Anyone else starting IVF October/November 2015?

[KatO79]

Ttc congratulations!!!! Amazing news and fabulous beta, how dpt were you? Hoping for a big doubled number on Tuesday.

Kat - I hope you can sort someone to go with you, not long now!!

Jean - so sorry.

Getting closer for me too, so excited. Scan on Friday went well and next one Monday but hopefully ec next Friday woo hoo.

Glad to hear your scan went well Mrs W

Nope, not long So it looks like it'll be only 3 follies as the 3 are 19-20 mm and the 4th is now around 16 mm I had a feeling as my right side was a bit less twingy these last few days So hoping those 3 are totally perfect so we definitely have 1 for transfer and hopefully 2 to freeze

I trigger tonight at 10 PM and go in for ER Tuesday morning She says ET will be Thursday in the early afternoon (providing I have 1 good embie to transfer) as they have the best results with 2 day old embies.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Ttc congratulations!!!! Amazing news and fabulous beta, how dpt were you? Hoping for a big doubled number on Tuesday.

Kat - I hope you can sort someone to go with you, not long now!!

Jean - so sorry.

Getting closer for me too, so excited. Scan on Friday went well and next one Monday but hopefully ec next Friday woo hoo.

Thanks! I was 10dp5dt. I do another beta on Tuesday so I am not sure what number they are looking for at that point because it is 3 days after my first beta. I guess they just need it to double still? Does anyone know?

Ttc congratulations!!!! Amazing news and fabulous beta, how dpt were you? Hoping for a big doubled number on Tuesday.

Kat - I hope you can sort someone to go with you, not long now!!

Jean - so sorry.

Getting closer for me too, so excited. Scan on Friday went well and next one Monday but hopefully ec next Friday woo hoo.

Glad to hear your scan went well Mrs W

Nope, not long So it looks like it'll be only 3 follies as the 3 are 19-20 mm and the 4th is now around 16 mm I had a feeling as my right side was a bit less twingy these last few days So hoping those 3 are totally perfect so we definitely have 1 for transfer and hopefully 2 to freeze

I trigger tonight at 10 PM and go in for ER Tuesday morning She says ET will be Thursday in the early afternoon (providing I have 1 good embie to transfer) as they have the best results with 2 day old embies.

Good luck Hun! I'll be praying you get some awesome Eggies!

 

[Psalm23v6]

TTC - good luck for the beta on Tuesday. Yes they look for doubling every 48-72 hours. Xoxo

Kat - Hope your trigger went well and best of luck for the ER on Tuesday.

Mrs W - congrats on your scan. Best of luck for the scan today and give us an update on how you're doing for follicles on Friday!

 

[KatO79]

TTC: FXed that your beta looks good Yes, I believe they look for it doubling although I unfortunately don't have any experience in myself

Kat - Hope your trigger went well and best of luck for the ER on Tuesday.

Thanks Psalm Yes it went fine but I've taken that trigger shot for 5 of my 6 IUIs so know it pretty well. Just took a very quick read of the instructions to make sure I was remembering it correctly and then got it done. Now comes the nervous next hours where I hope I don't O before the ER tomorrow I always fear that happening since it happened for 1 of my 6 IUIs.

 

[MrsG30]

Hi ladies

I'm after some help..I'm. On day 9 on gonal f. My scan today showed 5 follies on left 10mm and 8 on right 10mm. And a lot of little uns. As the Dr was confirming this to the nurse I felt quite positive however he then sed he feels I can confine with stimms on same dose until wed but he doesn't elect miracles amd that I should expect for this cycle to be abandoned?!?!?!

So I've got 2 more 200 unit shots of gonal amd then a scan. Could my follies grow or should I prepare for a cancelled cycle?

If anyone could shed any light I'll be great full.

Thanks and lots of love xxxx

 

[tiffttc]

Hey ladies I haven't been on this in a few days

Ttc- congrats h&h nine months

Kat- so sorry you have this added stress with your brother families can be stressful at the best of times and I hope your hubby gets the time off that he needs

Afm- I had my scan this morning they said my eggs have grown a lot since my last scan but there still not big enough so my dr just rang me and said my hormones came back good so there giving me two more days of 200ui puregon and I have another scan Wednesday morning so she said I will be triggering Wednesday night and er will be Friday and it looks like it's going to be 7 eggs so hopefully it goes good

I hope everyone else is doing good

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hiya!

