anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[sarahincanada]

someone shared this link and its quite helpful

https://www.betabase.info/

a couple of thousand of women have inputting their beta numbers depending on the dpo, so you can get an average. perhaps some of you preggy ladies can input yours.....I think they just ask people to record after seeing a heartbeat.

 

[readyformore]

wow greeny it doesnt seem that long ago....thats crazy. I really hope I get that far. are you going to find out the gender? I would love the wonderful surprise but I also think it would drive me crazy not knowing and think perhaps I would bond better picturing a boy or girl in there. but hubby does not want to know so I will probably not find out as Id want the surprise together.
what about everyone else, are you / would you find out?

I've done both and I liked both. I don't think bonding has much to do with knowing the gender, well at least not for me. I've bonded differently with each baby and it's taken a different amount of time to bond, each time as well. It took the longest with my first and was the quickest with the third, (I don't think it has anything to do with how many babies you have either).

The first 2 I knew, and with my dd, I didn't. I will wait and be surprised at the birth if I have another one.

I've had people say that they didn't want to know the gender because it ruined the surprise. That just never made sense to me. Even if you have a scheduled c-section and know both the gender and the birthdate, you still don't know what your baby will look like, what his cry will sound like, if he has hair or not....... It's still a surprise either way.

Actually, my dh told me that we weren't finding out the gender of our third. I thought he was crazy. I thought it would be impossible, I don't exactly work at a bank. I walk past an ultrasound machine multiple times a week, (and management goes home in the evening and on weekends so it's a free for all for the pregnant staff. ).

I finally resolved to not find out and wouldn't you know it, my husband watched every moment of the ultrasound at 21 weeks! At the time, he told me that he didn't know what he was seeing. But, after her birth, he admitted that he saw her ovaries and fallopian tubes. I had no idea. He can definately keep a secret......that's not exactly a good thing is it?

 

[drsquid]

readyformore- your hubby made a good guess. you cant see ovaries or fallopian tubes on fetal ultrasound.

 

[crystal443]

No...my ankles and hands etc keep swelling but to be fair the heat isn't helping either and I swelled last time as well, not sure what's in it but its a suppressor. I dread to think what the steriods are going to do

Prednisone and I aren't friends...

Prednisone ...me no likey either LOL

I know hey and I'll be on 15 mg per day I've taken them in the past but only for a few weeks at a time, if I get a BFP I'll be on them 3 months Ah well it's worth it and the bloat will come eventually

 

[dachsundmom]

 

[readyformore]

readyformore- your hubby made a good guess. you cant see ovaries or fallopian tubes on fetal ultrasound.

I guess he did.

I thought they could see that. I've had patients with newborns go for ultrasounds because they had seen a cyst on the fetus's ovary.

They can see fetal heart valves, I'm surprised they can't see ovaries.

 

[sarahincanada]

yeah Im pretty sure they can see what is the ovaries for a girl and the testes (is that the word ) for the boy (isnt that how they determine the gender??). but I thought only an ultrasound tech could pick it out and show it, as its quite abstract. perhaps your hubby has a talent you didnt know!!!

 

[drsquid]

if there is a huge cyst then yes you can see them. but in general you cant. the way you determine sex is by the presence of a penis and testicles, or labia (ie hotdog or hamburger sign). they can see fetal heart valves because they are surrounded by fluid (ie blood) which is very different in echogenicity than the valves and thus they stand out. the ovaries are packed into a small space with the uterus and bowel and are quite small. you certainly wouldnt ever see the tubes (which you cant really even see on adults unless they are abnormal and distended, hence the need for hsg).

 

[readyformore]

Maybe he saw the kidneys and ureters?

Imagine his surprise if we'd had a boy instead and he thought he saw female anatomy.

 

[crystal443]

I was thinking that ready whatever he saw he was right !!!!! lol

 

[downundergal]

Thanks for your kind welcomes ladies. I'm pleased to see there have been some more bfp's while I was busy celebrating Australia Day down here, and not celebrating the who finally showed.

Oh well, onto another cycle, and my fertility appointment next Wednesday. I hope the doctor has something positive to say. My husband's sperm analysis is never good (low everything) however in the past this hasn't made much difference. I guess things change over 4 years.

On another note, I have been doing my own OPK/HPT journey to keep myself amused and I have discovered something interesting: the OPK's turn positive the day before and the day of menstruation. This is probably confusing some women if they use these instead of the HPT's. I have had this happen five times now, and I actually just googled it and yes, women have an LH surge just before the witch shows. So who knew?

So I now know to ALWAYS use HPT's over an OPK as they can give false hope at the end of a cycle when every woman is dying for that miraculous positive. Of course, I'll keep testing with both anyway, as I have an addiction that can't be helped, and a pile of internet cheapies that require my regular attention. Is cycle day one too early to start testing??

 

[crystal443]

I think Dmom used to get +OPKs right before AF as well Hope you had a great Australia Day, ours was pretty quiet but good

 

[dachsundmom]

I actually used my OPKs as verification that AF was OTW, bc I always get a second surge like that.

 

[crystal443]

No idea how I remembered that when I can't even remember what day it is half the time

 

[dachsundmom]

No idea how I remembered that when I can't even remember what day it is half the time

 

[crystal443]

4 days till my baseline scan..I'm actually excited this time

 

[downundergal]

I actually used my OPKs as verification that AF was OTW, bc I always get a second surge like that.

That's what I did this cycle. Lol. I was getting fed up that AF wasn't showing so used an OPK to see that she was just around the corner.

And Australia Day was quiet here too, but sunny finally! Been a weir summer, so we spent it with friends at one of our local beaches.

Of course, and I feel bad saying this, but one of my friends is also trying for baby number two, only she just has to look at her hubby and she's pregnant. Sadly she just had a miscarriage and I feel very badly for her about this. However I also can't help feeling jealous that she will likely recover from this and get pregnant before I've even started treatment.

I'm a horrible friend, I know. I hate feeling this way. I would love us to be pregnant together...but instead I just feel jealous.

 

[downundergal]

4 days till my baseline scan..I'm actually excited this time

Four days will fly by! Are you doing IVF? I'm excited that Australia covers a lot of the treatment costs. We lived in Canada for years and actually had IUI over there while trying for our son. I guess the Medicare coverage happened while we lived away as it wasn't there when we left. It's still hard to find that extra cash lying around for treatment, but at least it's not as expensive as it was.

 

[LillyLove]

4 days till my baseline scan..I'm actually excited this time

I can imagine how excited you are!!! Won't be long now!

 

[LillyLove]

Of course, and I feel bad saying this, but one of my friends is also trying for baby number two, only she just has to look at her hubby and she's pregnant. Sadly she just had a miscarriage and I feel very badly for her about this. However I also can't help feeling jealous that she will likely recover from this and get pregnant before I've even started treatment.

I'm a horrible friend, I know. I hate feeling this way. I would love us to be pregnant together...but instead I just feel jealous.

It is natural to feel this way. I think we all go through this. I am going to a friend's daughter's 1st birthday party in a week, and promised another friend I would finally come see her 1 month old (I was at the hospital for the previous 3 births). I only just found out I have tubal factor infertility this month and will not be able to get pregnant without intervention. It is difficult not to feel jealous. I will get over it ....