anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[manuiti]

Buster - welcome! I'm just about to start my very first IVF cycle as well. Tomorrow's my last day of BCPs and then off I go. Very excited & nervous too. Wow - 4 hours of class, I got a 15 minute run through including the process, how to take my meds and what they were going to be. Granted I had a plane to catch. lol All the best to you!

Hopo - glad to hear your cyst are gone. Roll on af! Looks like we'll be on a similar timetable.

:wave: to everyone else & hope you all have a good Sunday!

 

[sarahincanada]

good luck Buster1 and manuiti! keep us posted, we will be rooting for you

 

[Buster1]

Thanks for the warm welcome. I'll keep you all posted.

 

[sarahincanada]

if you have any questions ask away, quite a few of us have been through the process now, although protocols are often different. its really not as bad as you think, and is worth it in the end for so many of us.

 

[l8bloomer]

I will be undergoing IVF very soon. I'm 44 and will be using my own eggs. I thought to save money, I would do one cycle, then if unsuccessful, would move on to use donor eggs. However I have since read that in most instances, the first IVF cycle is a failure.

What do you ladies think? Should I do more cycles with my own eggs?

 

[Buster1]

if you have any questions ask away, quite a few of us have been through the process now, although protocols are often different. its really not as bad as you think, and is worth it in the end for so many of us.

Thanks Sarah, I'm sure I'll have a lot of questions. I don't know what I would do without the BNB ladies and their support.

 

[sarahincanada]

I will be undergoing IVF very soon. I'm 44 and will be using my own eggs. I thought to save money, I would do one cycle, then if unsuccessful, would move on to use donor eggs. However I have since read that in most instances, the first IVF cycle is a failure.

What do you ladies think? Should I do more cycles with my own eggs?

hi! I definitely dont think the first IVFs are a failure, on here quite a lot of people are successful first time (if you look at the IVF success thread in the assisted folder nearly everyone got pregnant first time). My fresh IVF failed but my Frozen worked, the blasts were from the same batch so I just feel it takes time to find the good embryos and at our age 50% or more of the embryos could be chromosomally 'bad'. If I were you I would do one try with my own eggs too, it would be pretty clear how you respond, the quality etc. Whether it works first time all depends on if they transfer a healthy embryo and thats hard to determine at day 3 or 5 as they choose by a visual grade, but you do have a chance to be a first time success.

And if not you have an even greater chance with donor eggs....pregnancy rates are pretty good for women in their 40's with donor eggs, similar rates to younger women (thats why my FS says its usually the eggs that are the problem, not the 'cooker'). good luck!!

 

[Milty]

I would wait and see what happens with your first IVF to decide...you cannot see how your eggs respond ect..

Of course if it works the first time

 

[heavenly]

Hi ladies

Well I am off to a consultation tonight at the Agora Clinic in Brighton.

I am 46. I am armed with my FSH of 6.2 and OH's very good SA results. I will receive my AMH results when I get there. We are going to chat about what treatment would be beneficial for me.

I can't see them suggesting OE at my age, so we are prepared for DE. Will have to save up, so won't be having treatment for a few months but want to get done any tests they think I need.

 

[LLbean]

Buster you can read through my journal too if you like. I did 2 rounds of it

 

[hockey24]

Welcome Manuiti and Heavenly!!

Manuiti - IVF is so scary and exciting at the same time. I hope you get that BFP the very first time! Be sure to let us know how your cycle is going - love hearing the details about follicles, etc!

Heavenly - good luck at your appointment today! I hope all the results come back great!

AFM - have an MRI tomorrow to get a closer look at the fibroid and see if he has any friends. All part of the keep moving forward plan! Hoping to have surgery month!

 

[Desperado167]

Welcome Manuiti and Heavenly!!

Manuiti - IVF is so scary and exciting at the same time. I hope you get that BFP the very first time! Be sure to let us know how your cycle is going - love hearing the details about follicles, etc!

Heavenly - good luck at your appointment today! I hope all the results come back great!

AFM - have an MRI tomorrow to get a closer look at the fibroid and see if he has any friends. All part of the keep moving forward plan! Hoping to have surgery month!

Good luck for tomorrow .xxxxxxx

 

[Buster1]

Thanks LL, I'll take a look. I'm one of those people who loves information so the more I can find out the better.

Hockey good luck with your MRI. I've been through fibroid surgery it's been a few years but if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Hope all you lovely ladies are having a good day. AFM not much going on just getting ready for my IVF teaching class on Wednesday. It's from 1 to 4pm so I guess they have a lot of info to give us or does it take that long to go over how to use the meds? Guess I'll have to wait til Wednesday to find out.

 

[heavenly]

Well, bit confused.