Mrsg - replied to you on the other thread. x

Tiff, fab news! Seems a few of us in the same boat with rescan Wednesday.

Kat - good luck tomorrow.

My scan was the same, growth but not enough so another scan Wednesday before they confirm when egg collection will be.

xx

 

[tiffttc]

Hiya!

Mrsg - replied to you on the other thread. x

Tiff, fab news! Seems a few of us in the same boat with rescan Wednesday.

Kat - good luck tomorrow.

My scan was the same, growth but not enough so another scan Wednesday before they confirm when egg collection will be.

xx

Ya looks like me, you and Kat are around the same time good luck with you scan Wednesday I can't wait to hear how it goes

Kat- good luck for tomorrow

 

[KatO79]

Sounds good tiff, FXed your next scan looks good so you can have your ER on Friday

Unfortunately this is as good as my family gets (verbal and emotional abuse, scapegoating, gaslighting, silent treatment, triangulation, smear campaigns ect., you know the typical toxic, narcissistic family stuff) He seems adamant in continuing the scapegoating of me, something our mother started from the day I was born. Which means I may have to go no contact with him, my sister and our cousin (as she seems to be very enmeshed with them) also for the sake of my future child as my child will be the next family scapegoat if I don't.

Mrs W hope your scan looks fine on Wednesday so you also can soon have your ER

AFM DH got his day off so he'll be able to come with me tomorrow.

 

[rebecca822]

Hi ladies!

This has been quite a ride for me. Starting with the very slow rising beta, and then the fact they only saw a sac without the fetus. But that 6+3 we saw a fetus and heartbeat!
Anyways, today at my 8+3 appointment which was supposed to be my last re appointment (would b moving to my OB) the doctor said the heartbeat was extremely slow (64). A healthy fetal heartbeat should be well over 100. Since the heartbeat was nice and high before they told me I should come back for yet another scan. They expect me to miscarry in the next few days. They say the heart will stop beating. The fetus was measuring at 8+1 which was good!
I'm sad and disappointed. I can't imagine having hope again. It feels so cruel that I had to go through all of this to get nowhere.

 

[tiffttc]

Omg Rebecca Iam sooo sorry hun I really hope the doctors are wrong in your case and you see a very strong heartbeat this is absolutely heartbreaking to hear but don't lose hope the measurement seems good and the fact that the fetus has grown is a good sign I remember when I was in for a check up when I was pregnant with my son they went more by the measurement of the baby rather then the strength of the heatbeat at this early stage I really hope you get good news hun I will say a prayer for you

Kat- thanks hun and Iam really glad your husband got the day off and you can feel more comfortable with him and Iam sorry Hun u have to deal with your family and this at the one time I wouldn't be able to handle my family treating me like that and going through ivf at the same time your a lot stronger then me.....a person once told me that things have to hit rock bottom before you can realise what's gone wrong and rebuild something better they aslo told Me you can't make a person change they have to want to do it themselves so I think you have done all you can it's time to look after yourself and if they want to be apart of your life they will find a way back into it I hope u feel better about it hun

 

[KatO79]

Hi ladies!

This has been quite a ride for me. Starting with the very slow rising beta, and then the fact they only saw a sac without the fetus. But that 6+3 we saw a fetus and heartbeat!
Anyways, today at my 8+3 appointment which was supposed to be my last re appointment (would b moving to my OB) the doctor said the heartbeat was extremely slow (64). A healthy fetal heartbeat should be well over 100. Since the heartbeat was nice and high before they told me I should come back for yet another scan. They expect me to miscarry in the next few days. They say the heart will stop beating. The fetus was measuring at 8+1 which was good!
I'm sad and disappointed. I can't imagine having hope again. It feels so cruel that I had to go through all of this to get nowhere.

I'm so, so sorry rebecca I hope they're wrong like tiff said and things look better at your next scan.

