Anyone over 35 want a buddy?

[chysantheMUM]

Lol Bann1126 me too! Woke up yesterday to OH snuggling upto me and I could feel that he had wood and all I could think was no, no, no its too early for that kind of business, so I got up and dressed before he started getting frisky. I didn't tell himwhat I was thinking and I felt a little guilty but I was thinking the same as you, that it would have been a waste Trouble is there is no guarantee that he didn't relieve himself after I left anyway, so I'm not convinced it was the right thing to do now Ah well, like you say, its only a matter of days then he can have as much as he wants

 

[Leeze]

ChysantheMum and Bann - you're making me laugh out loud!!! Actually, I'm doing the opposite! We're doing the sperm meets egg plan this month so I'm planning to start our onslaught of tonight. My OH hasn't been feeling well the last couple of days and has got lots on at work. I started my master plan this morning when I put on my best sexy underwear and have been texting him about if ever since!!

xx

 

[Irish9yo]

Hi Bann, Yes tested this am got BFN ( been a bit crampy today feel like AF is coming had tiny amount of spotting too dark brown - was almost getting my hopes up for Implantation bleeding but I normally get spotting before the witch turns up so secretly holdign out hope but at the same time telling myself that this mth is out. What cycle day are you on? I know the feeling we forget sometimes about our DH's mine is being a trooper but the stress has affected him sometimes it can get a bit robotic. The only thing is that coming up to BD time the possibilities are all in front of you and it is a new cycle it is the 2WW that is the killing part of it. Will test 2moro am and see - going away on a girls wknd the 20th of Nov so if I miss this cycle I am going to have myself a big glass of nice Merlot . Hope this is your cycle - fingers crossed

 

[Irish9yo]

p.s. Sticky dust to everyone hope yee are all on track this cycle fingers crossed for yee all.

 

[ttc1st_at_40]

you girls are silly ones!! haha!!

CD 13 for me... still on highs on the CBFM...myself doing the every other day thinging too..right now....until I get a positive OPK which is perfect cause we are going into the weekend, so we dont have those darn work schedules to go by !!! yayaya for me... not so yayayaya for my husband though!! haha..I did already warned the hubby... save up your energy for this week... of course he likes to jump in the sac as much as the next guy...but I think he is starting to feel used... we never BD like this before we were married... haha (which has only been since June of this year)

 

[Irish9yo]

TTC1st they get used to being used it is mad I said to my OH last nite I think I am out I had a some spotting and he turned to me as cool as you like and said "Oh that is a bit early isn't it - should be next wk" it is scary to think that he finally knows my cycle or indeed what a cycle is . Bit down today BFN this mornin and much heavier spotting but have to hold out til the last 2 c if I am definately out. Happy BD to all - I think there is a nice glass of wine with my name on it this mth )

 

[future_numan]

:wave:Hi Ladies..Can I join y'all.
I am 38 yrs old and DH is almost 42 yrs old. We are trying to conceive our second. We are only on our first month. We had alot of trouble conceiving Emily and ended up using IUI + fertility drugs to have her. We are hoping to conceive au' natural this time as I have not returned to work so we lost my health insurance that covered some of the fertility treatments.

 

[bann1126]

Hi future_numan! Welcome!

Irish9yo - So sorry you have not got your BFP! I am still holding out hope for you. But if AF gets you then you definitely deserve a big glass of wine!! Or two!

ChysantheMUM - I did not even think about my OH relieving himself! LOL!! Oh well if he does. What can we do? BD is going to start tonight for us. I have not said one word about the important time for us to BD or told him he better be ready. Last night he mentioned starting tonight. I think he finally understands the importance of timing. Finally!

Leeze - I may have to take another tip from you and do some lingerie shopping! It has been a while since I have put on anything new. And the dirty texting! Good idea! Of course that would be so out of the norm for us my husband would have no idea what to think. He would probably laugh at it rather than get turned on. LOL.

ttc1st_at_40 - hope you get that positive OPK soon!

