Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[Feisty Fidget]

Have it all crossed for you Tasha

 

[dodgercpkl]

Sorry the witch got you ladies. That poor dog!! Ugh I can't imagine what that poor child's life will be like.

AFM I'm at day 3 of highly fertile on the cbfm and my temperatures have been all over the place! 96.6, 96.1, 97.6 so far. Our plan is to bd at least every other day, although so far it's been everyday.

Has everyone thought about what they would do (i.e. who they would tell) when they find out they are pregnant? My hubby and I were talking about this a few days ago and then last night again. I'm a bit torn on this subject, but I think I'm leaning more towards being open about it come what may then keeping everything to ourselves.

lol maybe I'm being too vague on that. Let's assume that I find myself pregnant. I know for a fact that I'd be telling my parents and my DH's parents immediately - well since we live with mine, my mom might know before I do. lol But then there is the question of 'do we tell the rest of the family and our friends right away or do we wait a couple of months?' At first I was thinking that I'd want to wait... that's what so many ladies seem to do.

I mean, what happens if we get pregnant finally and then the worst comes to be and we have an MC or ectopic or chemical or something? I thought about it, and I thought about me and how I am, and I think I would still want to just tell people. I think should my worst fears come to be that I would want to be able to grieve openly and remember my angel baby openly.

I also know too that in opening myself up to talk to people about my fertility issues, I've found comfort in knowing that many of my friends and co-workers have gone through something similar to what I am. I don't dwell on it, but it is nice to have a few moments every so often to commiserate in person with someone who understands the frustrations of LTTTC.

I guess I'm thinking about this again because a lady on another forum that I'm a part of who has been through 2 mc's on her ttc#1 journey made a post last night talking about her frustration with having kept the mc's a secret from her and her dh's family. They made that decision together when it happened, but now it's kind of eating at her, and she'd like to be able to just stop keeping it a secret and talk to the families about it and about the babies lost.

What do you ladies think? What would you do and why? If you've been through this, how did you handle it and do you wish you had done something differently now?

 

[wantabby]

AFM:

CD 17 & starting the TWW who's with me? I think I'm 1-2dpo, I had pos OPK on CD15 but my temp just went up today CD17 -- I went to bed crampy on CD15 so I think it was sometime overnight, we'll go with 2dpo? Anyone?

I think I'm one day ahead of you.. I'm 4DPO today.. I am trying not to focus on SS this month..

 

[wannabemummyb]

Dodge, i know i will tell my aunt straightaway and also my close friends because these are the people who have supported me, get excited with me when i symptom spot in 2ww and get upset with me that af turns up! Would tell my dad also!

I think i want to tell the straight away in case something bad happens and i mc, that way they can support me

 

[urchin]

I was so glad that my family all knew that I was pregnant when I miscarried ... and seeing as they all know about the IVF, I expect they'll all be on the phone on testing day to find out whether or not I am this time

...and whether the news is good or bad, I'd much rather have their support - in fact I'm not sure how I'd manage if I had to keep it all to myself

 

[urchin]

Oh - I forgot to update ... I had a phonecall from the hospital today - my consultant has managed to sneak me onto her NHS list next wednesday - so we are in time for the donor and no hyowj fees to pay

 

[Dazed]

Whoo hoo... thats great news urchin!

 

[dodgercpkl]

I was so glad that my family all knew that I was pregnant when I miscarried ... and seeing as they all know about the IVF, I expect they'll all be on the phone on testing day to find out whether or not I am this time

...and whether the news is good or bad, I'd much rather have their support - in fact I'm not sure how I'd manage if I had to keep it all to myself

That's exactly how I feel! I'm so sorry you had to go through an MC though. *hugs*

Oh - I forgot to update ... I had a phonecall from the hospital today - my consultant has managed to sneak me onto her NHS list next wednesday - so we are in time for the donor and no hyowj fees to pay

That's awesome news!!

 

[wantabby]

Yayy!! Great news Urchin!!!!

Dodger ~ I will tell my close family && friends at first, they all know we have been TTC for a long time and have been very supportive.. After 8-10 weeks or so I would prob tell everyone..

 

[Djibou]

Awesome news urchin

Lots of for you ladies in the TWW, or getting there soon!

 

[Tjkitty]

Hello, can I join? I started at the front and am working my way through all the previous posts.

We are on our 27th month of TTC. I have seen a specialist and had bloods, ultrasound and hystopingogram (sp?). OH still hasn't been to have sperm tested. So far, no reasons why noBFP

 

[Dazed]

Hi TJ! Welcome and I hope you get your BFP soon!

 

[Irish_eyes]

Hello ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in with you. I think I have posted here before but have not been very active lately as this whole LTTTC malarky does get to me quite often. But I am really determined to try and get a natural BFP (I have never had a hint of one) before I go down the IVF route.

So, I am back with leaps and bounds and have started a new cycle. I have ordered up some digi oks, cheap opks, sticks for my CBFM, preseed ready, thermo ready for temping and now I just have to work DH around so that he provides when I need it. That can be a be of a struggle since we started TTC. I think I am going back to the whole obsess route again because I am coming up to the 3 year anniversary of my TTC journey and I really would love it to happen soon. We are "unexplained infertility".....the worst kind.