Just had a consultation at the Agora Clinic in Brighton. Wasn't told anything I didn't know. AMH is 1.97 which is fine for my age, but very low for fertility. She said OH's SA was fine, she said it was obviously up to us but she didn't recommend assisted conception due to my age, the odds are just too low. So I said we had already decided about DE and she said that was what she was going to suggest.

She said we should put our name down for their Egg sharing list. We can have the treatment at Brighton, which would be very convenient. They don't do egg donation though at Brighton just egg sharing. . I am not sure what the difference is between egg donor and egg sharing though. She was vague about the differences (you could tell she wanted us to stay at the Agora), apart from saying you only get half the eggs with egg sharing. So surely it's a better option to go with an egg donor?

Anyway, she said for us to carry on TTC naturally and to take DHEA, which I already have at home but not taken yet and to let her know if we want to be put on the list, with our requirements. It's £5300, plus meds, would be between £6k & £7k for egg sharing at the Agora.

I think we will try another couple of clinics for consultations (I know we will have to pay again), that do egg donation as well as egg sharing. I need to have as much as info as possible.

Which choice is better, egg donor, or egg sharing? Just when I thought I had got my head around something...something else pops up!!

Sorry for ramble, thought things would be clearer after the appointment.

 

[sarahincanada]

hi everyone!! I havent read any of the posts yet but will catch up later...

just got back from my scan, everything looks good and heartbeat good she wasnt that friendly, its just an imaging place in town that the midwife sends you too. She said the HB was normal 'in the 150's', all other measurements etc get sent back to the midwife. The sheet said 1.2mm Nuchal Translucency and 50mm/5cm Crown to Rump.

I also went for blood after as part of the integrate screening, those results wont come back till after I do the 2nd round at 16 weeks.

heres the pic! it looked better on screen and we could see a lil hand by its face, but this photo isnt that great. hey you should all share your 12 week scan photos!! Im actually only 11 weeks 3 days judging by my last measurement, or she said 11 weeks 1 day judging by the transfer date.

So just a couple weeks until Im officially in 2nd tri

 

[heavenly]

That's lovely, Sarah. Congratulations.

 

[hockey24]

Wow Sarah! That is amazing!! I didn't even realize you were at 12 weeks already. Time flies! Beautiful!!!

Heavenly - I would definitely explore your options because you want to feel the most comfortable you can with the choices that you make and that begins with the doctor / clinic. If you do egg sharing - then you will have limited eggs right? If you do egg donor, then you will have all the eggs she produces to choose from and to freeze. I think if I was going the expense of an egg donor, I want all the eggs that go with it!

Buster - good luck Wednesday! The exciting process is just beginning for you!

 

[LLbean]

Sarah!!!!!!!!!

 

[hockey24]

Thanks LL, I'll take a look. I'm one of those people who loves information so the more I can find out the better.

Hockey good luck with your MRI. I've been through fibroid surgery it's been a few years but if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Hope all you lovely ladies are having a good day. AFM not much going on just getting ready for my IVF teaching class on Wednesday. It's from 1 to 4pm so I guess they have a lot of info to give us or does it take that long to go over how to use the meds? Guess I'll have to wait til Wednesday to find out.

Buster - what type of surgery did you have? I'm having the robotic myomectomy next month. I'm curious on the down time from work. I'm not sure how much time to schedule off.

 

[Buster1]

Thanks LL, I'll take a look. I'm one of those people who loves information so the more I can find out the better.

Hockey good luck with your MRI. I've been through fibroid surgery it's been a few years but if you have any questions feel free to ask.

Hope all you lovely ladies are having a good day. AFM not much going on just getting ready for my IVF teaching class on Wednesday. It's from 1 to 4pm so I guess they have a lot of info to give us or does it take that long to go over how to use the meds? Guess I'll have to wait til Wednesday to find out.

Buster - what type of surgery did you have? I'm having the robotic myomectomy next month. I'm curious on the down time from work. I'm not sure how much time to schedule off.

I had an adominal myomectomy. This is when they do a cut right above the bikini line like a c section. With that I was in the hospital for 3 days including surgery day. I was out of work for 2 months, because I'm a flight attendant so I'm pretty active at work and had to be totally healed before I went back to work. If you have a desk job you could probably go back sooner. I don't know how many fibroids you have but I think that also played a part in my recovery. They were going in after 3 fibroids (1 the size of a grapefruit and 2 the size of oranges) but once they opened me up they found about 20 more smaller ones. So an operation that was suppose to take an hour to an hour and a half ended up taking almost 3 hours. So again I think that played a large part in my recovery. I hope some of this info helps you out Hockey.

Congrats Sarah that's a lovely ultra sound pic. You must be over the moon and 2nd tri is right around the corner.

Heavenly, I think you're doing the right thing about getting a second opinion, because this is a process you want to be totally comfortable before you get started. Good luck and I look forward to hearing how everything goes.