Kat- thanks hun and Iam really glad your husband got the day off and you can feel more comfortable with him and Iam sorry Hun u have to deal with your family and this at the one time I wouldn't be able to handle my family treating me like that and going through ivf at the same time your a lot stronger then me.....a person once told me that things have to hit rock bottom before you can realise what's gone wrong and rebuild something better they aslo told Me you can't make a person change they have to want to do it themselves so I think you have done all you can it's time to look after yourself and if they want to be apart of your life they will find a way back into it I hope u feel better about it hun

Thanks tiff Unfortunately, I'm kinda used to it since there's always been a certain amount of emotional/verbal abuse going on since I was a very small child which is sad My brother started really distancing himself and gradually became more contemptuous once I hit my mid-teen years and became more critical of his behavior. Things spiraled even more down once he married his enabler wife that comes from a wealthy family. The last 6 months I've been in the process of emotionally disengaging from him. I just can't do it anymore: I've been trying to defend myself and explain who I am to someone who refuses to understand or see me for who I am. He prefers his sick, twisted version so he can justify his behavior to himself and to others. I've tried for way too long to make him see, I'm done Unfortunately people with NPD never change, they never see an issue with their behavior. Which is why many recommend going no contact because there is nothing to be done, no treatment for people with this disorder. They keep being abusive and expect you to just take it. My NPD mother often says after saying something abusive: "I can say/do whatever I want to you and you just have to put up with it!" This is the universal message NPDs either say or it's simply just implied.

I still find it sad on occasion though, it would've been nice to have close sibling bonds after having had the mother we had but unfortunately both of them (plus the eldest brother that I have 0 contact with be he has contact with my sister and brother) have succumbed and become just as sick, if not more so when it comes to my "closest" brother, then our mother. I'm trying to now fully embrace DHs family as my family, they're a lot healthier for me!

AFM IVF wise just got back from ER and we have 3 good quality eggs (at least that's what the RE felt according to how easily she got them out of their follies). The 4th follie that was 14 mm (must've heard wrong since I thought it was 16 mm) was empty but we weren't counting much on that one anyway DH's count was 90 million so here's hoping we have 1 nice embie for transfer on Thursday. There was only 1 other couple for ER and DH said that he thinks they only had 2 follies and 1 egg if he heard correctly Wasn't too bad since I was both on morphine and a local anasthethic although they had to give me a bit more morphine at one point. Having some pain but it's bearable and having some bleeding but have a large pantyliner on. They told me to take it easy today and only get up to go to the toilet and if I want to get myself a glass of water or something. They'll call me Thursday morning with the results and hopefully tell me I need to come in for a transfer that day

 

[Jean40]

Glad to hear your retrieval went well, Kat.

AFM, I didn't get a message from the IVF nurse that said I didn't need to get another beta as long as I'm bleeding, so I had called and left a message saying to fax me another order to my work fax, which is in the hallway. I kept checking the fax through lunch and then found the message (which was from Saturday), so since I didn't get a call back, I assumed I wasn't getting a fax and that was that. Oh no. I got busy in the main work area and a couple of the secretaries came in smiling a HUGE smile at me. I figured something was up, but no idea what. So, after most people had gone home, I went back to my office and saw the lab order had been placed on my desk. One of the IVF nurses uses a cover sheet. This one DID NOT. So, whichever secretary got the fax off the fax machine saw EVERYTHING and knowing the one, I am betting she googled the RE office & checked out their website & saw it was for a blood pregnancy test AND it said reason was spontaneous abortion. I was livid! I went right in and told my supervisor and since we work in health care, if any of them say ONE WORD to anyone else, they can be fired for breaching patient confidentiality. I was more upset about that than anything! Then I came home late after getting the blood drawn and discovered my smallest cat had died. I just can't take this much all at once. This was a very important anniversary in my life and it just turned into complete shit.

 

[KatO79]

Glad to hear your retrieval went well, Kat.