Good Luck everyone. xxx

 

[Dazed]

Hi Irish! Happy your back in the game and I hope you don't have to wait long! 3yrs is too long for anyone, but so is 1yr, so you doubly need to get your BFP soon!

 

[Irish_eyes]

Thanks Dazed, hope you get yours soon too xxx

 

[Tasha16]

Thanks brilliant news urchin. Thanks FF xx Welcome to the newbies xx

 

[Tasha16]

Sorry the witch got you ladies. That poor dog!! Ugh I can't imagine what that poor child's life will be like.

AFM I'm at day 3 of highly fertile on the cbfm and my temperatures have been all over the place! 96.6, 96.1, 97.6 so far. Our plan is to bd at least every other day, although so far it's been everyday.

Has everyone thought about what they would do (i.e. who they would tell) when they find out they are pregnant? My hubby and I were talking about this a few days ago and then last night again. I'm a bit torn on this subject, but I think I'm leaning more towards being open about it come what may then keeping everything to ourselves.

lol maybe I'm being too vague on that. Let's assume that I find myself pregnant. I know for a fact that I'd be telling my parents and my DH's parents immediately - well since we live with mine, my mom might know before I do. lol But then there is the question of 'do we tell the rest of the family and our friends right away or do we wait a couple of months?' At first I was thinking that I'd want to wait... that's what so many ladies seem to do.

I mean, what happens if we get pregnant finally and then the worst comes to be and we have an MC or ectopic or chemical or something? I thought about it, and I thought about me and how I am, and I think I would still want to just tell people. I think should my worst fears come to be that I would want to be able to grieve openly and remember my angel baby openly.

I also know too that in opening myself up to talk to people about my fertility issues, I've found comfort in knowing that many of my friends and co-workers have gone through something similar to what I am. I don't dwell on it, but it is nice to have a few moments every so often to commiserate in person with someone who understands the frustrations of LTTTC.

I guess I'm thinking about this again because a lady on another forum that I'm a part of who has been through 2 mc's on her ttc#1 journey made a post last night talking about her frustration with having kept the mc's a secret from her and her dh's family. They made that decision together when it happened, but now it's kind of eating at her, and she'd like to be able to just stop keeping it a secret and talk to the families about it and about the babies lost.

What do you ladies think? What would you do and why? If you've been through this, how did you handle it and do you wish you had done something differently now?

Hi dodger when i got my first bfp we told people straight away but then i mc'd and everyone was very supportive, but i did get a few people coming upto me after saying congrats bcos they didn't know i'd had mc which was hard, so for that reason we decided to only tell family when i got my others which did end in an ectopic and three more mc's. I have told close friends since but not at the time i didn't want too many knowning when we were going though it xx

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Urchin that is awesome!

Dodger I have conflicting opinions on this, when we fell with Sprout we told parentals and my cousin (we are very close) but then one of my cousin's sons told an auntie and then because of family politics we kind of had to go public and sadly we lost Sprout a few days later. Sometimes I am thankful that people knew as it stopped all of the nosey questions about having children etc but sometimes I get annoyed that people don't think before they say or do things when they know full well what happened.

DH wants to wait until we tell people this time, maybe until 2nd trimester. Part of me sees the logic of that, I did get annoyed with certain comments my cousin made when I was pregnant about being too paranoid/careful/naiive etc and so if she doesn't know straight away I guess I won't have to worry about the stress her comments may cause

Well we have our first fertility appointment through for 25th November I was really surprised at how quick it was! I was seriously expecting a few months minimum, my GP only referred me 2 weeks ago!

Found out that another girl I used to manage is 12 weeks pregnant and she is due 29th May (this would have been my due date this year). This now means that all of the girls I used to work with our pregnant at the same time Yes I am feeling rather jealous BUT I am trying to focus on how much worse I would feel if I still worked there and every single female in the building was pregnant.

 

[Tanzibar83]

Hey girls, hope you're all doing well, sorry I've not posted in a while. Just to let you know I got my BFP 5th November you'd think after 8 days of knowing that and 14 months trying it would have sinked in by now, but it's not. I still feel like I'm going to wake up from this dream and straight back into reality :S

Sending you all lots of babydust and wishes, xxxx

 

[urchin]

Welcme to TJ and IrishEyes - gosh, reading from the front is a big commitment TJ - we're over 100 pages now.

FF that's fab news on the fertility appointment ... is nice when something anything about this ttc malarky doesn't take months or years!

So what's everyone up to this weekend?
Yesterday we spent a relaxing day plasterboarding the front bedroom ceiling - well, it will seem relaxing compared to today's job of plastering the ceiling and as many walls as we can get round to

we were meant to be finishing it next weekend (in time for friends to visit the weekend after) but I think the hystoscopy this week might put paid to that - GAs generally knock me about a bit, so it can take me a few days to get right again - not sure as I'll want to be plastering next weekend.