Congrats.....Just wondering if you could give me some advice for my OH. I have talked to him a couple of time and gave hime time to think about it. He still says that he wants to wait a couple of years. I am 29 in two days and he just turned 34. I want to have at least 3 kids so I would like to get started ASAP. How can I convince him how much this means to me.
I had a miscarriage in 2004 at 19 weeks and I have been through a lot since then. I am now happily married and ready to start a family. I don't know how much longer I can wait.
Any advice would be great.
Congrats.....Just wondering if you could give me some advice for my OH. I have talked to him a couple of time and gave hime time to think about it. He still says that he wants to wait a couple of years. I am 29 in two days and he just turned 34. I want to have at least 3 kids so I would like to get started ASAP. How can I convince him how much this means to me.
I had a miscarriage in 2004 at 19 weeks and I have been through a lot since then. I am now happily married and ready to start a family. I don't know how much longer I can wait.
Any advice would be great.
Hi! Just wondering if you're on bcp or anything? My oh had been putting off ttc too. We've had one or two talks since we got married year and half ago and he just said he didn't feel ready yet. In nov I decided to stop taking bcp so that at least my system would be free of hormones etc when we did decide to try. Told him I'd no problem waiting another while if he really wanted to but that from now on the contraception was in his hands....(after all, I'd looked after it for the last ten years!!!) Think it made him realise how serious I was bout wanting a baby cos we are now in our first 2ww
Even if he does want to wait longer at least your body and your cycles will be back to normal and ready when you do ttc...
Best of luck
Actually, I haven't been on BCP since Nov. The only reason I stayed on it that long is b/c I have PCOS and it helps to regulate the cysts. He knows how important this is to me. We have been together for almost 4 years. We both wanted to wait till we got married, which we did Dec. 4th, 2010. He does have some good points of why he wants to wait. I have 2 yrs of college left, but I know so many parents in college that have children and they do just fine. I try to convince him that it wont affect us, I will just take the semester off that I am expecting and go back the next semester. I would like to have 2 to 3 children and I know how long the process can take especially with PCOS. I am 28 and I dont want to take the risk of not having my dreams come true. After I had my miscarriage in 2004 I was so scared to try again b/c I was heartbroken. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, and I just feel like I shouldn't have to wait any longer. My OH is 34, 5 yrs older than me. You would think that he would be ready too.
Actually, I haven't been on BCP since Nov. The only reason I stayed on it that long is b/c I have PCOS and it helps to regulate the cysts. He knows how important this is to me. We have been together for almost 4 years. We both wanted to wait till we got married, which we did Dec. 4th, 2010. He does have some good points of why he wants to wait. I have 2 yrs of college left, but I know so many parents in college that have children and they do just fine. I try to convince him that it wont affect us, I will just take the semester off that I am expecting and go back the next semester. I would like to have 2 to 3 children and I know how long the process can take especially with PCOS. I am 28 and I dont want to take the risk of not having my dreams come true. After I had my miscarriage in 2004 I was so scared to try again b/c I was heartbroken. I took me a long time to get to where I am now, and I just feel like I shouldn't have to wait any longer. My OH is 34, 5 yrs older than me. You would think that he would be ready too.
Aw, Best of luck hon, I hope it all works out for you...
Well, I just had another heart felt talk with my DH and he agreed that we could start trying right away. I am so excited.
My OH half is here (poorly but here), in the same room as me. First time in several weeks (due to his work), and I just can't bring myself to talk to him!...
...I know I should just bring it up with him, but I just can't.
I was going to post this in a new post, but thought it was better here as it's related to this topic. (Slight hijack, sorry!).
My OH is here (poorly but here), in the same room as me. First time in several weeks (due to his work), and I just can't bring myself to talk to him! My dad is also here so I've not actually had a chance to speak to him on my own yet, but omg. It's driving me mad.
I know I should just bring it up with him, but I just can't. Might broach it with him in bed tonight. Drives me mad. I know I should just chat to him, but every other convocation we've had has always ended up with 'we have lots of time babe, lets not rush it).
Olivette, I know how you feel! I'm terrible at starting serious conversations with OH. I get myself all worked up over it. Worst is when I'm mulling over something for days trying to work up to being able to blurt it out, because I'll get preoccupied and moody, which makes OH grumpy... and then it's never a good time to start talking!