anyone else content with just having one LO?

[bek74]

I loved being an only child when I was younger i had a lot of people who had big families feel sorry for me because I was alone. But when my sister moved in with us I absolutely hated it!

Maybe you hated it because you were 11 when she came into your life and you were used to being the center of attention and didn't want to share the spot light.

I have a brother and he is my best mate, I couldn't imagine not having him in my life. He is always there when I need him.

My best friend when growing up was an only child and she was killed when she was 11 (I was 12) and her mother just couldn't cope, she would say " she now has no purpose to live, to get out of bed, to eat to anything. To lose a child would be horrific but if you had other children you have no choice but to get up, to live, for them.

The old lady that lived across the road from us was an only child, she never married and both her parents died young and she was lonely, she used to always say how she enjoyed watching my boys play and ride bikes together and it made her so happy to see that because she was so lonely.

We have 3 children ages 13,11 and 9 and are expecting twins in July. This is it for us, no more as we went through IVF to conceive this time around.

I feel sad for the poster who said that their mother chose favourites and felt left out, I can assure you more mothers are the opposite and I don't favour one child over the other, I love them with all my heart and soul and tell them each and every day. All 3 of my boys are different, like chalk and cheese and it is wonderful.

I am glad that if anything was to ever happen to my husband and I that they will always have each other they will never be alone.

 

[LuciLu88]

This is a great thread!

We're definitely only planning on having one. I've struggled alot already with constant sickness, tiredness and my OH hated seeing me in tears every day because I was so ill and he was so powerless to help. I have a big family and I must admit I do love having 3 big brothers (don't get on so well with my sister!) but I'm more than happy with just the one. I don't think I could go through pregnancy again and I'm saying that when I still have a LONG way to go!! We've already been discussing schools and putting his/her name down and pay for them to go to a decent school and I dont think he/she will lose out on anything by being an only child. My brother has kids and they're very excited about having a little cousin so there will be plenty of interaction with other children.

I'm not going to say never though...maybe a little surprise will pop up in the very distant future!

xxx

 

[bbyno1]

i want 2 or 3..fob wants only 2 so i guess we wil just have the 2 lol
xx

 

[_Hope_]

I would have been more than happy to have one baby mainly due to my age (i'm 35) and the problems we had conceiving. I had kind of resigned myself to the fact that I would be lucky to have one baby, but don't have to worry about that now that it's twins though! Hubby already taking about the next one (or two lol) but i'm happy with these two little miracles xx

 

[iceylou]

well my first child was going to be my only child. i had a very bad pregnancy and labour. 12 yrs later im doing it all over again, this is def the final time although i remember saying that too before...........

 

[Jetters]

I only ever wanted one baby- I'm not sure why as I have a great relationship with my brothers. And i've had an awful pregnancy- not enjoyable whatsoever and the thought of doing it again makes me feel panicky. I'd love to just have one to spoil and give my full attention, and think it is a valid choice to choose to have one.

All of that said though, OH and I have decided on two- but on the condition that if the second one hasn't arrived within the first few years, we'll stick with one- because I want to get my baby years and being pregnant again over and done with as soon as possible!!