Anyone struggling to get baby number 2??

[Mrs W 11]

Hi munchkin, I'm glad you had a nice weekend away! Was it your birthday? Happy birthday!

Do you think some of the tablets you took could have been responsible for Rowans heart defect? That's so scary, what did you take?

You definitely can ovulate and bleed at the same time as I did last cycle. I bled/spotted for 4 days over ov, and I know I did ov because of temping. It then stopped for 5 days, spotting came back on 5 dpo and full blown af came at 9 dpo so I didn't have 20 days bleed free and I got af. So I think you will be fine, what I leant was there are no rules after mc. Anything can happen sadly.

I had acupuncture again today. I'm 5dpo and have been really crampy today with pinchy feelings, it's been stressing me out because I started spotting this time last cycle but no spotting so far, just creamy cm. I'm just so relieve this cycle has so far been so much more normal than last. Touch wood!!!

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks mrs w x I don't know of anything I took might have caused it but I'm certainly not risking it ever again! I was taking prenatals and omegas and I think royal jelly and selenium and evening primrose (before ov) but stopped all but the prenatals when I got my bfp. I did take a cocodamol tablet and some antihistamines in early pregnancy too. But the antihistamines were the type prescribed for morning sickness. I just don't want to be in a position where I doubt myself again though.
It's the memorial service for the babies from the hospital where Rowan died on Thursday. I think it's sub consciously weighing on me because I'm really low tonight x

 

[Mrs W 11]

Sorry you are feeling low Hun. It's completely normal though as I'm sure you know. I felt up and down for ages, still do and my loss was obviously more like your first one, nothing like your recent one. Are you going to the memorial on Thursday?

Yes I see what you mean about not wanting to worry. You just can't help but wonder. My baby died at 7.5 weeks (didn't find out until 12 weeks) but I just kept thinking about what I was doing then that could have caused it. My cat died when I was 7 weeks and I was distraught, I was also ill with a virus. There will always be something you will wonder if contributed.

I hope you feel better soon Hun

 

[slg76]

Hi ladies.

Happy Birthday, Munchkin!! I'm glad you had a nice break.
I imagine every woman would wonder what went wrong but it doesn't sound to me like any of those things would have harmed Rowan. I think you had some old-fashioned bad luck Are you going to the memorial? MrsW I think you had some of that bad luck too. After watching women drink and do drugs throughout pregnancy and have perfectly healthy babies I can't imagine what we do causes harm.

I had some tissue from my mc (there was no baby to speak of). Hubby and I took it, put it inside a rose, and buried it next to a waterfall.

I agree with MrsW about the bleeding and Oing.

I'm doing fine. I can't pinpoint my O really this month but I think maybe yesterday or today? My signs aren't as clear as usual although I still got a little EWCM and a small surge on OPK. Hopefully I did O.

Heading out to a friend's house for some wine tonight. She found out today that over the weekend two different friends had a child pass away! An infant from SIDS and a 2 yo in a car accident. Horrible!!

 

[celine]

Happy belated birthday Munchkin xxx
Are you gong to the memorial on Thurs?i can imagine its at the back of your mind

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks mrs w and thanks celine. Yes we are going to the service, Rowan will be cremated there. At first I wasn't sure but I really need to go now, it's sort of completing the process. It's definitely hanging over me though, I'm pretty low and teary this week.

Sig that's lovely, waterfalls are so beautiful and peaceful. I didn't really think about it with my 12 week mmc but the remains were cremated and scattered at the same place Rowan's will be in a special garden in the crematorium.

The results of the post mortem will be back in a few weeks so we'll find out if we have a genetic marker for congenital heart problems or if it was part of a syndrome which will be useful.

I did my first hpt and opks today at cd24. The hpt was really faint and the opk was negative so it looks like my body's getting back to normal. By the last experience I haven't ov'd yet but should soon although I know every mc is different. What do you think ladies? The blue is hpt, green is opk Xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Although I'm STILL bleeding it was a bit of red stringy stuff today. Just go away already!!

 

[Button#]

The hpt looks like mine did on Sunday and on Friday my hcg was 70 so looks like you're nearly there. I hope the bleeding stops for you soon and I hope the memorial service gives you comfort.

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks hon. I had an hcg when the line was a bit fainter than this last time and my hcg was 40 and I ov'd less than a week later. Fingers crossed it won't take too long!!

 

[celine]

Hpt defnatly on the way to negative

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks celine. Still can't believe I'm back to chasing negative hpts after all we've been through I'm pretty positive most of the time but it still hits me sometimes xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

You are doing so well to be so positive munchkin, totally normal to have sad days now and then though

That's a good sign that your htp is very nearly negative now, I really hope you ovulate within the next couple of weeks. Good to know your cycle is going back to normal and you'll get that bfp before you know it.

X

 

[Foogirl]

Arrrrgh! Not pregnant again!

 

[slg76]

looks like your body is almost back on track, Munchkin. I read that a HCG of 30 is a common time to O after a mc. I think you are very close to cycling again.

I think you are being amazingly positive given all you are dealing with. Go ahead and let yourself be sad when you need to be. Some tears are healthy

 

[Munchkin30]

Thanks mrs w and sig I did a lovely exercise class tonight so I'm feeling good with a glass of wine now! Feeling positive about next time too. We'll have lots of specialist scans and feel more looked after. I read an article today about lobule phones causing birth defects. Me and oh both use our smart phones constantly so now I'm paranoid about that too

Foo so sorry are you on fresh start day today then I prefer that to cd1. It's always the worst day. The only way is up from here xx

 

[Munchkin30]

Foo I was just looking at the pics of your gorgeous dd. Get all her pics out and just wallow in her wonderfulness. Whatever else is happening you're still the luckiest mummy in the world

 

[slg76]

I like "fresh start" Munchkin. I think I will use that from now on.

Foo, glad you are getting a fresh start to your new cycle

 

[Foogirl]

Munchkin, we had an horrific weekend which involved a blue light to hospital with her and through the whole thing she displayed a bravery I can't even come close to matching. I have indeed spent the whole time since then wallowing in her fabulousness! (Including having her in my bed for 4 days!) Also, I really need to update those photos!

We also watched a bunch of her old videos with her tonight and she loved them and kept saying she couldn't wait until we had a baby that age again. Bless her she's being vary patient about it all!

Love the fresh start thing.

 

[Munchkin30]

So glad she's ok. That must have been terrifying. Our babies can be so brave sometimes. She'll appreciate the new baby even more as she gets older. I wish my dd would sleep in bed with us, she's such a fidget the excitement of being in bed with us would keep her awake all night! Love sleepy snuggles the best though. We occasionally nap together on the sofa and it's wonderful. We're all so lucky to be mummy's xx

 

[Foogirl]

So glad she's ok. That must have been terrifying. Our babies can be so brave sometimes. She'll appreciate the new baby even more as she gets older. I wish my dd would sleep in bed with us, she's such a fidget the excitement of being in bed with us would keep her awake all night! Love sleepy snuggles the best though. We occasionally nap together on the sofa and it's wonderful. We're all so lucky to be mummy's xx

One of the blessings that comes with her having cerebral palsy, she doesn't move that much at night. In fact right up until we took her out of her cot at 3 years old there was a dent in the matress where her head and her butt were