I have been crazy busy at work today. It kept my mind off everything all day thank goodness. I am going to try and stay off the internet this weekend. You guys have a wonderful weekend and enjoy your BD'ing time!!

 

[ttc1st_at_40]

bann1126

your right... I never thought of what ChysantheMUM said either... what if my hubby is doing the same thing (relieving him self) that lit bugger he better not be !!! I wonder if I should try to ask him !! haha

so as of today still a high on the CBFM, and no darn + OPK, and CD 14 for me ughhhh! I am usually super regular... (usually) and get my +OPK on CD 11,12 and a peak on the OPKs like 13,14 at the latest!!!

I did go see my OB/GYN today and talked about TTC, he gave me a script to start Clomid next month at 50 mg (said to try this for 3 months only) then I should go see a FS right away. He also gave me a script to have my hubby go get his SA. So moving in the right direction on this TTC journey... I just dont want to go the FS mostely because it is $$$$ and dont think the hubby will want us to spend that money. ugghhh just hope it happens naturally !!!

But i think Im still in the running this Cycle... gonna bd like crazy this weekend (I hope)

wish me luck!!! and all ya girls have a nice weekend !! we are getting our first snow fall this weekend fun fun NOT !! haha

 

[Irish9yo]

Hi Girls totally bummed out BFN this am and very heavy spotting and cramping totally annoyed more than anything else. Numna always nice to have other peoples experiences and to offer support where we can - best of luck with it. Bann as always thanks for the kind words TTC1 everyone is different but Clomid long term can affect the lining of your womb so I think your OB is right 3mths max - I know I am not a doctor but my RE (FE) was shocked that I was on it for 6mths the lining of my womb was only 3mm at OV. On the other hand in terms of ovulation it was great I had really high 21 day progestern so as long as it is monitored it can be really great. Totally not trying to scare monger you and as I said everyone is different but it is something to bear in mind - I would totally get scanned after 3mths to make sure . Was my little scallywag's bday 2day she was 3yrs cannot believe it - princess party for her tomorrow - wishing you all a fantastic weekend - back on the injectibles next week !!!!!

 

[Leeze]

Hi everyone and welcome to future_numan!

Irish, I'm still holding out some hope for you this month - heavy spotting could still be IB. I've read that IB can last for 2-3 days sometimes. And if it is IB then you would still be getting BFN for a couple of days, I'd imagine? Fingers crossed for you

TTC1st - good that you've been able to start some treatment. I think sometimes this in itself can help reduce the stress/worry. My OH and I went to a Fertility Show today in London and I feel much better from talking to a few specialists and listening to a couple of lectures. I didn't really learn anything new, mainly just to hear things directly from specialists was really helpful.

Bann - the texts to my OH only worked so far! Unfortunately he still wasn't feeling too well later that day so it was a case of "the spirit is willing but the flesh is week". He's still not feeling great today so I've told him to have a lie down for a couple of hours just now to get his energy up for later!!

ChysantheMUM - funny - re our OH's relieving themselves. I asked mine the other day because we hadn't DTD for about a week and I was wondering about whether his swimmers were fresh enough - he said he hadn't done so the last time they were "released" was when we DTD. I was surprised he hadn't done!!! I think it's good to talk about stuff like this though. One of the specialists I heard speaking today said you should DTD 2-3 times a week and they shouldn't relieve themselves in between. My OH was ok with that - but I think this is under the understanding we stick to DTD 2-3 times a week! Sounds like a lovely idea in theory but in practice we're both really busy and often exhausted after commuting and working all day.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend everyone! Wishing you all lots of luck and baby dust xx

 

[Irish9yo]

Hi Girls hope your wknd is going well, BFN this am but still no real AF still have a lot of dark discharge (sorry if TMI) but not so much cramping. I did the test waited the 3min there was nothing but left it on the back of the loo I did check it later this morning and there was a very a super faint line now I mean I had to hold it up to the light. Nearly sure it is an evap line but it hard not to hang on to any little hope. If I was then I woudl be worried about the heavy spotting - can't win . Happy BDing to yee all. Will check 2moro to see what the story is might use a CB digital this time to be sure will be 12 DPO - njoy the rest of the wknd!

