. I'm not using OPKS this month, not testing early on HPTs and spending extortionate amounts of money on over priced FRERs (as tempting as it is
) and not going to google EVERY SYMPTOM 1 DPO like a crazy lazy. That is my "not trying too hard".
same here. i POAS more this cycle than probably any of my other 6 combined.. i know it's been a mistake. even if it doesn't magically prevent me from getting pregnant it's a waste of time when fretting over it definitely doesn't HELP me become pregnant.
To be honest, I was so scared and not happy like I thought I would be when I found out. I found out on the 2nd and I've cried at least once a day, just because we have so much stuff going on and I truly was ready to let the idea go for at least a year. So,I am now just coming around to the idea again, and I felt guilty about not being excited like I always imagined I would be, but I saw a prenatal consultant today and she said that was a perfectly normal emotion that even people who are trying for years experience, so that made me feel like I wasn't so terrible. Just keep your head up and I promise it will happen for you!
thank you!!! and i know that the feeling of fear/freaking out is very normal, even when people are actively trying that month. in fact, once when i saw one of those "phantom" lines on the hpt instead of being thrilled, i noticed my first emotion was being terrified.
i know it's very normal, it's going to change your life forever. in a wonderful way, though.
T
On another note, has any one ever been confused by how people get pregnant accidentally?
I can't understand it because it has always been a trying matter for me.
i can understand it i guess, but it doesn't stop me from being somewhat indignant at times about the unfairness of it all! when i started TTC, i knew almost nothing about ovulation, pregnancy in general. i just knew i had a period once a month (tbh i probably couldn't have even described scientifically what exactly a period was, except i knew it meant i was young/fertile). i think i was asleep for the special pregnancy videos in science class growing up. so i just thought, for the longest time that if you have unprotected sex at any given point in your cycle you have a really huge chance of getting pregnant! but now that i'm realizing how freaking complicated it is to get pregnant, i'm coming to realize there are a lot of people out there who probably have sex all the time and don't get pregnant. :-| i know.. amazing revelation, right? haha. all that to say, it's harder to understand now that i've been trying so hard, how some people have it happen by mistake, since it seems like such an unreachable goal to me right now. <--p.s. after this cycle i'm going to stop being so melodramatic.