Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[J_Lynn]

My easiest way to deal with it is wine.

LOTS of wine.

And crying. And being mad, and ranting about how everyone can get pregnant if they're 1. drug addicts 2. don't know who the father is 3. have 6 kids with 5 fathers 4. haven't had a job in 16 years 5. or are just generally horrid people

Yeah. That's how it usually works in my neck of woods.

It's one of those things that if you don't find a reason to laugh about it, you'll die. So find the humor in it - there are funny things. Usually it is making fun of other people. Epecially women who complain about being pregnant. Those are the best. They're also lucky they're pregnant because they're the ones I want to push down a flight of stairs. But can't. Because they're pregnant.

So yeah. That's how I've made it through these years.

I'm sorry your doctor said you would fall pregnant within 3 months - they should never ever get your hopes up by saying something like that. Because in their perfect world it happens, but with our bodies - sometimes they have other plans.

I am similiar to you - I had 2 blocked tubes, endo, a LEEP to remove the top of my cervix due to pre-cancerous cells, and I have PCOS. It took a lot of agressive moves by my doctor but I got my BFP (hoping it stays!) - so it can happen. It just takes luck. A lot of luck. And sex. Lots of that too

 

[fisher640]

Congrats Jlyn! I'm rooting for 84!!!

 

[Tarotempres]

Lynn a high risk pregnancy isn't to terrible. It just really means a lot more doctors appointments and in the beginning you get to see the baby more often. I am high risk because of my age, I had a previous miscarriage, and my body was producing progesterone on its own. It was actually cool at first because every two weeks I was going for scans so it truly put my mind at ease that everything was going good.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

After being scanned every two weeks at the last pregnancy, it is something I do not wish to repeat. It was extra stressful counting down the days until my next scan and praying for progress - in my perfect world, I wouldn't find out I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks gone

J-lynn, you are still really early so that number is good

 

[J_Lynn]

I am siting on pins and needles till Thursday - I keep just telling that little poppy seed to grow, grow, grow!

Is there anything they can do if your HCG is deficient or is it just something that you have to let nature dictate?

...I sure did ask if there were any foods I could eat to increase it and the nurse laughed and said I say the damnest things

I have a pretty large prayer chain going on right now, my entire immediate family and my closest friends (who all took 5+ years to get pregnant also with endless issues so they know exactly what all this IF us about) sending up prayers and good thoughts to make this poppy seed stick.

Thursday seems like 6 months away.

*sigh*

But, my friend who has had 13+ miscarriages and 5 healthy babies now said that here at our clinic if your high risk they'll give you the first ultrasound also right away and they'll give you one weekly - and at around 5 weeks you can sometimes hear the heartbeat. She said your chance of losing the baby goes down to less than 5% once you hear the heart beat so I am going to BEG my doctor to let me hear the heart beat as soon as humanly possible.

We just gotta get past Thursday. We can do this!!

I still feel like I'm dreaming!

 

[cntrygrl]

J-Lynn-- My fingers are crossed that your numbers double.

 

[ESwemba84]

JLynn, those numbers are great for how early you are. And like someone already said, its looking at how they double. I hope everything comes back ok!

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Taro - I don't think I knew you got your BFP... congrats! You're quite far along now... everything going ok? Must be surreal...

 

[sugarpi24]

Im hoping for you Jlynn!!! I hope it sticks!!!!

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Random question - has anyone here seen the movie 'baby mama'? I was thinking of watching it but I don't know if I will love it or hate it... as it has infertility... the beginning of the movie 'Up' had me in major tears

 

[4magpies]

jlynn there is no way to increase hcg as it's the hormone made by the baby.

Hence why they monitor it in MC and ectopic to see if a pregnancy.

Hope everyone is good. I just accepted a new job today. I start 25th July! Which is probably right around where I'll be stimming. Lol. Dunno what I'm going to tell the new place? xx

 

[ickle pand]

Up always gets me. After we got married (2 years into TTC) my then 9 year old nephew asked my SIL if we were going to have a baby now. She explained that we wanted to have a baby but its not easy for everyone and might not happen. He then asked her if we'd have to repaint our spare room if we couldn't have a baby. She couldn't work out what he meant until she rewatched Up.

 

[pbl_ge]

Apparently I unsubscribed from this thread. And I've missed a lot!

J_Lynn, I've already congratulated you elsewhere, but why not do it again? Congrats! As others have said, the absolute numbers early on don't mean much, and even slightly sluggish not-quite-doubling can turn out just fine. There are CRAZY things happening right now in the embryo development, and it can still turn out well even if it's a bit behind the standard curve. Also, it's completely and 100% out of your control. All you can do is pray and wait. We're all rooting for you and your little sprout!

