anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[Milty]

I can pretty much tell you I have to know...I mean I have to have to know...I can't wait and will probably pay out of pocket for a couple private scans early until I find out...

Also I would just like to mention that it drives me so crazy when people don't find out...even you guys I'm just dying to know what you are having...

I tried to bribe my sisters scan tech when she wouldn't find out...

 

[drsquid]

Crap crap crap. 2.3cm cyst on one side and a small one on the other. So no stims for me. I am going to Philly at the end of may so I'd have to miss 2 cycles which I don't want to do. New plan, us Monday to see if I'm growing a follicle despite the cysts then do an unmedicated cycle. If that doesn't work I'd have to skip a cycle anyway for ivf so... Now if I don't grow a follicle... And I have to skip this cycle entirely.. I'm pondering skipping the trip home. Tickets were pretty cheap and al though I know my parents would be sad, I think id just stress the whole time about how I should be cycling etc. I'm 39, I don't have time to step back and just take months off. I have to go by work for something else tomorrow. Pondering talking to doc about 2 wks of birth control to see
What happens rather than unmedicated. I realize we get into this spiral but... I just cant take 2 months off from trying. Seeing babies everywhere is killing me and every months
Chances are lower

 

[crystal443]

Milty- You'd get along great with my DH because he has to has to know as well So I guess you'll be finding out the gender

DrSquid-I would def find out about BCP if anything it puts you in suspended TTC so your not wasting eggs when you don't need to and your ovaries def need a break before IVF. Even with a break mine thought they were on permanant vacation

 

[hockey24]

Drsquid - I found that some time on BCP's really helped get rid of any cysts I had developed. So that might be a good thing for you and at the same time, prep you for IVF. And I don't blame you, I would probably think about skipping the trip as well - but get all the information you can first. Don't want to cancel a much needed vacation, if you can work around it.

AFM - had my surgery this morning and it went much better than they expected. They were able to do a lap / hysteroscopy and scrape out the fibroid rather than convert to the full on myomectomy - which is fantastic. I have pictures and it looks like they got it all out - just a small divot in my uterine wall now that will need to heal.

Also, while they were in there - they noticed that I have some endometriosis and scar tissue from an old appendectomy. The doctor feels these were contributors to my infertility and why I haven't been able to conceive naturally. Hate to hear that - but at the same time, nice to know there were some reasons for why I haven't been able to get that glorious BFP. Without this surgery - I never would have known.

I guess its a good thing we are on the IVF plan now since naturally clearly isn't going to work!!

 

[pagey]

Hi I am new to this I have had 2 ectopics and lost both tubes so I need IVF I was in denial for ages thinking I could create a miracle baby in that 1% region but now I have accepted defeat. I am going for my AMH test on 15th May and have been told that all the medical history is perfect so it all stands on my AMH results at the moment. I will be an egg donor too. I am 23. I am with Bourn Hall Colchester Clinic. I was wondering if anybody would be able to give me any info on the drug courses what it entails, the info pack said I would be on drugs for 10-12 weeks but that seems a very long time, does it sound correct to any of you? Babydust to all xxxxx

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah..yeah even white clothing is hard to come by here..we were looking around last weekend and even size 0000 is boy or girl, I think if I dig hard enough I can probably find a few things that could go either way I imagine if the scan person asks do we want to know? I won't be able to help myself

oh thats too bad, in our stores they usually have one or two non gender items and a million gender specific!!
I cant guarantee that I wont ask the tech when in the room doing the measurements (last time they had me come in first to do the technical stuff then got hubby)

 

[sarahincanada]

Also I would just like to mention that it drives me so crazy when people don't find out...even you guys I'm just dying to know what you are having...

drsquid, thats difficult. I had to take a month off between my fresh failed cycle and my FET and I was annoyed as was thinking I dont have much time. but look the FET worked so sometimes things are how they have to be.
I agree with hockey regarding bcp and cancelling the trip.

hockey so glad everything went well! so how long did they tell you not to BD for in the end? Im so excited for your IVF I think you will do great. I never really had a reason why I couldnt get preggers naturally or with IUIs, so I choose to believe my egg shells are hard and needed the IVF with ICSI.

 

[hockey24]

hockey so glad everything went well! so how long did they tell you not to BD for in the end? Im so excited for your IVF I think you will do great. I never really had a reason why I couldnt get preggers naturally or with IUIs, so I choose to believe my egg shells are hard and needed the IVF with ICSI.

The doctor said we could try again within a month or two - so I'm hoping by June we're onto another IVF cycle. It will be good to know that my uterus is perfect and just waiting for the right little bean to be transferred. I have an appointment next week to follow up so I can ask more questions. Unfortunately I had to rely on my DH to get the scoop as I was still out of it when the doctor made his rounds.

I totally agree with ICSI and Assisted Hatching for us "mature" ladies. Definitely good eggs in there - just need a little help going through the process.

 

[Buster1]

Hockey glad everything went well today.

 

[manuiti]

hockey - so glad today went well. Got everything crossed for you for this next one now that everything's in good working order.