AFM, I didn't get a message from the IVF nurse that said I didn't need to get another beta as long as I'm bleeding, so I had called and left a message saying to fax me another order to my work fax, which is in the hallway. I kept checking the fax through lunch and then found the message (which was from Saturday), so since I didn't get a call back, I assumed I wasn't getting a fax and that was that. Oh no. I got busy in the main work area and a couple of the secretaries came in smiling a HUGE smile at me. I figured something was up, but no idea what. So, after most people had gone home, I went back to my office and saw the lab order had been placed on my desk. One of the IVF nurses uses a cover sheet. This one DID NOT. So, whichever secretary got the fax off the fax machine saw EVERYTHING and knowing the one, I am betting she googled the RE office & checked out their website & saw it was for a blood pregnancy test AND it said reason was spontaneous abortion. I was livid! I went right in and told my supervisor and since we work in health care, if any of them say ONE WORD to anyone else, they can be fired for breaching patient confidentiality. I was more upset about that than anything! Then I came home late after getting the blood drawn and discovered my smallest cat had died. I just can't take this much all at once. This was a very important anniversary in my life and it just turned into complete shit.

So sorry Jean that the nurse did that, can you complain? And what's with those secretaries I hope your supervisor takes care of the situation.

So sorry about your cat as well I get very attached to my furbabies myself and know how painful it is to lose one

 

[ttcbaby117]

Hi ladies

I'm after some help..I'm. On day 9 on gonal f. My scan today showed 5 follies on left 10mm and 8 on right 10mm. And a lot of little uns. As the Dr was confirming this to the nurse I felt quite positive however he then sed he feels I can confine with stimms on same dose until wed but he doesn't elect miracles amd that I should expect for this cycle to be abandoned?!?!?!

So I've got 2 more 200 unit shots of gonal amd then a scan. Could my follies grow or should I prepare for a cancelled cycle?

If anyone could shed any light I'll be great full.

Thanks and lots of love xxxx

Hmmm I don't know but I would imagine that yes they can grow more. It seems they should grow about 2mm everyday, I think. I believe that is what I read. I think the problem is that you need them closer to 20 mm.....would the dr consider increasing your meds and then having your stim longer? I would contact him and ask questions.

Hey ladies I haven't been on this in a few days

Ttc- congrats h&h nine months

Kat- so sorry you have this added stress with your brother families can be stressful at the best of times and I hope your hubby gets the time off that he needs

Afm- I had my scan this morning they said my eggs have grown a lot since my last scan but there still not big enough so my dr just rang me and said my hormones came back good so there giving me two more days of 200ui puregon and I have another scan Wednesday morning so she said I will be triggering Wednesday night and er will be Friday and it looks like it's going to be 7 eggs so hopefully it goes good

I hope everyone else is doing good

Thanks Tiff! Grow embies grow!!!!!

Hiya!

Mrsg - replied to you on the other thread. x

Tiff, fab news! Seems a few of us in the same boat with rescan Wednesday.

Kat - good luck tomorrow.

My scan was the same, growth but not enough so another scan Wednesday before they confirm when egg collection will be.

xx

Rooting for you hun! I am sending growing vibes to your eggies!

Sounds good tiff, FXed your next scan looks good so you can have your ER on Friday

Unfortunately this is as good as my family gets (verbal and emotional abuse, scapegoating, gaslighting, silent treatment, triangulation, smear campaigns ect., you know the typical toxic, narcissistic family stuff) He seems adamant in continuing the scapegoating of me, something our mother started from the day I was born. Which means I may have to go no contact with him, my sister and our cousin (as she seems to be very enmeshed with them) also for the sake of my future child as my child will be the next family scapegoat if I don't.

Mrs W hope your scan looks fine on Wednesday so you also can soon have your ER

AFM DH got his day off so he'll be able to come with me tomorrow.

Well I honestly think that getting all negativity out of your life is the best way. Especially, when you are going through something as emotional as IVF. I am sorry that your family isn't more supportive. It does make this tough.

Hi ladies!

This has been quite a ride for me. Starting with the very slow rising beta, and then the fact they only saw a sac without the fetus. But that 6+3 we saw a fetus and heartbeat!
Anyways, today at my 8+3 appointment which was supposed to be my last re appointment (would b moving to my OB) the doctor said the heartbeat was extremely slow (64). A healthy fetal heartbeat should be well over 100. Since the heartbeat was nice and high before they told me I should come back for yet another scan. They expect me to miscarry in the next few days. They say the heart will stop beating. The fetus was measuring at 8+1 which was good!
I'm sad and disappointed. I can't imagine having hope again. It feels so cruel that I had to go through all of this to get nowhere.

Aww Rebecca, I am so sorry hun! A roller coaster is an understatement. I truly hope you get through this quickly. My heart just breaks that you have to go through this.

