anyone really want a baby??

[ella170]

just to brighten the atmosphere lol..in third world countries, the babies parents manage to raise them with just clothes, food and shelter. tbh, a baby isn't going to die if it doesn't have a cot, buggy or if you bought it's stuff off ebay or got hand me downs off one of your friends..but then wouldn't you want to give your baby the best you can

 

[armychicmkm]

Oh and figuring in the cost of maternity clothes! My belly decided to finally pop out a little yesterday and I have nothing. My current stuff is thisclose to not being able to fit!

To me you do sound like you're fairly ready to settle down. Some of us just always are. Other people have made very valid points about their OH's doing complete 180s when they found out their pregnant and suddenly finding themselves on their own. I'd start focusing mostly on finances... when those get straight and it looks like you can genuinely afford a baby on your own, without relying on your parents - then good luck.

 

[brewanneanan]

just to brighten the atmosphere lol..in third world countries, the babies parents manage to raise them with just clothes, food and shelter. tbh, a baby isn't going to die if it doesn't have a cot, buggy or if you bought it's stuff off ebay or got hand me downs off one of your friends..but then wouldn't you want to give your baby the best you can

obviously would, hence the, "i am not bringing my child up in a council estate"
sorry and again i mean no offence buy this, i'd just prefer not too. and yeah it would have the best but im sure evene for anyone a few handy me downs in the early years wouldn't be too bad

 

[trishawootton]

i always wanted a baby since i was 14 but i made sure i had my OH (who wud stick by me) and sum kind of steady income although im not on great money atm im training to be a teaching assistant so i shud have a bit more money when i qualify although i will have to put it on hold until i can find suitable childcare and when i feel we can afford childcare

 

[armychicmkm]

this money problem comes up alot hahah, i will make sure were financially ready to TTC. although thats not gonna stop me wanting one lol.

I wouldn't expect it to stop you from wanting one! You have no control over wanting one. It's one of those things that's a blessing and a curse

 

[brownhairedmom]

Oh and figuring in the cost of maternity clothes! My belly decided to finally pop out a little yesterday and I have nothing. My current stuff is thisclose to not being able to fit!
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I've been living in yoga pants for the last 5 weeks hah. Invest, they're comfy

 

[AppleBlossom]

does your work not pay you on maternity leave?? and your partner isnt bringing in much he should ask his job for a pay rise and i thought youd get some kind of benefit when on maternit leave/....do you not?

He's only part time at the minute as he's just graduated from uni. And I might be entitled to maternity allowance but I'm not entitled to maternity pay.

Also in reponse to Ella, it's true, babies in third world countries survive without cots and stuff but this isn't the third world and babies shouldn't be expected to struggle, after all babies in those countries survive on barely any food a day and you wouldn't expect the same here. But I see where you're coming from.

 

[brewanneanan]

i always wanted a baby since i was 14 but i made sure i had my OH (who wud stick by me) and sum kind of steady income although im not on great money atm im training to be a teaching assistant so i shud have a bit more money when i qualify although i will have to put it on hold until i can find suitable childcare and when i feel we can afford childcare

i've been with my oh since i was 15, there is no way hes leaving me haha, i know that for fact, the relationship is just perfect everything about it tbh. i feel so comfortabe with him and him with me, its all fine,

 

[armychicmkm]

i've been with my oh since i was 15, there is no way hes leaving me haha, i know that for fact, the relationship is just perfect everything about it tbh. i feel so comfortabe with him and him with me, its all fine,

Wow - Can you send him to me? I'm beginning to think my husband likes pissing me off.

 

[brewanneanan]

Wow - Can you send him to me? I'm beginning to think my husband likes pissing me off.

haha well offcourse he pisses me off sometimes hes male haha, but never enough for me to be angry, he only pisses me off joking....and ofcourse if he cant do something right it's my fault, but what man really takes the blame for himself hah

 

[Kerryanne]

I would say wait until you live with him, and finish college because u don't really know someone till you live with them.

I think you really want to have one and not what anyone saying is going to make any different ??

 

[brewanneanan]

I would say wait until you live with him, and finish college because u don't really know someone till you live with them.

I think you really want to have one and not what anyone saying is going to make any different ??

nah tbh it has made a difference, i'm thinking more about the money side of things and i do live with him, just not us 2 on our own, although most of the time it is. but yeah he lives with me, he just tells his mum he still lives at home so she doesnt get upset, although he hasnt stayed at home for atleast a year lol

 

[armychicmkm]

There are so many things to consider. I know if I would have had people to chat with like this I would have waited a little bit longer. I'm done with school in Feb. - baby's due in Nov. I wish I would have waited till I graduated now. Hindsight 20/20 right?

 

[Blah11]

I really have a problem with unstable teens TRYING to conceive. It's a different story if it happens by accident but I really hope you're sensible and don't actively try to get pregnant. Having a baby is such hard work and your baby deserves you to be completely ready, + thats financially as well as emotionally. If you and your OH care about eachother as much as you think then you can try for a baby in a fw years when you're more settled.

 

[brewanneanan]

i'm not TTC i just wanted some advice.

 

[Blah11]

Okay There is a lot of teens who actively try to get pregnant though always see them on maury and stuff and after they actually have to look after a baby for a few hours, they change their mind.

 

[brewanneanan]

Okay There is a lot of teens who actively try to get pregnant though always see them on maury and stuff and after they actually have to look after a baby for a few hours, they change their mind.

haha oh god maury makes me laugh so hard haha honestly i do not want t be like any of them!!! re you american?? in england we have jeremy kyle, its just as bad, but no i'm not TTC just thinking about future and planin my life, it's ok.

 

[armychicmkm]

Personally I think it's great that you came looking for actual advice and seem to be taking it into consideration. That's what we're here for!

 

[Blah11]

Nah I'm from Scotland lol I just watch itv2 and living a lot LOL

+ good, just wait a few years. By then you'll be ready and you'll be an even better mother than you would be now.

 

[Sparky0207]

i've been with my oh since i was 15, there is no way hes leaving me haha, i know that for fact, the relationship is just perfect everything about it tbh. i feel so comfortabe with him and him with me, its all fine,

Not meaning to put a downer on things here but I was with someone when I was your age and thought that everything was perfect and that we'd be together forever and ever but sadly it very rarely works out that way as people sometimes grow up and grow apart.

I was in a similar situation in that I was quite broody but I thank god that I waited a few years before actually putting it into action. Glad that you are looking for advice before making a decision.