SpringCrane
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I'll preface this with saying that I feel very fortunate to be pregnant with my second child, and a happy healthy baby is what is important. I will love my child unconditionally regardless of gender (boy/girl/trans/etc!)
However... I really want another boy. I wanted a boy for my first too, but now that I have one, I really want another. There are a lot of different reasons, but regardless, I'm worried I'll feel disappointed if I find out it's a girl, and it would be horrible to feel disappointed about my baby for any reason!
I'm considering not finding out the gender as a way of avoiding disappointment. But, my mom heads an ultrasound department, meaning I can get scans whenever I want. If I decide to not find out the gender, I'll likely skip any extra scans by her to avoid her accidentally seeing the gender and knowing (I couldn't handle her knowing and me not!). It'll be really hard to not take advantage of free scans whenever I want, though!
I'm not sure what to do or think. I'm trying to tell myself it is a girl to get used to the possibility, but I just automatically envision a boy because it's what I know and what I want!
Does anyone else have a strong preference? How are you planning to handle it?
However... I really want another boy. I wanted a boy for my first too, but now that I have one, I really want another. There are a lot of different reasons, but regardless, I'm worried I'll feel disappointed if I find out it's a girl, and it would be horrible to feel disappointed about my baby for any reason!
I'm considering not finding out the gender as a way of avoiding disappointment. But, my mom heads an ultrasound department, meaning I can get scans whenever I want. If I decide to not find out the gender, I'll likely skip any extra scans by her to avoid her accidentally seeing the gender and knowing (I couldn't handle her knowing and me not!). It'll be really hard to not take advantage of free scans whenever I want, though!
I'm not sure what to do or think. I'm trying to tell myself it is a girl to get used to the possibility, but I just automatically envision a boy because it's what I know and what I want!
Does anyone else have a strong preference? How are you planning to handle it?