Glad to hear your retrieval went well, Kat.

AFM, I didn't get a message from the IVF nurse that said I didn't need to get another beta as long as I'm bleeding, so I had called and left a message saying to fax me another order to my work fax, which is in the hallway. I kept checking the fax through lunch and then found the message (which was from Saturday), so since I didn't get a call back, I assumed I wasn't getting a fax and that was that. Oh no. I got busy in the main work area and a couple of the secretaries came in smiling a HUGE smile at me. I figured something was up, but no idea what. So, after most people had gone home, I went back to my office and saw the lab order had been placed on my desk. One of the IVF nurses uses a cover sheet. This one DID NOT. So, whichever secretary got the fax off the fax machine saw EVERYTHING and knowing the one, I am betting she googled the RE office & checked out their website & saw it was for a blood pregnancy test AND it said reason was spontaneous abortion. I was livid! I went right in and told my supervisor and since we work in health care, if any of them say ONE WORD to anyone else, they can be fired for breaching patient confidentiality. I was more upset about that than anything! Then I came home late after getting the blood drawn and discovered my smallest cat had died. I just can't take this much all at once. This was a very important anniversary in my life and it just turned into complete shit.

Oh no Jean! I am so sorry! Wow what a horrible day. I do hope that things turn around for you soon!

AFM - I just did the blood test for my second beta. I hope to get the results later today. I am so nervous. I know my first was strong but it seems it is more important to see it double than to see a strong first beta. So here I am trying my hardest to work when all I can think about are these test results.

 

[KatO79]

Sounds good tiff, FXed your next scan looks good so you can have your ER on Friday

Unfortunately this is as good as my family gets (verbal and emotional abuse, scapegoating, gaslighting, silent treatment, triangulation, smear campaigns ect., you know the typical toxic, narcissistic family stuff) He seems adamant in continuing the scapegoating of me, something our mother started from the day I was born. Which means I may have to go no contact with him, my sister and our cousin (as she seems to be very enmeshed with them) also for the sake of my future child as my child will be the next family scapegoat if I don't.

Mrs W hope your scan looks fine on Wednesday so you also can soon have your ER

AFM DH got his day off so he'll be able to come with me tomorrow.

Well I honestly think that getting all negativity out of your life is the best way. Especially, when you are going through something as emotional as IVF. I am sorry that your family isn't more supportive. It does make this tough.

Yep unfortunately To make things worse my brother and his wife went through numerous IVFs/FETs to have their daughter (it was a 5 year struggle as they met later in life and first started TTC when she was 41). I didn't know until I'd asked his wife about how long it took for them to conceive their daughter shortly after we started TTCing as I thought it was a pregnancy that happened naturally (although she was 46 at the time she got pregnant but since one can technically get pregnant naturally at that age.....). You'd think that would make him more understanding and supportive. But nope, being a narcissist he's using this time in my life to hurt me more, that's what narcissists do He's like a shark that's smelled blood and is going for the kill. He was also cruel when I was job hunting for all those years. He takes every crisis in my life to hurt me more.

I think I'll just let the silent treatment continue and avoid as much communication as possible. Once DH and I hopefully do get pregnant and have the baby, I'll take the opportunity to go no contact for good. I just don't need the backlash from certain family members (e.g. my cousin) before then

FXed for your beta

 

[Unlucky41]

Rebecca I am so sorry to hear this. Hopefully at your next scan everything is back to normal. Did you talk to your RE?

Kat glad your retrieval went well. Is your RE planning on doing a day 2 transfer it day 3 ?

Mrs w sounds like your egg retrieval is coming up. All the best.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Kat that sounds like probably the best idea.

 

[KatO79]

Kat glad your retrieval went well. Is your RE planning on doing a day 2 transfer it day 3 ?

My RE is planning a Day 2 transfer since she says it gives the best results in her experience (although they also do Day 5 transfers as well, guess it depends a bit). Am feeling nervous about getting the call tomorrow about how many fertilised and if there's anything to transfer, partially because we only have 3 eggs and not e.g. 8-12 Trying to think positive so have gotten the Crinone Gel and packed one dose in my purse since they want you to bring one for your transfer.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Sending you positive thoughts Kat!