 

[ttc1st_at_40]

hi girlies hope your having a nice weekend...

so Irish... little story for you... not sure if AF showed up full force for ya or not, but….my friend who is 4 months preg, said she did her first round of Clomid, then come the week before AF was due she got ALL AF signs, bloating cramping and then a BFN, then 2 days of spottinng and on 2nd day spotting stopped, and she tested and got her BFP!!! so long story short... is "its not over until the FAT LADY sings" !!!

Leeze-yep I may have to start pulling some "tricks" now too.. and some lingerie may be in my very near future.. this timed bding unfortunately is getting less and less intimate, I am starting to feel bad for my new hubby (we have only been married since june) so already bding is starting to feel more like a job than us being intimate... I know there is a job to be done here..but I dont want to take all the joy out of our "making love" ya know what I mean ?

Chrysmum..I have just recently been thinking the same thing as you... I dont know if it is just my mind playing tricks on me but I really do believe that my menstrual symptoms have increased since TTC, I have never been so crampy and moody before all this TTC

Bann-will this be your first month on Preseed? this is my first month on Conceive Plus (another brand of miracle lube) and I just love the feel of it, and the idea of in as well to help with the swimmers..also I really do love my CBFM, I soooo needed it to really learn my cycle days...p.s. hows your new promotion ?

FutureNu..so just starting out again on this TTC journey…hope its not a long one for ya…that’s nice that you were able to get some assistance with fertility treatments with your first child. Where I am.. US/Pennsylvania, virtually nothing that involves a Fertility Specilist is covered by insurance. I did get a script for Clomid from my OB/GYN but that is the extent he can go with out referring me to a FS. I will try that next month if AF gets me this month.

So now for an update on me...I finally got my peak on my CBFM yesterday… which is a few days later than what I have been the last couple months…but anyway this month I really wanted us to try to stick to the SMEP so last week I had told hubby… the “deal” we are going to do every other day then 3 days in a row. So we were doing the every other day… then since I thought Thursday evening is when I’d get my OPK, we started on Thursday the 3 days in a row deal…So plan was (thurs-Sat) so we started BD on thurs, but still not +opk, then did Friday anyway.. hoping the +opk would come Fri, but it did NOT… !!

but now that I only hit my peak yesterday (saturday) we have to go 3 days in a row from Saturday…(which would now mean sat-mon) yikes... so in theory that would have us going every night thrs-mon... he is not a happy camper now... getting a little frustrated with me….literally said… “ I am not a machine” and I doubt he will keep to the plan cause now that would make 5 days in a row…and I really do understand this is getting to be too much for him… BUT this month I really really really wanted to be super confident we did “EVERYTHING” RIGHT…and the 3 days in a row after a positive opk was something I really wanted to be sure we did this cycle…I have to really pull some magic to make sure we BD tonight and tomorrow… wish me luck girls.

 

[Irish9yo]

Girls I am out very upset today, one of my friends announced she was preggers this mornin with her 3rd don't get me wrong I am thrilled for her as I would be for anyone but I just feel robbed personally myself I am sure this will pass and I will be back to OK let's try again mode but today totally withered with the whole thing - now have to face in to sticking myself with injections for 2wks. TTC1st thanks for the words of encouragment I know that sometimes you just have to stay positive and it will happen but unfortunately not for me this month. My husband was the same this cycle he was totally stressed out and pissed off I think we just have to humour them a little - hang in there this could be your month - sticky dust to you and to all. Hope all had a nice weekend!

