yay nice to hear from you! is this your first in a couple of months, youve had a break I think?
ready Im really struggling with the how many to transfer thing and I know we have talked about this in the past. I know the girls on here say transfer 2, 3, or all 8but I do have this increased fear of twins...the carrying them part (as ive read too much on here) then of course the coping part. I spent a lot of time with my best friend and her 16 month old when home and I was thinking jeez if this was x2 I would never go out!!
but, at my age the chance of twins is really small. in fact of my 10 blasts perhaps only 1 or 2 are good. so the risk is so small. but I cant help but think what if the fresh cycle was too much for my body and the FET will do its magic and whatever transferred will implant. I feel like transferring 1 the first month, then if nothing doing 2 the next. But my hubby doesnt want to keep spending $1200 per month.
has there been any over 39-40's IVFers on here who got pregnant with twins? its not something I hear about much so perhaps its so rare and I will just do 2, or 3 lol. I know the celebs at our age seem to get twins.
sorry I keep bringing this up but its just in my mind. I see my FS tomorrow and Im sure she will tell me my chance of pregnancy with 1 blast is 5% and so I will do 2 or 3!!!
LL if you have multiple that pass the pgd how many would you do?
actually I already have triplets already
Yes, we took a few months off. My last IUI was in September. I was hoping I just needed more time to conceive, but it's becoming more and more clear that more time isn't really going to help. So......back to IUI it is.
About twins........there's much to debate.
My SIL had a set of twins. She honestly said that she was too exhausted too enjoy it. She just went through the motions and was in survival mode.
But, it's not easy having 1 baby either. Sometimes, I felt like I couldn't ever leave my house. And sometimes, I felt completely overwhelmed. There were days when all I could accomplish was to keep everyone safe and fed.
Regardless, if it's 1 or 3 babies, they eventually get older and life gets easier. When they decide to stop running into the street and drinking toxic floor cleaner, life just gets better.
Now, I have a good friend that has had 2 sets of twins. She coped well with the first set. She even told me that I shouldn't listen to other women that talk about how difficult it is. It was having the second set when her first set was only 21 months, that did her in.
Personally, twins scare me. I have seen too many people loose twin pregnancies, that I would be terrified. Of course this happens with singleton pregnancies too; but you are more likely to have issues with a twin pregnancy. Honestly, the only part that doesn't worry me too much is raising 2 at the same time. I think I could manage somehow. It's the strain that it would place on my relationship with my husband, financial strain from lack of income due to possible bedrest, and the possibility of having 2 unhealthy babies due to premature delivery, that scare me silly.
But, if you're 39 with no other children, and you want more than one child, I would go for twins.
I would do everything in my power to prevent a triplet pregnancy. Of course it is possible to have healthy triplets, or more. But the risks increase tremendously with each fetus. I can't imagine having the complicated task of raising 3 special needs infants.
I'm not sure what to tell you to do with your husband. I can understand not wanting to fork out money each month. But, you have to do what you are most comfortable with.
I really think that you would be fine with twins. I have heard from a couple of moms that it was easier to have twins first because they didn't have a comparison of having just one baby.
It must be a really hard decision to make.
actually I already have triplets already
Look how cute you are!!!!
Love your triplets hehehe
I honestly would prefer one at a time. I do know of complications so that is a concern. Chances are only one will come through for us anyway.
Yes, we took a few months off. My last IUI was in September. I was hoping I just needed more time to conceive, but it's becoming more and more clear that more time isn't really going to help. So......back to IUI it is.
About twins........there's much to debate.
My SIL had a set of twins. She honestly said that she was too exhausted too enjoy it. She just went through the motions and was in survival mode.
But, it's not easy having 1 baby either. Sometimes, I felt like I couldn't ever leave my house. And sometimes, I felt completely overwhelmed. There were days when all I could accomplish was to keep everyone safe and fed.
Regardless, if it's 1 or 3 babies, they eventually get older and life gets easier. When they decide to stop running into the street and drinking toxic floor cleaner, life just gets better.
Now, I have a good friend that has had 2 sets of twins. She coped well with the first set. She even told me that I shouldn't listen to other women that talk about how difficult it is. It was having the second set when her first set was only 21 months, that did her in.
Personally, twins scare me. I have seen too many people loose twin pregnancies, that I would be terrified. Of course this happens with singleton pregnancies too; but you are more likely to have issues with a twin pregnancy. Honestly, the only part that doesn't worry me too much is raising 2 at the same time. I think I could manage somehow. It's the strain that it would place on my relationship with my husband, financial strain from lack of income due to possible bedrest, and the possibility of having 2 unhealthy babies due to premature delivery, that scare me silly.
But, if you're 39 with no other children, and you want more than one child, I would go for twins.
I would do everything in my power to prevent a triplet pregnancy. Of course it is possible to have healthy triplets, or more. But the risks increase tremendously with each fetus. I can't imagine having the complicated task of raising 3 special needs infants.
I'm not sure what to tell you to do with your husband. I can understand not wanting to fork out money each month. But, you have to do what you are most comfortable with.
I really think that you would be fine with twins. I have heard from a couple of moms that it was easier to have twins first because they didn't have a comparison of having just one baby.
It must be a really hard decision to make.
yes the things you describe are the things that make me nervous too....carrying twins then the reality of doing every x2. I do want more than 1 but I want to do it one at a time. thats interesting that some moms said it was ok having twins first as they didnt know any better. I just know when I was out with my friend and her 16 month old, who is a really good girl, we were constantly keeping her entertained and out of trouble and I thought I could never do this with 2! my friend was glad I was there so she could get some shopping done as she said its hard to concentrate and watch the kid. but I suppose if it happened you would just change how you do things, hubby would have to always come shopping etc.
and when my hubby said that about not paying $1200 per month I said that twins would be way more money than that! he will ultimately do what I want.
omg twins after twins...Im assuming fertility treatment for each set??
I cant wait to see my FS tomorrow, Im sure she will persuade me to do 2 due to the terrible stats with 1 so not sure why I keep thinking about it.
I really hope its our month for some bfps on our thread
That's 4 babies from having sex twice. I have to admit that I would like just a touch of her fertility....but not too much, lol.