DrS - my RE put me on bcp before I started my cycle and said that it somehow forces the best eggs to the front of the queue for when you start the ivf cycle. Worth a shot anyway...

 

[LLbean]

CONGRATS to you Manuiti!!!

 

[manuiti]

Thanks hun. Still very cautious & a bit nervous, but over the moon to see two pink lines for the first time in my life. Just keeping everything crossed that it sticks.

 

[drsquid]

well my current plan is.. us monday to see if i made a follie. while it feels kinda pointless to me plenty of people get pregnant with one egg (dare i say most people that arent us unlucky crew). if there is no follie.. well then that is when i have to ponder not going home and doing this as my skipped cycle. as far as i understand they start lupron etc the last week of the prior cycle before af. if i started bcp monday (with no follie) then did the 12 days, then af, then it would time PERFECTLY for the week i have off (the 22-31st). bah now im leaning back more towards that again...

 

[LLbean]

Manuiti may I ask...was it a natural or IVF BFP?

Never mind, just saw it...lol dates in Europe are backwards from here so you had a transfer on April 8th hehehe

 

[DaisyQ]

Congrats manuiti!!! So exciting.

 

[noasaint]

Crap crap crap. 2.3cm cyst on one side and a small one on the other. So no stims for me. I am going to Philly at the end of may so I'd have to miss 2 cycles which I don't want to do. New plan, us Monday to see if I'm growing a follicle despite the cysts then do an unmedicated cycle. If that doesn't work I'd have to skip a cycle anyway for ivf so... Now if I don't grow a follicle... And I have to skip this cycle entirely.. I'm pondering skipping the trip home. Tickets were pretty cheap and al though I know my parents would be sad, I think id just stress the whole time about how I should be cycling etc. I'm 39, I don't have time to step back and just take months off. I have to go by work for something else tomorrow. Pondering talking to doc about 2 wks of birth control to see
What happens rather than unmedicated. I realize we get into this spiral but... I just cant take 2 months off from trying. Seeing babies everywhere is killing me and every months
Chances are lower

Sorry drsquid I do know what you mean. I feel like everything is a race. We found out today we'll be doing ER in two months exactly to the day. I'm like that is way too far away!!!! AF should be here 2nd week of May and I wish we could start then. It's hard for me to get time off work, not sure what excuse I will make up to take a week off for ER and ET. I'm trying not to tell work people, things spread like wildfire there. And month end is a horrible time for me to take off, my boss is going to be pissed. Oh well.

 

[drsquid]

noasaint= yeah id not want to wait 2 months too... why two month wait? only really need 1 cycle off... yea once our schedule is made it is set in stone. id likely only take 1 day off (for er)

so one of my friends at the gym who is an instructor told me tonight she is pregnant. i thnk i looked like she slapped me. she wasnt trying etc. bah gues that makes me know that working out a ton isnt a problem cuase she does CRAZY amounts

bah i know it is stupid but does anyone have that weird fear like there are onky a certain number of pregnancies to go around and everytime someone gets pregnant that decreases your chances.. stupid right? but it almost feels like that as everyone i know gets pregnant around me

 

[sarahincanada]

drsquid I definitely dont think that, but I do feel that everything happens for a reason and you get pregnant when you are supposed to, when the little soul is ready. I was upset when my fresh cycle of ivf failed, i was thinking wow 2 years, 3 IUIs and now still not pregnant after ivf. I was seriously thinking perhaps none of my frosties will be good either. but look 2 months later my FET worked. Look at how Crystal got pregnant after IVF. and another girl on here had 5 failed IUIs and got pregnant with twins on the 6th... how random is that, why did all the others not work and then x2. for some reason that was her magic month. so when you are feeling like others are taking away your chance just remember you never know when it will be your month and what is around the corner. and when it happens you will forget all the ttcing heartbreak.

 

[crystal443]

I agree with everything Sarah said you forget in seconds how long you waited when you see that BFP. We tried 14 years for this little bean, did clomid, IVF and nothing. On a natural cycle it happened We tried a while with DD as well and used clomid but DS we got pregnant first try and we used clomid so very random.

I remember Sarah was convinced none of her eggs were good, and was convinced she would have to do another frozen cycle and was deciding to put 2 back The FS we used this time told me to treat every month like a potential month for a BFP regardless of infertility or whatever. He specializes in low AMH and difficult cases and he told us from the begining that he has seen some awesome things in his career and has seen BFP's from women he didn't think possible.

I'm a big believer in it will happen when its supposed to, for us we just appreciate this little bean so much and looking back we were so busy with Brooke and JD we would have just been fitting another in but now we have the time again to really enjoy this little one The timing is perfect for us

 

[hockey24]

So looks I'm cleared to go back on the IVF train in June! Egg retrieval the week of the 18th. Of course, I have to make it through the base line scan and bloodwork but my uterus should be healed from surgery as early as my next cycle!! Amazing!!

Feels good to be back on plan and moving forward!

drsquid - how did your scan go on Monday? How did the follies look? What's the plan?