 

[Irish9yo]

Girls I am in a state of shock got my BFN this morning and went off to the gym had been abstaining ran 3miles sweated it out and then went off in to the Sauan for 15min don't know what came over me but the spotting had subsided a bit so went and got a FRER did that about 20min ago a got a super faint positive - I was so down last night I had a glass of wine AGHHHHHHHHHHHHH might be pregnant totally petrified that I have done something totally stupid - sorry I know I am being totally OTT but in a total blind panic. I am in with the doctor first thing for a Beta blood test will let yee know how I get on. TTC1st you are right should never really count yourself out until the very last minute & really I should have aired on the side of caution but I was so sure! Fingers crossed for me xxx

 

[Irish9yo]

Well couldn't resist did another CB test and has come up positive 1-2wks pregnant guys I am so totally petrified anyway I know there is nothing I can do now except really look after myself and hope that everything turns out OK but just goes to show have two HCG's booked so will let you knwo how that progresses! Best of luck to everyone

 

[Leeze]

Wowee! Irish, I was just about to post some sympathy about finding out your friend in pregnant and then I saw the later post!!!! Congratulations - very exciting! Let us know how it goes at the doctors.

I'm in a great mood today as my OH and I have booked a consultation with Zita West as I've discovered she's got a centre not far from my work!! It's quite pricey but we figured it's worth seeing an expert at this stage given our ages and that we've not been able to get a referral yet via the GP. I'm also going back to my GP to try to get a referral on the NHS as I met the Medical Director from my local fertility clinic at the Fertility Show we went to at the weekend. He said we should get referred after 12 months of TTC. We're on month 11 at the mo so I figure maybe a little white lie would be ok!! We haven't quite managed to BD as much as we'd like to this month but I haven't got a positive OPK yet, am expecting this tomorrow or Wednesday - so we're definitely still in the running for this coming month

xx

 

[Irish9yo]

Thanks Leeze appreciate it, brill news about seeing the expert it is always so reassuring never told the truth really about how long we were trying little white lie won't hurt anyone if it gets you closer to your goal. One good test is the FHS test which you normally take day 3 it will tell you how fertile you are so you know if you need to push hard about seeing a RE - sorry if you already know this just thought it was useful to know - bear in mind the result can be affected by being on Clomid. Good thing is you can just go to the nurse for the test so it is not as pricey! Sitting here in totally disbeliefe

 

[ttc1st_at_40]

WOW !! Irish !!! awesome awesome news... so ok you had like 2 days? of discharge? or was it spotting ?

see you get some girls that never have any IB or spotting or discharge, they just go straight to a bfp... but in your case...the spotting etc...I heard this does happen a lot... and a lot of girls count them self out.. too soon!!!

now what exact day is/was AF due ?


Leeze, great news on your consult visit... betcha so looking foward to that huh ? just every month we have to give our selves hope in the next month ya know ?

like me this month I started conceive plus, and taking EPO/Flax Seed.. and doing the SMEP....so last month when AF came, I already had a plan for the next cycle... now if AF comes this cycle... I got Clomid and my hubbys SA set up for next Cycle... and so far dont have the following cycle planned out yet...but I am sure I'll come up with something hahaha!!

so off the TWW period for me... gosh this is going to be hard... my typical Luteal Phase has been 11-12 days... (still kinda on the low side, but hear over 10 days is ok) but for some reason last month was only 9-10 days.. has me a little worried to be honest...lets hope I atleast get 11 days in this cycle...

 

[Irish9yo]

TTC1st hang in there I am sure it is fine, for me I am 13DPO today CD28 was due tomorrow. I started to spotting a little day nine DPO almost black but 10DPO it was quite heavy alomost like AF there was some blood but mostly the black discharge mostly when I went to the loo - sorry if TMI but wore a panty liner that day - I have continued to have spotting even this morning but not as heavy that is why I totally counted myself out given the BFN and the spotting. Just praying now that I haven't done any damage - at the end of the day can't do anything now except live like a nun (as my doctor would say) and pray that it works out - having a MC makes you so wary but I am also thrilled!!!!! I used fertile aid and fertile CM super positive results although they do tell you not to take Fertile Aid if you are on Clomid (not sure why). Sounds like you are doing everything right it will happen for you!!!!!