Ella, I saw Baby Mama. It's a decent movie, but not wonderful from a realistic infertility perspective. I'm not sure I've ever seen a realistic movie about it, with the possible exception of Maybe Baby, which was accurate but I didn't enjoy it. It's a real disservice. I think the terrible movies made on this subject are one of the reasons idiots walk around telling infertile couples to just relax and it will happen. Because it always does in the movies! Up is definitely the most moving and beautiful i/f portrayal I've ever seen. I'm not sure I want to be around humans who can watch that sequence without crying.

TLB, sorry you have to be here, too. I hope your OH gets tested soon. That's frustrating. But I think every other day during the fertile window could be a good default, just in case. And it's terrible that he blames you for it not working. Not helpful! As for dealing with the ups and downs, .... well, I have good days and bad days. Like J_Lynn, I find wine helpful. And my dog, which you probably understand. Good luck to you!

Hi to everyone else!

 

[J_Lynn]

Thank you so much I am just talking to the little seed and praying and keeping my faith that this will all work out. I am scared to death to go to the dr on Thursday. But, it's not I can avoid going so I will just put my big girl panties on and deal with it lol

 

[Tarotempres]

Ella- hi how are you - I am 22 weeks now - it is still surreal and I still can't believe it is actually happening.

Lynn - all you can do is keep the faith. keeping my fingers crossed for you.

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Ella- hi how are you - I am 22 weeks now - it is still surreal and I still can't believe it is actually happening.

Amazing! H&H rest of the 9 months!

Ella, I saw Baby Mama. It's a decent movie, but not wonderful from a realistic infertility perspective. I'm not sure I've ever seen a realistic movie about it, with the possible exception of Maybe Baby, which was accurate but I didn't enjoy it. It's a real disservice. I think the terrible movies made on this subject are one of the reasons idiots walk around telling infertile couples to just relax and it will happen. Because it always does in the movies! Up is definitely the most moving and beautiful i/f portrayal I've ever seen. I'm not sure I want to be around humans who can watch that sequence without crying.

I watched it in the end - it was good - but very uniinspiring as far as the infertility is concerned! The t-shaped uterus = never having kids annoyed me a bit. I mean, it always seems in movies that people are either 'infertile' i.e. can never have kids or fertile i.e can have kids normally... which isn't true! But then again, how many stories have their been, even on this thread where doctors have said it will never happen and then it does. Life just isn't black and white.

Up always gets me. After we got married (2 years into TTC) my then 9 year old nephew asked my SIL if we were going to have a baby now. She explained that we wanted to have a baby but its not easy for everyone and might not happen. He then asked her if we'd have to repaint our spare room if we couldn't have a baby. She couldn't work out what he meant until she rewatched Up.

Oh it's so sad Even my DH was trying not to cry (he denied that of course - something in his eye! lol)



AFM. I think I'm 10 or 11dpo. I've been good and not tested since the :BFN: at about 8dpo. I keep saying to myself that it's so much fun to pretend I am pg, why ruin it? lol. I've been very bad when it comes to symptom spotting though. I have very strong stomach cramps, but not AF kind, more like gas pains , bloating etc. and a few more tmi symptoms I won't bore you with! It could just be because my progesterone was soaring due to multiple follicles, so I'm not holding my breathe! But the weirdest thing of all is that my bbs are not at all sore. Which I've never had before at this stage... ahh I have to stop this - but it's so much fun!!!

I would SO love to have to cancel my lap.. the doc. will kill me lol...

 

[J_Lynn]

I guess I need to watch Up, because it must be a great opener .... I've seen the movie from about 1/2 way in, but never saw the beginning!

 

[sugarpi24]

I didn't like the movie UP its to sad and depressing! I don't know why they would make a children's movie like that

 

[pbl_ge]

I didn't like the movie UP its to sad and depressing! I don't know why they would make a children's movie like that

You didn't find the rest of the movie inspiring and *up*lifting? It's true--both the old man and the little boy (can't remember names right now) have very sad back stories. (Although I don't think the story of their marriage is more sad than not--it's a beautiful love story--but he's definitely grieving at the point that the movie really begins.) I personally loved that, as there's a lot of sadness in the world and it's good for children's movies to address that, I think. What I loved most was the wonder and adventure that came out of such sadness. While the rest of the movie is very good (SQUIRREL!), it's those first 10 minutes or so that transcend the movie into genius for me.

 

[Pnutsprincess]

Congrats than to new BFP. I am 10 weeks now and dealing with severe morning sickness. Other than that, everything is great baby's hb was 170