Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[Munchkin30]

Do I track ovulation?!? If you had been near any if my ttc threads you'd find this hilarious!! I use the fertility monitor too, and opks and chart on fertility friend. I've even tried saliva testing but that was a total failure!! After my last misvarriage my first cycle was 10 days longer than normal but they were largely back to normal the next 3 cycles when I conceived. This time I'm only cd9 and we can't ttc this month. I'd love to but after such a late loss I know my body needs time to recover and if we fell straight away and anything happened I'd never forgive myself. But we will be starting next month. So sick of ttc, it's really not even fun anymore.
On the subject of being preoccupied by B and B, my dd is going mental upstairs as I write this! Better go....

 

[JASMAK]

Yes...I did and had to go on Clomid, but luckily I got pregnant right away after that so it wasn't too bad. But third one I lost three pregnancy (one was a set of twins) and it took 4 years for us to successfully get pregnant with the help of fertility. My husband had only 3% sperm

 

[donnarobinson]

So sorry for all ur losses girls. I'm not trying to conceive number 2 anymore but just wanted to say I tried for 3 years for my 1st and I thought I'd be happy and I wouldn't let ttc number 2 consume me , but it did . Nothing takes away the longing for a child even if u have one already.. It took us 13 months for number 2.. So altho stil a while a lot less then number one. It can happen at any time ! Ino its hard but stay positive, ino I wanted to scream when people would say that2 me , but I'm sure you'll all get ur bfps soon ! Lots of baby dust to you all girls x

 

[Angelbaby_01]

Hi!

We are having a hard time as well. DD is 2 years and 3 months old and we hoped to have a baby by the time she is 2 and a half years old. Sadly I lost my baby in December and this was the 2nd loss since DD is born. I am currently on my 4th cycle since D&C and don't see it happening soon.

 

[Munchkin30]

Oh girls lots of sad stories here but also lots of hopeful ones too! I think it seems like we will all get to our number 2 take home babies but we just have to be patient and not go nuts in the mean time which is the hard bit! I don't think any of us will ever give up though. I truly believe my next pregnancy will be my rainbow baby, if I didn't I'd never be able to carry on! Massive all xxx

 

[Hammy58]

*raises hand*

Currently trying to conceive #2. We are only on are second cycle of trying. However, I'm anticipating a long wait as it took us a couple years to conceive our first son. We had a molar pregnancy and another miscarriage in that time. Then last August we had a surprise pregnancy that sadly ended after finding a good heartbeat via ultrasound.

I HATE how TTC feels like it totally takes over your life!! I am a bit obsessive about it all. Monitor, opk's, temping, researching, etc. etc. Phew. I got winded just typing all that.



Here's to quick BFP's for all of us!!

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi hammie58!! If it's any help I know a couple who took 2 years to conceive no 1 and then got pregnant when no 1 was only 6 months because they thought they didn't need to bother with contraception as it would take so long! I know another couple that took 7 months first time then accidentally got pregnant before her first period second time!

I know what you mean about being totally obsessed with ttc. I go crazy. I've banned myself from temping this time. Can't believe it'll be the 3rd time we've ttc number 2. We've so far been ttc number 2 for 9 cycles (plus 33 weeks of being pregnant) I'm so so over ttc now. I quite fancied 3 babies but once we've got our second I suspect I'll be happy to never ever ttc or do the first half of oregnancy ever ever again.

 

[Tess.ie]

I'm not entirely sure that I can say we are struggling just yet, but certainly my "ideal" gap of 2 years has slipped away.

After deciding in nov to try in January, we got lucky completely accidentally in December. Sadly that ended in mc at the end of January. So feb was out while we waited for the first af (well I wouldn't have waited but DH wanted to follow the doctors orders!!) and now we have missed this month because DH was too tired to dtd the one night he needed to!
He promises he is totally on board about wanting to make a baby, but I can't get him to understand that there is a very tiny window for conception each month. It took 6 months to concieve dd because he was so reluctant to dtd at the right time! So I suspect this could be another frustrating wait.

 

[Munchkin30]

I know how you feel Tess! I got so sick of nagging at my oh to come up with the goods. He just didn't get why we couldn't wait til tomorrow when I was ovulating TODAY!! In the end we ended up doing it with the turkey baster method when he was too tired to really DTD!! I think this time he is more committed so I'm aiming to do the sperm meets egg plan this time. Just got to get this stupid first cycle out of the way!!

 

[Foogirl]

you know the worst bit though? I was on Cerazette and was extremely fortunate that I didn't have any of the monthly misery at all not even spotting. So every month for 2 years I've had not only the disappointment of no BFP but also facing a week of abject misery and I'm sure Mr and Ms Foo dread it too

 

[dlj2]

Yep currently trying for no.2 for the past few months. It took us 4 years to get my lovely daughter and variouse tests & procedures, so I'm ready for the long wait again this time. Desperate hoping not to get to that stage where it consumes your every thought like before. Lots of luck to each and every one of you and so sorry for your losses. I too have had early losses but some of your stories well my heart goes out to you.xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks dlj2. It's hard and after losses at 12 and 21 weeks I feel like we've had our share of bad luck, but we've been extremely lucky having one beautiful healthy babe and that we don't seem to have too many problems getting pregnant (although 2 or 3 months into ttc each time I feel like I must be totally barren!!)
My heart breaks for the ladies who try for years then get a bfp and then a loss. They have no idea if they'll get pregnant again. I pray we don't have any serious ttc issues this time.

 

[slg76]

Hi Munchkin. Just joining in to hear what these other ladies have to say. My dd is 3.5 and we have been trying for almost two years. I completely understand what you say about missing out on your first child while you are busying obsessing about getting pregnant. I feel like I do the same sometimes. I try to keep it in check and remember to focus on the awesome child that I already have. It's hard some days. I'm a pretty obsessive person and I find that letting myself research something or take another HPT actually helps me to then push it to the back of my mind and focus on other things.

I agree that TTC is no fun. It's really just a chore and it dictates our sex life. Luckily hubby is just as invested as I am and is "on call" whenever I need. I always thought I would have several kids but now I just really want to have a second (so dd has a sibling) and be done with it. I really DON"T have 15 years left in me I'm already 37.

 

[Munchkin30]

Hi sig :waves: I agree. I wanted 3 but once I've got my rainbow I'm done, I can't ever go through this again. Although I'll always feel like my Rowan was my second child (or indeed third for my 12 week angel - but it didn't feel like a real baby like Rowan was)
I'm only (!?!) 33 but once I have 2 babies I need to not come down this road ever again or I'll be miserable forever!!

 

[slg76]

Munchkin, I really hope we both get our rainbows very soon and can move permanently away from ttc stress.

 

[Munchkin30]

Hooray to that!!

 

[Munchkin30]

How is everyone doing today? X

 

[Foogirl]

How is everyone doing today? X

not pregnant.....and just read that someone who wasn't even trying is pregnant with their third

Happy for them if they are happy, but it just makes this trying business a bit more irritating!

 

[Munchkin30]

Foo girl I totally understand. I've dumped 2 people on Facebook this week for putting scan pictures up!!

 

[Foogirl]

Foo girl I totally understand. I've dumped 2 people on Facebook this week for putting scan pictures up!!

Lol, I'm not quite at that stage yet. Having had a premmie, who went on to be a child with a disabilty, if I dumped everyone who had posted normal pregnancy, birth and development stuff with their children I'd have no friends left!

I've had to develop a pretty thick skin